Help me please!?

Question

I went out on Friday and a stranger guy approached me and gave me his number. He seemed decent/nice and cute... I talked to him on the phone today and he seemed nice. He said he's 30 years old... even though he looked younger and I'm 18... and he said he's attracted to me and that's why he gave me his number. Is it a good idea to go out with him? I never went out with anyone before. Should I do it? And to those who just say no... please think that no men approached me before especially my age... I never dated and I'm pissed off that the the boys my age always stare at me and sometimes smile but they never ask me out. He seems decent and cute... He told me he never approached a girl like that before and that he thought I was beautiful and he didn't know what made him approach me but something pushed him.. So should I go out with him?

Answer 1

NOT YET........almost every guy says that he approached a girl for the first time and mostly its a lie.....u said that guys stare at u and smile that means u might be pretty...so don't worry ur just 18 and theres a lot of life to come.......many guys stare at pretty girls but dont approach them as they dont have that much guts...so dont think that they dont like u ..ok.......and abt this man u were telling ....according to me i feel he is a bit older than what u might require but if u have no problem with the age and are willing to continue the relation then just keep talking to him and know him more ......go out only when u really trust him...(BUT REMEMBER THAT WHATEVER A GUY TELLS IS NOT ALWAYS TRUE SO DONT THINK HE'S ALWAYS TELLING THE TRUTH , USE UR SENSE)

Answer 2

go for it. Meet him somewhere very public for a coffee and take it really slow. And if the age difference matters it will become apparent really early on, so dont stress about it.

Like some 30year olds have a wife, 2 kids, a mortgage, political aspirations and a job at a bank.
Others work as a snowboard instructor, travel the world and really haven't changed since their 20s.

If you have nothing to talk about, or feel intimidated by him or worship him and think he's just sooo wise, then he's too old for you. Otherwise, it could be really great!

Answer 3

Personally I think age is just a number. Not sure what the legal age is where you are, but in SC its 18 (legal adult).
Since you've only talked to this guy once on the phone and reguardless of how nice he seems. I would suggest you meet him somwhere public and take a freind with you. imean if hes really interested he shouldnt mind your freind tagging along, I also would suggest at your discretion to tell family where you will be at what time you plan to arrive and what time you plan to return home. This way if something goes wrong your freind could call for help, and your family would know that if you didnt return at your appointed time that something could be wrong..take a cell phone with you and keep in touch till you get to know this man.

Answer 4

You really need to approach this with caution. How do you know if he is safe or not? He could be an axe murderer for all you know. I know you are flattered by this man's advances and attention.

If you do decide to go out with him, meet him in a public place and let someone know where you are going. That way if you do end up missing, at least your next of kin can let the police who the suspect is. And NEVER, EVER invite him to your home unless you know him better and he isn't a psycho.

Answer 5

I would say no ,Chances are at 30 he HAS asked a girl out like that before . I would talk more on the phone first ,Get to know a little more about him then make your decision. And tell someone where your going and meet him there in your own car. Can't be to careful!

Answer 6

Listen, youre not a goddess in his eyes. He's 30 years old and he has never approached an 18 year old before? Please. What is a 30 year old doing with an 18 year old? Date someone your own age and have fun while you can. Dont mess around with guys who should be married, they can find people their own age as well.

Answer 7

I don't think that you should go out with him. He is a complete stranger maybe he is leading you to a trap ... rape you maybe but it's just an idea. He said that he like you maybe he's honest, but he might think that you are too desperate to go out with him (Which is true). Wait just a little longer. If he has your number he will call you back again. But don't call him before he do. ( Believe me I know )

Answer 8

it's your call .... but I'm not a big believer in the "I never did this type of thing before" line ... things seem to have been a little too contrived for my tastes ... meet him somewhere where there are a lot of people ... let him buy you dinner ... see how things go .... but always plan on getting home alone ... even if things go great and he really is Prince Charming ... plan to get home under your own steam
Good Luck

Answer 9

Best remain as friends on the phone, till you find out more about him. If you go out with him, go to somewhere crowded, not to any park or dark places, you are still young and can get cheated easily.

Remember, don't allow him to get to close to you physically, as he might take advantage of you. Always remember, keep your virginity for your wedding day, your husband would love you more.

If you need any advice further anytime, you may email to me, I am most willing to help or advise you.

Answer 10

i've never dated someone more than 2 yrs older than i am but something tells me it's worth a try.....who knows it might even last really long and be better than any relationship you'll ever have with someone your age cos the guy is matured and not primitive like most teenage boys are.goodluck..