Family & Relationships - 3 December 2007

i dont want a divorce but dont know what to do

2007-12-03 23:59:23 · 11 answers · asked by carjam1@sbcglobal.net 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I was with my husband 7 years before we got married 6 months ago. I know we had problems before we got married. We built a house, i moved away from family and friend and we both were under a lot of pressure. But we were strong and we both felt things would level out once married and had our own place. But things have got worse. I hardly see my husband. I am on my own most evening and have spent the last 6 months lonely and getting depressed. I have moved jobs and met new friends and adjusted well but my marriage is a mess. I have tried talking to my husband many times but he won't talk to me then I get upset and he leaves. He spends most evenings and weekends with his friends. I go to bed most nights even weekends alone and our sex life is non-existing. I try to please him and organise nice dinners and evenings for us both but it not working. I am begining to resent him as he always pushes me away when i try to get close. Is this normal 6 months into a marriage. I can't go on like this

2007-12-03 23:52:38 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Got a bank statement saying I was overdrawn by nearly 100 quid today, couldn't understand where it came from so I rang my hubby who claimed no knowledge of it. Being a guy normally sensible with money I assumed we were victims of internet fraud, as the money was going to two seperate websites over a few days. Went to bank, cancelled cards, had a rite good ol panic and tried to work out how I could make up the shortfall being the main breadwinner in the house. Anyways the money was being taken off my hubbys card and the woman at the bank asked me if he had used the card. I stood up for him and said adamantly that he had not bought anything over the internet and I wanted something done. Gets home and tells the hubby, who confesses he bought a free trial (his words) that cost him 1.50, nearly 100 quid ha come out of our account in 3 days. He swears he only suscribed to hustler free trial, yet money is flying out. What should I do? I have no objection to porn, but lies n secrets I do.....

2007-12-03 23:50:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Complete this statement: Love my relatives visiting at Christmas but I could do without..........

2007-12-03 23:49:39 · 8 answers · asked by Market Magician 3 in Friends

I like it and made it as a Job...that makes fun and I earn money..but i am really scared to tell my friends about it....do you think I should?

2007-12-03 23:49:36 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

This guy has been meaning to ask me to prom for a really long time and has liked me since the beginning of the year. Well, this afternoon before I left for school, I noticed that his friends were cheering him on. So I naturally knew that he was finally going to ask me. The thing is, if I had more time, I would have run away with an excuse (this has happened before, because I'm too shy for my own good...). I don't want to hurt his feelings, like I did before with another guy. So I told him, "I don't know. I'll think about it. I have to ask my mom." But I really don't want to go with him because... I just don't want to, even though we're good friends. And I wanted to go with another guy I like, but I can't tell him that because I know he'll get hurt. And that other guy I want to go with doesn't even think of me as any more than just a person he teases in the hallways.
So, how can I tell him I don't want to go? Or should I just go with him since we're friends and we'll have fun? Thanks!

2007-12-03 23:49:06 · 10 answers · asked by damsel damsel 1 in Singles & Dating

well;;
me & this guy cameron broke up
on november 22 and the truth is
i still really like him. he always made
me laugh and put a smile on my face.
with everything he did.
anyways;;
he dated this girl amber (lasted 2 days)
then this girl kayla (1 day)
he said he was still stuck on a girl.
but kayla&cam started dating on thursday
on friday;; me&cam&allie(our friend) goes
somewhere with us.
kayla was at the same place as we were
and cam knew she was gunna be there
but cameron decided to get a ride with me
instead of her. and then we got out of
the car kayla ran up to cameron and gave him
a hug and then kayla walked inside
cameron waited for me and we kept walking inside
then he put his hat on my head. knowing his girlfriend
is there. kayla got pissed. they were talking about
that and then when i walked by like 2ce
he kept waving and doing the "L" loser sign thing.
lol. just joken. and then kayla dumped him right then
and there and then we start majorly flirting

2007-12-03 23:48:11 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

what do women think of these types?

2007-12-03 23:47:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My job is in one city & If i choose marriage i will have to leave my job
My job is with an MNC if i choose one i will have to leave other and if i choose job I have decided no marriage for atleast next 5 yrs I mean till I am 30 or 31

2007-12-03 23:43:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

In the last year or so I have lost my 'perfect' figure and now have a normal tummy with a little roll and a butt thats cute but not tight as a rock- this is because I have been busy working etc to go to the gym.. My husband just said to me recently that my stomach looked pregnant and "What happened to my butt? It used to be tight and 'bubbly' but now its... well... not..."
I just snapped- BURST out crying and he just tells me to shut up??? WTF??? I told him "I thought you married me for a hell of a lot deeper reasons than my BODY. ANd has HE looked in the mirror lately??? He's NO brad pitt. Has a huge beer gut, a double chin and is half bald and has the nerve to say that to ME? his wife he's supposed to LOVE MUCH deeper than That? Such superficiality????"

But not an ounce of apology or repentance for his attitude. He's gone to bed and I am ere crying. WTF??? I was hugging and kissing him at thhe time- what a shock. I feel so stabbed in the back and confused.How do I deal with this?

2007-12-03 23:42:50 · 22 answers · asked by Renesme 5 in Marriage & Divorce

Besides i dont want to tell him..When i 1st met him he said he dont like it when his Gfs friends tell him.... How am i supposed to tell him Me&&My Friends CAN'T!!!!!!!

2007-12-03 23:34:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-12-03 23:31:19 · 10 answers · asked by mizterieouz 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i never expected it to happen. But to prove im not lying to i need to take in something to work?

2007-12-03 23:30:24 · 6 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family

Who thinks that a bride picks a color and the bridesmaids pick the dress style looks ok? I was told earlier today it looks tacky with mismatched style dresses. I'd rather have all my bridesmaids comfortable with their dress so they get up and have a good time at the reception. What do you think?

2007-12-03 23:28:10 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

a couple weeks ago my b/f got pulled over out state, and he was told that his license was suspended due to an unpaid speeding ticket. i asked my dad for advice on the issue b/c he's a retired cop. unfortunately i also mentioned to my parents unintentionally that my b/f also doesn't have car insurance also after i told him i wouldn't mention anything to him.

my b/f is now mad at me and says that he can't trust me now. i apologized for the whole situation, but he still seemed made. he is also uncomfortable now about being around my parents since they know this about him. i just sent him an email apologizing, and telling him that i realized i was an idiot for mentioning it to my parents and that i will never tell my parents anything else against his wishes ever again.

what more can i do? would anyone out there have the some reaction as my b/f did?

2007-12-03 23:24:38 · 12 answers · asked by in2you86 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-03 23:24:25 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We broke up for a long time and he is still loving me..I helped him first to forget me,i talked with him,spend time...then i ignored him because i thought maybe that could help him...but everything got just worser and worser....i want meet other people...but he said he want stop terrorizing me if I do that?What should I do?

2007-12-03 23:22:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am 26/m and looking for a life partner.
I need a partner to reach my goals. I am looking for a girl who guide, motivate and dominate me.

2007-12-03 23:17:16 · 2 answers · asked by guru 1 in Marriage & Divorce

To make a long story short i was the first person at a very bad car acadent were we broke a window and stayed with the person untill the 911 sent help i was with him touched him told him help was on the way he never came too.. Sadly that person died yesterday should i pay my resect to the family? and if so how by flowers going to the furural home?

2007-12-03 23:12:29 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

There is this girl at my school, Catherine. She is a year older than me and ever since my freshman year I have looked up to har and respected her.

Catherine has had a hard life (her dad walked out on her and her family after lying about using business trips as an excuse to cheat on her mom as well as go to strip clubs). Cat. found out her sophomore year.

She had always been kind of punk. She dressed like a boy, looked like a boy, and acted like a boy after her parents divorce. I never pictures her as being a girl.

Now Cat. isnt like that any more. She is a very cool, outgoing, happy person and I talk with her a lot at school. She has become my role model now more than ever. I look up to her on a lot of things. But last week i found out from her and from one of my friends that she and her boyfriend have had sex.

Personally, this just changes the way I feel about her. I mean, she always seemed like the one to make wise decisions. It's weird finding things out like that.

2007-12-03 23:09:27 · 7 answers · asked by MissSamanthaAnne 1 in Friends

Hi,
when I met my husband I was really sweet to him and do anything for him but after I had my baby I have been so mean to him always buggin him, and I have gotten to the point where I cant stand him and we fight to much, there time when I had felt like slapping him, and there's time when I feel like he's cheating on me but deep inside I know he's not! I dont always want to see the truth and I always feel that I am right! Thank you!!!

2007-12-03 23:06:43 · 10 answers · asked by Ursula M 2 in Marriage & Divorce

what is the most subtle yet effective way to tell my gf that shes been puttin on too much weight recently? I like her a lot but she used to be sooo sexy- now i dont know if i can go on with her if she remains this way

2007-12-03 23:06:21 · 22 answers · asked by Glenn F 5 in Singles & Dating

i respect my family but i am already way past 40. i hate to break their hearts and at the same time, i really want to marry my boyfriend. i am holding a masters deg and he has none. i am in a dilemna.

2007-12-03 23:05:39 · 11 answers · asked by lengneo 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I am having a bit of a breakdown. She has been good to me for a few years now. We have no kids thru choice and we enjoy our home together.

Recently during our loving sessions she has become more frisky. different outfits and stuff like that. I smiled and accepted as I appreciated the change from the lights off & silence. But now she has begun to talk during it. I admit the first few times were very good for me. But now she says things that upset me. She keeps calling me a "big black buck". I am a normal white guy from Kent and i dont get why she is doing this.

She tells me to go faster or give her some medicine, like "go on you big black buck give me your medicine". I find it all very embarrassing. I cant ask her afterwards as i am too ashamed. She never mentions it. I thought maybe i should tell her sister or her friend to talk to her.

I am lost with what to do. Does anyone else have this experience? Thanks

2007-12-03 23:00:29 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I plan to buy an engagement ring in a near future. I have a slight problem though. I do not know my girlfriend's finger size. I read that, the best way to do this is pick up a ring she owes and put it on a scale. Well said, worse done. My girlfriend has only one golden ring that she always wears. She never takes it off. She sleeps with it, takes a shower, go to work with, cook and everything possible. How do I take her ring for measurement purposes without her getting suspicious? I might do it once she sleeps, but she'll notice anyway, I'll wake her up by doing so. Or she might pretend she sleeps and want not to destroy my plans. I don't want even a slightest thought from her side that I will or plan to propose. I want to be this a total surprise, like a thunder! :) Any advice please?

2007-12-03 22:50:52 · 26 answers · asked by surcharge 2 in Weddings

I really really like this guy. I have for eight months
he doesnt know and he tells his friends he thinks im hot.
Prob is he thinks my best friend is hot also.
For his 20th i bought him a ticket to this rock concert...well i bought two and i was like yeh are u free for ure birthday pressie
and he was like yep ill definatly go with you.
How do i react to this. Like just go with it? Ive never been in a relationship before and im not saying this will go anywhere im just saying is it gonna be weird?
Like should i just enjoy the night and just have fun?

2007-12-03 22:46:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have a huge heart and was raised very family orinated. My husband was raised with a family that doesn't support each other. Now my family lately has been for the past 2 1/2 years always asking me for my help in ways that stress me out to my limits. They seem to always want me to go above and beyound for them. which i give them all i got, however it seems its never enough. I get "crap" for not being able to do more. My husband says i need to learn tough love. I help my fmaily every time they r in need. even if i don't always recieve any help at times. I'm so stressed ut because my mom asked a simple request, which i wasn't able to fulfill. she didn't give me a chance to figure it out, let alone try and help....she just hung up on me. its become a normal thing. I have stomach pains from this stress, lack of sleep, depression, crying, i'm an emotional roller coaster. I also have Polycyctic Ovairan syrome. My husband and I are trying to have a child. we both have a small chance. however

2007-12-03 22:45:12 · 6 answers · asked by Mrs.M 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I picked up my husbands phone one day and hes best friend had sent him a message that read "Do you suck D!cKs?" Please tell me this is some weird male sentiment and not phone sex. Maybe it was a joke or sarcasm. I also found text messages on the phone bill between them at 5:30 in the morning, my husbands at work by then. And they text each other a lot. Hes also been caught doing things on the computer he promised not to do anymore, so I really don't trust him anyway. Maybe my lack of trust is causing me to see things that arnt there?What do you think?

2007-12-03 22:42:32 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Here is the message he sent after our first date. I then provided a positive feetback as well. But he hasn't called or asked me out again. I alse see him very actively searching online. Don't understand men.
"I know for sure I could never get tired looking at you. I hope we will be able to spend enough time together so that I can really get to know what makes you happy and find out who the real you is. Just on the service I really like what i see. Hope to hear from you soon."

2007-12-03 22:34:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am a single mom of two boys who works a long shift at times, why does friend always get upset when im to tired to come around, they can always come see me, but seldom do.

2007-12-03 22:15:56 · 8 answers · asked by kathleenwanabee 2 in Friends