i dont want a divorce but dont know what to do
2007-12-03 23:59:23 · 11 answers · asked by carjam1@sbcglobal.net 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
that was so nice of him during the holidays........he needs kicked but anyway is there legal aid in your state.....or see if you can find a lawyer that will defend you on payments......and if he wants a divorce and you do not i am so sorry cause i know it does hurt........i wish i knew something to say that would help.....would he see a marriage counselor...does he know you do not want a divorce.........if he does know then you do need to find legal support........i have been hurt in life also i guess you are not alone but i really think it is cruel during the holidays.........
2007-12-04 00:05:51 · answer #1 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want a divorce? So you'd rather live with a man who obviously doesn't love you or want to live with you any longer. OK. As the others have said, you don't have to sign anything that's put before you. You can refuse to sign anything, but that's just gonna prolong the inevitable.
As others have said, you might be able to get an attorney thru legal aid in your state. You might go to your local District Attorney's office (I know, I know, it's a civil matter) where they can direct you to the proper place for legal assistance in a divorce.
If you've read thru the papers he served you with, and you agree with what's on paper, you really don't even need an attorney. You can just sign the papers if you agree and be done with him. However, if there are minor children involved, by all means, go find an attorney.
I filed for divorce against my ex. I hired my attorney, had all necessary paperwork drawn up, paid my own fees. Ex did not even have a lawyer. All he had to do was sign on the dotted line.
2007-12-04 00:31:02 · answer #2 · answered by ~RedBird~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, sorry for this to be going on right now for you or happening at all.
Anywho I'm a Texan going through a divorce myself...
Legally in the state of TX it only takes one signature to get a divorce, though that depends on if the judge see's that he's being fair with you.
You are also entitled to half YES 50% of all marital assets!!! (Exception being anything he had before the marriage or anything that was specificly gifted to him and not the two of you.)
Also, if you've been married 10yrs or more he has to pay alimony. Chid support: 20% for one, 25% for 2, and 30% for 3 or more is standard.
Advice:
GO to legal aid--NOW, DON'T sign anything, Try to going to counseling..., START deciding what it is that you want/need out of this divorce and be fair...DO NOT let him bully you into signing or doing anything...NO backing down or giving up...
Do your best to stay calm, divorces can get ugly, getting upset will cloud your mind and stupid things can happen.
My X is doing the best to try to screw me over and I'm just trying to walk the line by taking a standard divorce...and it's working in my favor.
2007-12-04 00:45:26 · answer #3 · answered by Kooter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most states it doesn't matter if the other party wants a divorce or not -you can get one through a no-fault divorce-he probably knows this and knows that you cant afford one-look up legal aid office and get a free lawyer and/or if you have children try to get court appointed lawyer through family court.why stay with someone who doesn't love you!At least if you split you can get a settlement-but be sure to find some way to get an attorney!
2007-12-04 00:09:13 · answer #4 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you go to court ask for an appointed attorney and tell the judge you would like to work on your marriage. Some judges will give the couple ample time to work things out and if they can't than the divorce will procede. good luck
2007-12-04 00:06:31 · answer #5 · answered by Calico L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what you want at this point because he doesn't want to be with you. Get the divorce then take your time and find someone that will appreciate you as a person, then wife.
2007-12-04 00:06:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to Legal Aid
2007-12-04 00:03:10 · answer #7 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can get a court appointed attorney, ask for one when the first hearing comes along, you will be able to ask for a lawyer at court when this all starts... and tell the lawyer you don't want a divorce, and don't sign anything... perhaps during this whole process he will change his mind... good luck to you... =) don't forget, don't sign anything unless it has to do w/ the no charge for the lawyer...ok? =)
2007-12-04 00:03:38 · answer #8 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to legal aid. And call around, there are attorney's that will take your case and stick your hubby with the bill.
2007-12-04 00:03:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get a legal aid. Contact Social welfare in your area.
2007-12-04 00:06:38 · answer #10 · answered by margarita lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋