Family & Relationships - 3 December 2007

im in a long distance relationship, well kind of a relationship. were officially not together. she says she wants to fully trust me to "get with me" so there wont be problems. we've had our ups and downs. live 3 hours away, been talkin for 7 months, see eachother about 2 times a month and talk on the phone for hours everyday. my quesion is, how would i know shes really into me? besides her talkin to me on the phone and welcoming into her home, is there any other signs cus i have doubts, probalby cus she has me waiting to get with me and cus the distance. yes we been intimate and gone out but she also keeps us a secret, mainly cus were not together and duznt want ppl to think she messes around with ppl shes just "talkin" to. is it all in my head or somthing to worry about

2007-12-03 18:00:44 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

So you would have to live with her too?

2007-12-03 17:57:28 · 9 answers · asked by Pink Red 3 in Marriage & Divorce

He is married with two children. I am in a long term relationship. We want to be together but don't know how to do it as we don't want to hurt our partners. What do I do?

2007-12-03 17:56:20 · 9 answers · asked by crazychick1975 2 in Singles & Dating

my moms in a big fight with her brothr and sister. my moms a single parent so she's always been there n so hsa my uncle . but then 3 years ago he got married. the lady is really nice to me but my mom and her realy close friends( who r like fam) think she is really fake, which she is. she tries to control my uncle all of the time she really mean 2 him. about 4 months agomy mom got into a fight with her sister ( blood) n her brother im the only grandchild, niece ect so it was weird not seeing them for such a long time. Now since my mom stopped talking to them i kinda did to becuase she has always suported the decisons i made plus she is my mom. So today my uncle imed me and we got into this huge fight where i said some pretty true but mean things. My mom raised me to respect my elders so jah i know wrong move but she also raised me to speak my mind, and thats my personality so yeah. I dont feel bad about what i said but i feel like i want to cry because to much stuff is going on. What

2007-12-03 17:53:15 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

WE MET ITS A LONG AS STORY WE KISS WE TOUCH EACHuTHER THIS WAS GOIN ON FOR COUPLE OF MONTHS NOW.BUT DO HE HAVE FEELINFOR ME OR NOT WEN I KISS HIM 1 TIME HE ASKED IF I WAS AVIRGIN I SEDyESiALREADI NOhE HAV A BBY MAMA AND HIS BBY WUS LIK 5OR6MNTHS NOW.HE GOT MY NUMBA BT WEN HE KALL ME ITS ALWAZ PRIVRATE ND HE DNT LET ME HAV HIS NUMBER HE TOLD ME HIM N HIS BABY MAMA ARNT TOGETHA BUT DEN HE WULDNT GIVE ME HIS NUMBA..ISZ HE STILL WITH HIS BABY MAMA??I THK HES NOT CUZ HE TOOK HIS BABY PIC &HIS PIC OF OFF HIS MYSPACE.IS HE PLAYIN ME?HE HOLLA AT MY BESTFRIEN BFOR ME BT SHE SED NO HE DNT WNT HER ANIMORE CUZ HE SED I SEEM IM MORE REAL.U SEE..CAN U HELP ME SO I DNT GO FURTHER & DO WRONG DECIDION I REALLY LIKE HIM.SO MUCH I ALMOST WILLING TO DO ANYTHING..BUT HELP ME..IM STUCK IN A SITUATION AND PLUS HES OLDER AGE AINT NOTHN BUT A NUMBER TO ME DOE.MY 2 BESTFRIENDSAID HE ONLY WANT TO GET N MA PANTS.I DNT KNOW..WUR NOT TOGETHA CUZ WEN HE ASK ME OUT I JUS KIS HIM RIT AWAYheDontActLikeImWithHim IGUESS

2007-12-03 17:50:02 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

he had an affair for a yr 9 yrs ago.we have 2 girls 24.25. theyve never been happy with what he did but obviously because its ther dad they for gave him.they go out for meals etc with him and the woman goes along they dont like her and i think shes jealous of them.however the girls used to tell me all the gosip when they went out with them but now they keep things close to ther chest.they let things slip out.i own my own salon and he still comes into it for my daughter to colour and streak his hair when im not there and the shop is shut.now this really anoys me and iv put up with it for 9 yr.she uses my tint and i dont think she should.when iv asked him to supply his own he thinks im petty yet he wont do anything for me and has told me so.i dont want him in my shop and iv discussed this with my daughter but she said im mean cos its her dad. im happly remarried but i feel my ex is taking the mick.any advice?

2007-12-03 17:49:38 · 10 answers · asked by CURL & DYE 1 in Marriage & Divorce

A couple weeks ago I had asked about a situation of mine. What I had done was just continued to be friends with her and get a long and see if things turn around. Well in a way they did, but she keeps pulling away. I could be perceiving it wrong but it seems that whenever she starts to get closer to me again, sort of like "warming up" she pulls away again, every time. I can't figure it out at all, some of the trends is that when she's not close she refers to me as her "brother" and loves me in that way. However after talking for a while she would tend to stop calling me her brother and things would get more personal in a relationship sense. That would last for a while but then out of no where she would just kind of "snap" back, almost like someone hit a restart button. My friend said that "her heart wants you but her mind doesn't". Which vaguely made a little sense but still wasn't entirely satisfying. I'm hoping someone could shed some light as to why this is happening. Thanks

2007-12-03 17:46:20 · 6 answers · asked by John 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-03 17:45:57 · 29 answers · asked by the_young_bride 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My friends will voice their opinion sometimes without the intention to hurt anyone. Well, the other night they called me a liar, directly, flat out called me "a liar". When i asked them what i lied about they could only think of one thing but it was the truth. They know though that i am the one they can trust with any secret, I am the best friend of the entire group. I have never lied to them. I don't even lie at all about anything. It hurts that they accused me of this, because i strive so hard to be honest and trustworty. Should I say something to them? What should I do?

2007-12-03 17:45:16 · 5 answers · asked by =)) 2 in Friends

In love with another man....and the father of my child, is trying to make it work after screwing up numerous times. I don't even feel that I love him anymore, or trust him...I'm so scared to ruin my daughters life. Me and him have tried way too many times, and it doesn't work. But this time he is trying so hard...but I am just bored with him and not happy. Should I do what makes me happy and be with the man that I love? I'm so scared..I don't want my daughter to be mad in the long run. She is 11 months old.

2007-12-03 17:44:42 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

i am a smoker and have been for the past 10 yrs. and i am only 22 my soon to be husband hates it and so does his mother. see i smoke the same cigs his gma used to smoke and she passed away from smoking how can i quit should i quit and his mother has offered to pay for the patch should i accept that?

2007-12-03 17:43:59 · 16 answers · asked by J A 1 in Marriage & Divorce

1.I’ve caught him staring at me alone in the corner.

2.I’ve noticed that every time I am leaving the roller rink he waits at the front where I am leaving and stares deeply into my eyes when I walk past.
3.He listens on the door of the girl’s toilets to hear what I am saying to my friends (He did that once)
4.Before he asked me out he was waiting at the front as usual and I was talking to my friends dad right in front of him, when I saw him staring at me in the corner of my eye, I look and he turns away quickly.
5.He asked for my number.
6.He got his friend to ask me out.
7.We had a conversation in texts.
8.He pointed at me to one of his friends while I was looking.
9.He asked my friend if another guy asked me out... while I was on the rink.
10.He lays down in the middle of the session on the barrier and stares up at the ceiling like he is thinking about something

2007-12-03 17:39:26 · 12 answers · asked by m; 1 in Singles & Dating

i really like this boy right and i have no idea what to do!!!

we go to the same school and are on the same soccer team (it is coed) but i don know what to do to make him like me back if he dosent, or if he dose, let it be known?

i am pretty shy too and have a habit of hiding that i like him

we talk sometimes on myspace and in person
(id be wierd if it was only on myspace)


he dosen't know that i like him and i don't know if he likes me back
what should i do to help this situation?

gahhhh
so confusing to me!!


i hope you should shed some light on this subject!
thank you

2007-12-03 17:38:03 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I was 14 when my dad was killed by a drunk driver and my mom was severly injured. The holidays were my favorite time of year because I spent the most time with him How do I cope with christmas around the corner and him being gone. I've been wandering in the dark for 4 years please help

2007-12-03 17:36:52 · 26 answers · asked by DrJ 1 in Family

The parents wanted us to get married but they are always wanting him all by themselves, blaming me about every single thing, always interfere with our lives, wanting our money (they live an obnoxious life). Worst in-laws ever!!! How to deal with them?

2007-12-03 17:36:22 · 3 answers · asked by TurkeyManiac 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my girlfriend and i both enjoy viewing porn. but we only enjoy it if we do it together. yes i'm a guy so obviously i enjoy it, but once i met the love of my life i was quickly turned away from it and on the one or two occasions (honestly) i felt terrible and like i was cheating on her, so when i found out that she enjoyed viewing i was excited because it could be something we share together. now i love my girlfriend very much, and i do feel bad if i view such thing when she's not around, and she feels bad if she views it while im not around. we do not use it for stimulation towards each other, it is just an occasional occurrence that we use to have fun. so with all that being said, is it wrong that we enjoy to look at porn?

2007-12-03 17:35:16 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We have asked my husband's parents to join us at our local social club for New Year's Eve with my sister and her partner and my Mum. He confirmed this with them yesterday and they let it slip to a couple they are friends with that we don't like and have sort of invited them. I said a definite no, my sister and her partner don't like the couple either and as it is also my sister's birthday I think it is unfair.
My husband says that if the other couple can't come then his Dad will have to drive, therefore he cannot drink so could they stay the night at ours. I already have my sister and her partner staying on my living room floor and our one and only spare room is not big enough. If they can't stay at ours then they can't come. That's fine by me but hubby says I'm being unreasonable and we are letting them down. What do you think? My sister asked if she could stay first, if I tell her no then I'll be letting HER down.

2007-12-03 17:29:41 · 8 answers · asked by ChocLover 7 in Family

Got out of a year & a half relationship in October, and it was Long Distance from 200 miles, and it eventually took its toll. Said our good byes, cut ties, and then the communication started with a "lets hook up for sex" from her AND me. Kinda played games with it becasue was forseeing too many complications with it only being 2 weeks from splitting up ,and there was a risk someone (maybe me) would want MORE than sex, so I kind strung it out for a few weeks (and she was calling the minute I would respond, but she never left a voicemail), then told her no I wasnt into a "booty call", changed my mind a few days later, and she just sent me an email saying "sorry, dating someone" (after 5 days??). I really think it was a head game (which is why I didnt want to get into communication after the break up, but who knows) I think she caught wind I was sleeping with another girl. Well I want to send her an email, but not sure how long to wait, and dont want to be "needy" But I miss her. Ideas??

2007-12-03 17:27:16 · 4 answers · asked by stuttgart930930 1 in Singles & Dating

im in a long distance relationship, well kind of a relationship. were officially not together. she says she wants to fully trust me to "get with me" so there wont be problems. we've had our ups and downs. live 3 hours away, been talkin for 7 months, see eachother about 2 times a month and talk on the phone for hours everyday. my quesion is, how would i know shes really into me? besides her talkin to me on the phone and welcoming into her home, is there any other signs cus i have doubts, probalby cus she has me waiting to get with me and cus the distance

2007-12-03 17:26:17 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok, so I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months now and we fight atleast once everyday, and its always about little things! My boyfriend says that I make him feel stupid when "I tell him what to do"! However in my view I am not telling him what to do, I am offering my opinion on how to do it! I am in no way telling him to do it my way, just making suggestions! For example, he buttered a view pieces of bread tonight to make garlic bread and then attempted to use the toaster to cook them!! I said "John*, please don't use the toaster, I think thats a bad idea! why not use the oven?"! He proceeded to fly off the handle, and proclaimed that "I must think he is brainless", and " how would he ever live without me"! I feel terrible that he thinks I'm cutting him down! but, AM I being bossy!?!?! or is he just being irrational?

2007-12-03 17:23:51 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Im am going 2 move out of my house and move in with my fiance soon like sometime in january of next year and your anniversavy is january 1 on new years day and he was looking around for some apartments and im am taking everything with me when me and him do move and he is going 2 pay da rent 4 both of us and im am still going 2 look 4 a job through so that we can get da things that we needed for are palce.

2007-12-03 17:23:29 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-12-03 17:22:40 · 12 answers · asked by iloveit 1 in Singles & Dating

do a guy have to have feelings or like a gurl to slepp with her, and is it hard to pass easy sex and is every chick the same or different...

2007-12-03 17:18:29 · 6 answers · asked by Sony 4 in Marriage & Divorce

This has nothing to do with me personally. Yet, I have a question for someone else. The father lives in Mexico and the mother and children live in Florida... is there anyway for her to receive child support from the husband...? If so, how?

2007-12-03 17:16:15 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I ve recently been dating this guy for about 2 weeks, met him at my club were i work and spent a few hours with him, we ve seen each other all up about 4 times. But since the second time I saw him he has been talking about sex with me alot, (we havent had sex yet) & hes very intense and always saying how hot and sexy i am and how hot I make him. Other then that hes a nice guy.....Is he playing me? Or does he just want to get layed??

2007-12-03 17:13:53 · 6 answers · asked by Summa 2 in Singles & Dating

if he is what ever he is I realy need to know does he love me as a friend or wanna get married.I will still carry on my mission I have no choice in that who wouldn't want if thats there calling specialy when its a freaking screaming one.I would be more focused if not played with in this catergory .I think He loves me what do you think ...........please have only one person answer this

2007-12-03 17:12:04 · 2 answers · asked by saveitok 6 in Weddings

ok so everywhere i go guys are always grabbing my butt
or holding my waist or making sexual comments!!!!
my butt is really big compared to my waist and after being compared to a coke bottle 50000000 times i kinda wanna do something about it so help?
and its really sad cuz im not fat but it jiggles no matter what i do!!
guys slap my butt in the hallway and then say daym look at it jiggle !
i hate it !!

2007-12-03 17:10:57 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My ex and I have been broken up since July. I was living with him and all my mail was coming to my ex's house. When i moved out which is so typical, i realized that i forgot my hoodie and mail. I've asked my ex to bring the stuff into work (we work together but not directly) and he always seems to "forget" even when i called 20 minutes before he had to leave. The last couple days he's been randomly emailing me from work. Like today, got home and had an email from him asking how my birthday party was on Friday. Just random.

Now, its starting to make me wonder if he's keeping the stuff for a reason. And a lot of ppl at work say that he's probably not over me yet. And to confuse me even more he came to my office and talked with me for about 45min...he hasn't done that since August... And don't say "oh looks like youre not over him" because i'm definately not over him. I'm hoping he's not over me. I still love him very very much

soo what do you guys think? Still not over me?

2007-12-03 17:09:38 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

There is this one girl who is really nice to everyone. For over a year, we have been very close friends, but it has been impossible in deciphering whether she actually likes me or not. She often told me about the boys that she liked, and currently, has no other love interest.

While she is often very nice, she seems to be more nice to me, which may be I am so close to her. I often walk to classes with her and sometimes carry her books, while she has on occasions: fed me, wrapped both of us in her scarf, and borrowed my accessories from time to time (hats, etc.). I have many female friends, and once I was talking to one, and she had a frown on her face. I once hugged my guy friend just to see her reaction, and she asked, "How come only he gets a hug?" Every once in a while, she looks at me, and when I catch her eye, she smiles at me. She often pokes me and attempts to surprise me every once in a while.

Does this person genuinely like me now? Or is this just part of her personality

2007-12-03 17:09:23 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Alright, so my boyfriend and I have been together for close to 2 years and were best friends prior to that for an additional 3. We go to seperate colleges about two hours away. He joined a fraternity and lived in this year and for some reason I became very jealous and insecure about myself and the relationship and began to drive him away. About six weeks ago he requested a break, at which time we were supposed to get back together after two weeks but he said he needed more time. He has told others that "things are up in the air" but he sees us "working it out". We still talk almost daily (he innitiates), have gone on dates, say "i love you" ect... My concern is that he is holding onto me only for comfort and because he does not want to hurt me, not because he still loves me. We agreed to not see or be physical with other people (minus dancing) and have both stuck to it. Is this really about space and making the relationship better, or just a prolonged breakup?

2007-12-03 17:09:04 · 8 answers · asked by Kimberly 1 in Singles & Dating