my moms in a big fight with her brothr and sister. my moms a single parent so she's always been there n so hsa my uncle . but then 3 years ago he got married. the lady is really nice to me but my mom and her realy close friends( who r like fam) think she is really fake, which she is. she tries to control my uncle all of the time she really mean 2 him. about 4 months agomy mom got into a fight with her sister ( blood) n her brother im the only grandchild, niece ect so it was weird not seeing them for such a long time. Now since my mom stopped talking to them i kinda did to becuase she has always suported the decisons i made plus she is my mom. So today my uncle imed me and we got into this huge fight where i said some pretty true but mean things. My mom raised me to respect my elders so jah i know wrong move but she also raised me to speak my mind, and thats my personality so yeah. I dont feel bad about what i said but i feel like i want to cry because to much stuff is going on. What
2007-12-03 17:53:15 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my moms in a big fight with her brothr and sister. my moms a single parent so she's always been there n so hsa my uncle . but then 3 years ago he got married. the lady is really nice to me but my mom and her realy close friends( who r like fam) think she is really fake, which she is. she tries to control my uncle all of the time she really mean 2 him. about 4 months agomy mom got into a fight with her sister ( blood) n her brother im the only grandchild, niece ect so it was weird not seeing them for such a long time. Now since my mom stopped talking to them i kinda did to becuase she has always suported the decisons i made plus she is my mom. So today my uncle imed me and we got into this huge fight where i said some pretty true but mean things. My mom raised me to respect my elders so jah i know wrong move but she also raised me to speak my mind, and thats my personality so yeah. P.s his wife is the reason that they r in the fight
2007-12-05 11:56:44 · update #1
Hi sweetie you feel like you want to cry because you are sadden because of all the family problems, because you are aware that family is supposed to be close love and respect each other. And what is going on you should just let the grownups work it out. The one thing that I have learn is though some members feel this is wrong that is wrong for someone else in the family the person (your uncle) has to be the one to complain because he is the one married to this lady and if he is satisfied with the way she treats him then I feel the rest of the family should stay out of it, as long as she is kind to you.And I understand how you feel about supporting your mom but I don't feel you should get involved with this. Your uncle has been good to you.and he is still your family and I bet he loves you very much . Talk with your mom and tell her you love her and don't want to do anything to hurt her ,but you love your uncle too and are you forbidden to be around him just because they are angry at each other ?I don't think kids should be put in the middle of grownup problems. Honey don't be sad they will work it out and all of you will be a loving family again.
2007-12-03 18:19:09 · answer #1 · answered by Back Field In Motion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a lot of drama that u need refrain from. As you get older u learn how to put YOUR fights . If it was your mom's disapproval of his chose than how can she expect you to follow her? u said u were raised to speak your mind so i'm sure you can form your own thoughts about people. i think you shoud respect him and respect him despite all the stuff going on. Remeber that he probably doesnt like everything you do but he was there for you. even if the woman is the worst woman for him it is up to him to make that decesion, and your relationship with your uncle shouldnt be affected by it.. good luck mama
2007-12-04 02:06:31 · answer #2 · answered by prowess121 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi friend,
We always live in the credo "my friend's/parent's/brother's/
sis' enemy is also my enemy. But worse, there is this extended credo about "my enemy's enemy is my friend". How many potentially good relationships are lost because of this mindset?? Just because your mom quarrelled with her siblings doesn't necessarily means that you and your uncle/aunt are automatically enemies from now on. The issue is between them and you really have nothing to do with it. Of course, your mom (out of her anger) will prohibit you from even talking with them. But ultimately the decision is yours. Do you hate your uncle? If yes, is it because of what he did to you? or is it simply because he quarrelled with your mom? How many unnecessary hate are there just because someone we love hates that same person. My advise, stick to what's right and wrong, and you'll have less enemies. It happened to us when we were small, my mom would discourage us from keeping in touch with our father-side cousins and my dad would do too vice-versa. In the end, who's the loser?? Us. We never got to really mingle with our cousins until these last few years. And contrary to what my parents tell us, they are real nice people. See what I mean?
2007-12-04 02:14:15 · answer #3 · answered by BERNARD C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my mom's entire family had a birthday party and didn't invite her I suspected and I found out from my cousin and told my mom, who went to confront her parents. That didn't go so well and the entire family stopped talking to us. I tried for two years to contact them but they just ignored me. Finally I sent them a two page letter of insults and predictions for their awful family. Now it's five years later and I have a wife and son and they've never seen her or him and all the predictions I said came true: Cousin hasn't been able to have kids. Other cousin came out as gay and Grandpa and cousin and her family disowned him. Other cousin got arrested for selling weed. Grandma died alone. I hate them all so much for just writing us off, not even making any attempt to admit their issues and seek some forgiveness.
2007-12-04 02:11:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom stopped talking to her brother when I was 11. So I didn't see him for 20 years. It occurred to me that what happened between them had nothing to do with me, so I called him. We talked on the phone, and exchanged letters and pictures. I NEVER brought up the stuff with my mom - it was none of my business. Unfortunately he died before I was able to visit him. At least I have no regrets.
Is your uncle's relationship with his wife really your business? Would you regret it if that were the last time you ever talked to him?
2007-12-04 01:59:49 · answer #5 · answered by Columbia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't know what is going on so i can't really comment but i have sisters and brothers i don't take to that we have thrown blow at physically but i have a son i would never keep him from them what we have between us is between us not him and them so i will not put him in the middle he is there blood too and they love him . like i said our fight is our fight not his so remember that I'm not saying to abandon your mom but just don't abandon you uncle or aunt to the did not do anything to u they love you
2007-12-04 02:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by malikstlove 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi hon....
what you really need to do is stay out of your mother's arguments... they don't belong to you and you are not directly involved....
brothers and sisters sometimes have disagreements. in your mother's case, she's a grown up and can settle them if she wants to... or she can just keep being angry. it's her choice.
there is absolutely no reason for you to get into the middle, and saying mean things to your uncle, wasn't right, unless he did something to hurt YOU directly...
it's your mother's argument, not yours.
2007-12-04 01:57:59 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea, too much stuff is going on. don't push yourself, you're not superwoman. what i wonder is why you and your mom sat and watched him get married to her. and now that they're married, you two start giving him issues. oh 'cmon; if she's fake, deal with it. she's the one he loves. he's a grown man. am sure he can take car of himself!
2007-12-04 01:59:27 · answer #8 · answered by straight_up 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will find that you will have to give up a lot of ppl in your life...my mom would fight with ppl all the time and cut them out of her life....so i never got to see them again.... its very weird and it will be hard... but once you come of age you can contact them again if you want ......
2007-12-04 05:28:29 · answer #9 · answered by Dana S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! Huge story, Huge comments. umm, ask me at school tomorrow and explain it betta cuz it's a little confuzin.
2007-12-06 22:35:29 · answer #10 · answered by Ana Banana Fofana ... ANA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋