A couple weeks ago I had asked about a situation of mine. What I had done was just continued to be friends with her and get a long and see if things turn around. Well in a way they did, but she keeps pulling away. I could be perceiving it wrong but it seems that whenever she starts to get closer to me again, sort of like "warming up" she pulls away again, every time. I can't figure it out at all, some of the trends is that when she's not close she refers to me as her "brother" and loves me in that way. However after talking for a while she would tend to stop calling me her brother and things would get more personal in a relationship sense. That would last for a while but then out of no where she would just kind of "snap" back, almost like someone hit a restart button. My friend said that "her heart wants you but her mind doesn't". Which vaguely made a little sense but still wasn't entirely satisfying. I'm hoping someone could shed some light as to why this is happening. Thanks
2007-12-03 17:46:20 · 6 answers · asked by John 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Here's a link to the topic had posted several weeks back. http://nz.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AhVlIr7FPrXr2maJHtyMC2fIZwx.;_ylv=3?qid=20071113121341AAhZXkt
2007-12-03 17:47:16 · update #1
After reading both of your questions, I think she is afraid that she isn't able to control herself around you. Maybe that things will get out of hand and go further than she wants. If she didn't care about you, she wouldn't be talking to you so much. Give her the space she needs. If you get to the point you need more than talking on the phone, let her know how you feel.
2007-12-03 17:59:56 · answer #1 · answered by luvmycoke29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push it. This sounds like a classic case of having been hurt deep down.
She could have been hurt by someone in the past that she has not a had chance to get over.
It could also be that she has religious convictions that keep her from allowing things to go to far.
May the future bring you happiness.
2007-12-03 17:58:21 · answer #2 · answered by MISHA E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is not ready to settle down. She may think that you are perfect for settling down with, but she is afraid that if she gets too close right now, when she is not ready, that she may hurt you. It is better to not start something that you can not follow through with, than to start it, and have to lose a close friend over it.
2007-12-03 18:03:58 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is pulling away because she is afraid of being hurt. You need to reassure her that you will always be there for her no matter what.
2007-12-03 17:53:56 · answer #4 · answered by Jodi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must be afraid to get hurt again,,,,be patient.
2007-12-03 17:50:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she wants to be more than friends but at the last moment she can't do it
2007-12-03 17:49:35 · answer #6 · answered by Jared 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋