In love with another man....and the father of my child, is trying to make it work after screwing up numerous times. I don't even feel that I love him anymore, or trust him...I'm so scared to ruin my daughters life. Me and him have tried way too many times, and it doesn't work. But this time he is trying so hard...but I am just bored with him and not happy. Should I do what makes me happy and be with the man that I love? I'm so scared..I don't want my daughter to be mad in the long run. She is 11 months old.
2007-12-03 17:44:42 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
dont go back with him if you dont love him and please dont go back because of the baby because if you and him are not getting alone and stuff its going to hurt the baby down the line
2007-12-03 18:18:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie you need to do what makes you happy. I am in the same situation kinda...my guy just had a baby with another female in September and we have been together for 10 months. She has tried profusly to get him back...but he doesn't want to be with her. He wants to be with me. He is going with his heart. It took him a while to realize that....he made the right decision in the end. She was controling and selfish. She gave him an ultimadum and told him that he had to stop seeing me or she wouldnt let him see his son. He pretty much said screw u and ill see you in court. All I have to say is go with your heart it will never lead you astray. And I am sure that your daughter wont be mad....you have to do whats best for you also...your happiness means something also. Hope all goes well.
2007-12-03 20:36:13 · answer #2 · answered by Ski 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not healthy to jump from one relationship straight into another... so if you are debating leaving the father of your child, then take some time out for YOU. You need time to readjust to life and grieve your losses (love him or not, your life is going to change).
you would be heading right into a "rebound" relationship...to learn more about them, you can do a yahoo search....
you don't have to prove you are still loveable, as soon as you leave your boyfriend... because, i'm sure you're quite loveable enough. what you might consider is taking care of your child and YOU and also, taking the time to figure out what's best for you, without interference. I don't think casual dating or socializing would hurt, but another serious relationship without a break? Not good.
take care and i hope you don't jump from the frying pan straight into the fire.
2007-12-03 17:55:13 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children suffer from bad relationships. If you are that unhappy with him and don't love him, how can your daughter be happy with that? Move on girl. Your daughter can still have a good relationship with her father and you both can be happy. Remember this, "if mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy". God Bless
2007-12-04 09:30:07 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not stay with him because of your daughter. Your child WILL pick up on the bad vibes and WILL suffer from it.
You're better off being happy.
Allow him to see her. Let him be part of her life.
But don't get back with him.
2007-12-03 17:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by ... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is better then your daughter could be older. so you need to make up your mind.
2007-12-03 18:05:03 · answer #6 · answered by mags 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋