he had an affair for a yr 9 yrs ago.we have 2 girls 24.25. theyve never been happy with what he did but obviously because its ther dad they for gave him.they go out for meals etc with him and the woman goes along they dont like her and i think shes jealous of them.however the girls used to tell me all the gosip when they went out with them but now they keep things close to ther chest.they let things slip out.i own my own salon and he still comes into it for my daughter to colour and streak his hair when im not there and the shop is shut.now this really anoys me and iv put up with it for 9 yr.she uses my tint and i dont think she should.when iv asked him to supply his own he thinks im petty yet he wont do anything for me and has told me so.i dont want him in my shop and iv discussed this with my daughter but she said im mean cos its her dad. im happly remarried but i feel my ex is taking the mick.any advice?
2007-12-03 17:49:38 · 10 answers · asked by CURL & DYE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i am over it and i havent a problem with them seeng him IM GLAD but why shoul i put up with him having his hair done in my shop ??
2007-12-03 17:59:10 · update #1
My daughter who does his hair thinks im mean cos i DONT want him in my shop for her to do his hair and he shouldnt use my materials.
2007-12-03 18:02:17 · update #2
i dont want to spoil the girls relationship with there dad but i do think hes taking liberties still expecting to come into my shop for his hair done but my daughter cant see that its a problem.i wouldnt mind if he did owt for me but he wont as iv asked for a bit of help once.
2007-12-03 18:16:41 · update #3
Why do you care if he comes to your shop if you aren't even there? There is no reason to even worry about it, unless you are resentful or want to punish him, so it is petty.
This behavior is beneath a strong self-confident woman. You put up with it for 9 years, so it is standard practice now...get over it.
2007-12-03 18:24:00 · answer #1 · answered by SkyLights90N 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just gave me the solution to your problem when you said 'I'm happily remarried'. Yes.....!!!!
If you're happily remarried - thank God! What are you moaning at? Why should you worry? You've got it, so what more do you want?
You are piffling about trifles. Who cares what he did years ago, who cares that the kids bring you back the gossip, who cares that she takes the tint you provided for his hair - does it matter? Let her get on with it. WHY SHOULD YOU CARE?
You've got a life now - go build it and enjoy it. Don't look back, don't fret. Quite honestly, all this is THEIR PROBLEM - don't make it yours. You need to see that, right now, you've got it. You're doing okay financially, got your health, home and - best of all - a loving new husband. Now you have the rest of your life to enjoy together and no-one can take that away from you but yourselves. So, don't harp on, don't nit-pick about things that aren't really to do with your life now. The time past is enough to have suffered these things. You don't live with the man anymore, and you've got some lovely kids.
You have nothing to moan about, so get positive, get thankful and decide that you're going to enjoy and appreciate the good life that remains to you now.
2007-12-04 00:45:30 · answer #2 · answered by homechrch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your salon, you worked your butt off for it, you run it and you decide who is welcome and who is not. Quietly seek legal advice and have him warned to stay away from your place of business at all times. This is between you and he. Any decent father, who cared at all about his daughters would not put them at odds with their mom. He does this to bother you. If your daughters do try, tell them it is not up for discussion. If they should ever divorce, and you have their ex's over all the time, only then shall it be discussed. You should be able to live in peace at this point in your life and if you don't take it, you won't get it. Be assertive,be happy.
2007-12-07 16:04:59 · answer #3 · answered by ferochira 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to stop putting your daughters in the middle of everything, they had NOTHING to do with his behavior. It has been 9 years, I can only imagine how good it would feel for you to let this go FINALLY. Your daughters love him and they are old enough to have a relationship with him separate from you. Keep it up and you will push them away because they won't feel like talking to you about anything for fear that you will be angry about their father...let it go and concentrate on your happy marriage now.
2007-12-03 17:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by laura1977 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-10 05:08:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is breaking and entering and theft.
CHANGE THE LOCKS and get an alarm system!
Put all those chemicals in a locking cabinet... it is probably required by law anyway.
Don't be guilted into or out of anything.
2007-12-03 17:58:05 · answer #6 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Forgive him and be happy
Be friends with his new woman
Stop being childish !
GROW UP !
Be a decent person and forgive the past !
Move on and be happy !
2007-12-03 20:28:44 · answer #7 · answered by Love life and share happiness 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its only dye and tint...be thankful he still has something to do with his daughters...my dad met someone else and chose her over me and my sister we havent seen him properly for years.
2007-12-03 18:35:56 · answer #8 · answered by womble 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The husband - ok, but not the girlfriend!
Joy to you!
2007-12-03 17:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he color streaks his hair? hes a freak!
2007-12-03 17:56:16 · answer #10 · answered by rufstuff 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋