Alright, so my boyfriend and I have been together for close to 2 years and were best friends prior to that for an additional 3. We go to seperate colleges about two hours away. He joined a fraternity and lived in this year and for some reason I became very jealous and insecure about myself and the relationship and began to drive him away. About six weeks ago he requested a break, at which time we were supposed to get back together after two weeks but he said he needed more time. He has told others that "things are up in the air" but he sees us "working it out". We still talk almost daily (he innitiates), have gone on dates, say "i love you" ect... My concern is that he is holding onto me only for comfort and because he does not want to hurt me, not because he still loves me. We agreed to not see or be physical with other people (minus dancing) and have both stuck to it. Is this really about space and making the relationship better, or just a prolonged breakup?
2007-12-03 17:09:04 · 8 answers · asked by Kimberly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In my opinion: about space and making the relationship better. I think your concern is right. However, the best thing to do is to talk to him about what you are feeling at the moment. AnId if he replies that he is ready. Take a chance at this relationship again and see if you two are compatiable. If not, then try to hold on to him because he sounds like a real good friend of yours. For your other case, I think it would be wise to tell him that you and your boyfriend need another break and go on dates with other people to see if you like where you stand or not.
2007-12-03 17:19:55 · answer #1 · answered by LaFounda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say as much as you want to make this work...sounds like it may be the beginning of the end. You are not able to be there enough for each other and college years offer so much in the way of activities, fun, work, tears, joy, friendship, etc. etc..that both are you are doing without each other that it makes you drift away from the 'closeness' you once shared. Either take time off from your school and move closer if this relationship means enough to work on...or think about a future that could possibly be without him.
2007-12-04 01:16:10 · answer #2 · answered by wife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to tell. I would suggest that you really do take a break from each other, a real break, where you decide not to talk for a month. At the end of the month, he'll know how he really feels. It will be tough, 'cause it's winter break and you're probably both going to be home, but you'll never know how he really feels if you don't give him the space to miss you. Why don't you consider doing something different for winter break, like going to New Orleans and helping to build houses or something.
2007-12-04 01:13:58 · answer #3 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you two have a good thing going on, but you are driving him away with your jealousy. Try to lighten up and be really confident. Be a strong girl and he will realize that you can make it alone. He willl appreciate your strength. And you will be more attractive to him.Stay Strong.
2007-12-04 01:16:42 · answer #4 · answered by sandy t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
:/
It could be both, honestly.
You should talk to him and ask him if he really honestly wants to get back together with you, because you don't want this to be a prolonged break up because he feels bad for you.
See what he says.
Respect his choice and go with it.
2007-12-04 01:15:32 · answer #5 · answered by adilicious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems to me that hes trying to stay friends but might be wanting to break sooner or later, take some time apart where you dont still act like your dating and see how its working afterwards
2007-12-04 01:17:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's just keeping you around until he finds someone else. If he really loved you he would know if he wanted to be with you. What's there to think about? Good luck.
2007-12-04 01:16:03 · answer #7 · answered by Diamond 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has moved on. Do the same. Just remember this and don't screw up your next relationship.
2007-12-04 01:18:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋