Family & Relationships - 3 December 2007

Is it right for a man to do the ironing or the mopping?

2007-12-03 01:19:52 · 32 answers · asked by AVGVSTVS 3 in Marriage & Divorce

hi there
thanks for reading this message
i am a mum of 3 young kids and i have been running a group for people surving abuse self harm and depression for the past 2 years
i am have been diagnosed as having severe anxiety disorder and cant be there as much as i want to be
if you could please give some time to help people please join at http://groups.msn.com/whispers05 i could really do with some help there while i get my life back on track and sort out my problems without worrying that my group needs me too
thank you so much for reading this post
take care and stay safe

2007-12-03 01:17:07 · 2 answers · asked by m.linzi 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-03 01:17:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Every Monday (as well as other days, but, more so on Mondays), I see many people state the problems they have with porn in their house being watched by the other spouse (usually on the computer). People should be making love to their spouses, not "getting off" to porn instead! My suggestion to those who have porn addicted spouses (men and women), is to get rid of the computer, no matter what! This includes those who are going into the chat rooms and talking to the opposite sex as well as performing other things on the computer that they should be doing w/ their spouse. Get rid of the computer. Then what will they do? lol! =)

2007-12-03 01:13:57 · 17 answers · asked by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 in Marriage & Divorce

or does it mean it is possible that he can slip away??

2007-12-03 01:07:32 · 15 answers · asked by jay 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

i really think im ready for serious dating. ive been in some relationships but i havent been really serious or commited. what are some things i should do or w/e. so i can be a little more open and what do guys really want in a girl. like what qualities.

2007-12-03 01:03:34 · 4 answers · asked by MiSZ. lUCkiCHARM 2 in Singles & Dating

So I have a loving a wonderful husband but it just happens that I have a job making more money than him. It took him a while to find a good job and now that he has one he has one more class to finish his BA and then his salary will go up. We also just started a dance school and it needs a lot of attention because we want that to be our main source of income in the future. Well I found out that I am pregnant and I teach dance during the day. It is becoming very difficult for me to do and I really don't have the time or energy to work on the business but we already have clients. I really want to go out on disability but I feel extremely guilty because I make the most money and I feel if I don't work we are really going to struggle I am only three months and I can't imagine later in the pregnancy. I also teach special needs children so they are very changeling. If I stay home I can work on the business and take better care of myself plus working on the business will be securing things for the future but am I being selfish to put the responsibility of the bills on him. Should I just stick it out but it is very hard

2007-12-03 01:01:13 · 16 answers · asked by juv 1 in Marriage & Divorce

l love my husband ,but l go to bed thinking all night of my ex,l have dreams of us making love and all that,l dont know what is wrong with me,l have not see him since l married my husband,2 YRS now,but we do communicate on phone daily,he told me that he loves me and cannot carry on ever since l left,l tried not to see him all this while cos l know we love ourselves and seeing him we be dangerous,l dont want to cheat on my husband,l will see him this weekend cos l we be going to a friends birthday in the same building where he lives,l am stress because l dont know if l we be able to avoid the temptation thats is before me

2007-12-03 00:56:22 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My parents hit me sometimes. Always call me names threaten to hurt me. And I am even having trouble in school (Because the abuse has gotten so bad.) I had department of human services in my life many times but they do not work. I appreciate anyones help. Thanks!

2007-12-03 00:56:21 · 34 answers · asked by Nicole B 1 in Marriage & Divorce

for our reception are not part of the buffet , in fact thats the way the caterer does it (our venue has catering and it's the only thing we're allowed to use )

the childrens meals go up to age 12 do i need to specify that?
also should i be right in assuming that anyone with a baby that doesn't eat solids yet won't be marking children's meal?

2007-12-03 00:44:27 · 6 answers · asked by ? 5 in Weddings

I just want opinions... please don't be nasty. It won't do any good. I was a stay at home mother for 2 1/2 years. My husband told me that if I got a part time job it would alleviate his stress level. So I did. I work a midnight shift throughout the week. I chose that shift so that my small amount of income wouldn't be taken by a daycare. It's an extremely physical job. So here's my dilema. As a stay at home mom I was able to keep the house tidy and the laundry done. Now that I don't get home until 4 in the morning I'm usually too tired to do anything the next day (which starts at 7am). So I was wondering if I should ask my hubby to pitch in with the housework ? We've been married 7 years and the most he's ever had to do was take out the garbage every now and then when asked. He works a 3 day weekend shift where all he does is stand around and push a button. I'm torn because I feel the house is the wife's duty, but I don't think it's fair that he expects so much from me. HELP ! Thanks !

2007-12-03 00:43:53 · 18 answers · asked by BigPmama 2 in Marriage & Divorce

my girls want to know how soon in advance should bridal shower invites go out...
im having two in the same month and some people need to get two (my mom , and his mom have asked for a formal invite as well as my bridesmaids get a copy for both showers)

one is feb 9th
the other is feb 23rd.

2007-12-03 00:42:48 · 14 answers · asked by ? 5 in Weddings

I'm 18 and I've neve had any kind of relationship or even a fling - I've still not had my first kiss! In fact I've only met a handful of guys I liked before, is this normal? is anyone else the same?
I've kind of given up on meeting someone now lol at least I don't expect it to happen, but it doesn't happen when you expect it does it?

2007-12-03 00:39:57 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i went to my friends house and she invited her boy friend and his twin (smokin hot) any wayse they were doing their thing and me and the twin kissed, cuddled, made out, touched and the next day well i was hoping he'd ask me out but din't so i was like ok w/e, the he tells me that he likes me and this other chick and he told me that he wont ask her out cuz he dosent wanna hurt me but i herd from a couple people that he's with HER and i really like him... he told people that im a s!*t and i feel like one cuz we did stuff i i'm not even with him :-( does this make me one?

2007-12-03 00:39:31 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

im not going to a wedding and i dont drink but i was wondering well would they feel left out or like do they just drink cola or whatever. coz i dont like alcohol and like if i was ever to go to a wedding which is highly possible as i would probably get married well what do people do if they dont drink and people will be forcing u into it

2007-12-03 00:36:43 · 21 answers · asked by allaboutme 3 in Weddings

I gave up some years ago trying to meet girls in person. It just wasn't working and I live in a small town. After awhile I realized I met everyone that was single that was also of legal age. I really don't even try anymore but sometimes I'll get some girl trying to contact me online. We'll talk for a few days being funny or about something of similar interest. Everything seems to be going well until they ask me for my name. When I give them my name they always stop talking to me. Whats the deal with that?

2007-12-03 00:33:06 · 3 answers · asked by Higurb M 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I haven't been divorced a year yet and I'm afraid that I would not be able to handle another heartbreak like the one I felt when my wife left me. I love this woman but am not sure if I should be feeling the way I do. Is it ok to fall for someone else so soon after my wife left?

2007-12-03 00:31:35 · 11 answers · asked by FinallySmiling 3 in Marriage & Divorce

we broke up a little over a week ago but we're staying close because we both want to get back togerher, we just need to fix things. two days ago we met up at college and we were talking and we kissed. she asked me if I wanted to go to lunch or something and I told her that I couldnt. then I turned around to pack my stuff up and when I turned back around she was gone. I asked her what happened to her and she said nothing, she just left.
why did she do that without saying bye?

2007-12-03 00:30:47 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

He's frustrated and depressed and I can't stand it now. His wife and kid try to be good support but she's also admitted to having been beaten by him (he has sudden fits of rage). His daughter (My niece) is very close to me and I want to do something for them.

The main reason for his present mindset is a failure to become something in his life. All my life I saw him live his dreams everyday and even supported his ambitions. He was a very talented guitar-player, writer as well as vocalist and aspired to become a successful person in the music industry. He gets extremely sensitive when you downplay his achievements and this might be one of the main reasons for conflict with his wife.

Since I grew with him, I probably understand his "psychological" needs better than anyone else, including his wife. I'm thinking of taking him and his family in my house. Although my girlfriend does not oppose this, she's also quarrelsome and it can lead to ugly situations

But I also love him a lot

2007-12-03 00:29:34 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

(with purple outlining!) and my parents dont even care! he is taikng my other brothers too! we are both anoyed! what should we do?!!My parents dont even care! I want to get him back so badly he will never mess with me again!

2007-12-03 00:29:22 · 22 answers · asked by Leo 2 in Family

My fiance and I are getting married in the summer of '08. We are having financial issues and don't want to spend a lot of money on the wedding, but still would like a nice one. We originally wanted the wedding at 11:30am, but changed it to 2:00pm to have a desert/snack reception instead of a fully catered lunch reception (a lot cheaper, but the snack/deserts will be tasty).

My mom stated she will not invited anyone out of state since we are only holding a snack/desert reception since it didn't pay for them to travel to the wedding and not get served a meal.

I was offended because she made it sound like the wedding wasn't why people were coming out, and she can't understand why I would be offended.

Can anyone offer advise/insight on this?

2007-12-03 00:28:43 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

My Grandson is staying with me because of a marrige breakup
he wants to stay with me, but his mum say he has to go back with her , has he the right to say where he lives

2007-12-03 00:23:29 · 28 answers · asked by Candy S 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I like this guy but i don' t know how to tell him

2007-12-03 00:23:06 · 4 answers · asked by Giovy 1 in Singles & Dating

My brother is always leaving the computer on for hours and hours after using them,and he never helps to pay the electricity bills,my dad pays alone,the thing is,i'm always stuck in 2 options,to either turn off the computer which will help my dad but have my bro to hate me for doing that(which i think he already did,i can't stand him),he's selfish and ignorant,and because of that the bills are always over the limit,i pity my dad,always having to pay the bills alone,i can't help him..but my brother is so selfish,he's always doing that...this can't go on!comments?

2007-12-03 00:03:25 · 6 answers · asked by rose etoiles 3 in Family