I haven't been divorced a year yet and I'm afraid that I would not be able to handle another heartbreak like the one I felt when my wife left me. I love this woman but am not sure if I should be feeling the way I do. Is it ok to fall for someone else so soon after my wife left?
2007-12-03 00:31:35 · 11 answers · asked by FinallySmiling 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that falling in love this soon is ok, provided you are really over your wife and not projecting onto this woman any unresolved issues. But, since you are asking this question, I'm thinking that maybe you aren't there yet.
2007-12-03 00:35:34 · answer #1 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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This is a difficult question about a difficult situation. More than not wanting to experience heartbreak yourself, I think the bigger worry here is whether you are ready to plunge into another serious relationship so soon after the breakup of your marriage? It may well end up being your new lady-friend who ends up with her heart broken.
Many people go through this, and I'm sure you've heard of it. The rebound. As others here have said to you, be sure to take it slow. But also be sure to be open to the possibility that you have made a mistake and that this woman may not be the next Mrs. So-and-So. If that day comes, the fair thing to do is to tell her right away and end things. Too many people let the rebound relationship drag on and on, long after they are aware that it's not going to be permanent.
Good luck with your new relationship. I hope it is all that you want it to be.
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2007-12-03 08:41:07 · answer #2 · answered by Musicality 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say that it is okay. it's not like your ex wife passed away - in a case like that, it would not be okay. if you love this woman, follow your heart. there is nothing wrong with taking your time with this relationship. if she loves you back then she will understand, but talk to her. tell her how you feel and I'm sure that she will be more than willing to give you what you need. you can't stop love no matter what you do. all you can do is just act on it and make it the best possible.
2007-12-03 08:37:47 · answer #3 · answered by flavours_of_entanglement 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, it's ok, but make sure that you really do love her. The advice that I've lived by for the past year (since my husband left me) was to not get involved with anyone. I took the year off to figure out who I was, what I wanted and generally heal. I felt so hurt when I found out he was cheating on me, I didn't want to get hurt again. I think a year has just about done it. I'm not so vulnerable now. I don't think I would get hurt so badly if someone I fell for decided I wasn't the one for them.
Good luck.
2007-12-03 08:37:17 · answer #4 · answered by sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure! You only live once, why waste any time being lonely or miserable just because of a divorce? Actually, nothing heals a heartbreak faster.
Just take things slow with this new lady love of yours.
2007-12-03 08:35:54 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
am sure you are feeling this way because you have not gotten over your wife. there is no reason why you shouldn't give her a chance, and don't be afraid to fall in love again, it is allowed.
2007-12-03 08:42:26 · answer #6 · answered by black&proud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your wife has probally gotten over you, its time for you to move on to someone who will probaly treat you better han the other one, just make this one work out and good luck
2007-12-03 08:35:08 · answer #7 · answered by PLEASE HELP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on with your life. You don't have to rush into anything just let yourself feel. If you love this girl go for it.
2007-12-03 08:45:24 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes.. you can fall for another person..
your wife probable get over and move on with her life.. I think you should do the same... get over and move on with your life.. lol.
good luck!!
2007-12-03 08:40:26 · answer #9 · answered by back2future 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing good comes without risk. It is time to move on.
2007-12-03 13:53:03 · answer #10 · answered by just wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋