Every Monday (as well as other days, but, more so on Mondays), I see many people state the problems they have with porn in their house being watched by the other spouse (usually on the computer). People should be making love to their spouses, not "getting off" to porn instead! My suggestion to those who have porn addicted spouses (men and women), is to get rid of the computer, no matter what! This includes those who are going into the chat rooms and talking to the opposite sex as well as performing other things on the computer that they should be doing w/ their spouse. Get rid of the computer. Then what will they do? lol! =)
2007-12-03 01:13:57 · 17 answers · asked by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes, I agree, dumping the porn addict is a better option, lol! =)
2007-12-03 01:19:54 · update #1
I dont agree with porn either, so I agree, get it outta the house!!
2007-12-03 01:53:10 · answer #1 · answered by Ang 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
To bad it isn't that easy.
The schools kinda make it to where you have to have a computer and the Internet with some of the work they require and on top of that some of them put the homework on their web pages and it is the only way to get.
Nice thought but if you have kids isn't gonna work.
Nothing wrong with looking at porn every once in a while, if it gets out of hand that is another story.
Shame that you have to treat your spouse like a child isn't it.
2007-12-03 09:49:06 · answer #2 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
The problem with your "question" is that you are starting from the faulty assumption that looking at porn is, categorically, a problem. The problem is not with the person who is looking at the porn, which typically affects the relationship not at all. The problem is usually created by the person who nags, complains, and starts arguments over this harmless activity, thus creating needless friction in the relationship. If your husband is looking at porn, but you want to have sex, go have sex with him -- it really is that simple. Certainly, there are a few cases where porn viewing does become an addiction, such that a person prefers porn over actual sex. However, in the great majority of cases of people coming to Y!A to ask questions about it, looking at porn is only a "problem" because people like you are simply calling it a problem, not because it's actually doing anything harmful.
2007-12-03 09:29:46 · answer #3 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 1⤊ 4⤋
You are suggesting to get rid of the problem without treating the problem. Face it, computers are intergrated into our lives now, they help pay bills, keep in contact with love ones, give us news headlines, even organize our busy lives.
People who are addicted to porn need help, not a computer taken away from them. I wouldnt want to treat them like a kid who got in trouble and gets his toys taken away.
I think a few of the question on here about porn are people who are not communicating with their spouses well enough.
Some complain about porn being hidden, that may be because they yelled and threaten them at one point.
The person who is truely addicted to porn cannot go a few hours without looking at it, it is not a couple of hours on the weekend like most men.
A porn addict needs help, not ridicule, not to be shamed. Just your love and support to get over it.
2007-12-03 09:21:13 · answer #4 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I have a better suggestion. Get a better perspective of just why people watch porn. It is better than mastubating to nothing and elicites excitement and imagination. Quit using it as an excuse to start fights and get out of relationships. If you really have a problem with your partner watching too much porn, try watching it with them or give them head while they are watching it. I guarantee that they won't watch long after that has been started!
2007-12-03 09:33:33 · answer #5 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I tried to get into porn but could never seem to get anything out of it. I need the sight and feel of reality to get me to a higher plane. Any takers for a 3000 mile airplane ticket? LOL
2007-12-03 10:13:43 · answer #6 · answered by reinformer 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
hey, i did not ask any such thing.
rather than throwing out the computer, a better thing to do is talk: communication is the key to all successful marriages.
get to the bottom of things - why is the guy watching porn? what can you do to help him in this problem? consult a sex therapist.
2007-12-03 09:19:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
The correct answer should be to all those people with this "problem" is that maybe the problem is not the computer but that their spouse wants something better and if thats the case divorce should be in their future.
2007-12-03 09:18:27 · answer #8 · answered by Muker 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
I think dumping the spouse is a better option.
2007-12-03 09:17:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
They would rent movies and buy magazines. I would suggest they get counseling for their perverted spouses!
2007-12-03 09:18:59 · answer #10 · answered by christina30 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋