He's frustrated and depressed and I can't stand it now. His wife and kid try to be good support but she's also admitted to having been beaten by him (he has sudden fits of rage). His daughter (My niece) is very close to me and I want to do something for them.
The main reason for his present mindset is a failure to become something in his life. All my life I saw him live his dreams everyday and even supported his ambitions. He was a very talented guitar-player, writer as well as vocalist and aspired to become a successful person in the music industry. He gets extremely sensitive when you downplay his achievements and this might be one of the main reasons for conflict with his wife.
Since I grew with him, I probably understand his "psychological" needs better than anyone else, including his wife. I'm thinking of taking him and his family in my house. Although my girlfriend does not oppose this, she's also quarrelsome and it can lead to ugly situations
But I also love him a lot
2007-12-03 00:29:34 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Musicians are pretty emotional people anyway, so I think leaving him at his place in his own environment is best.
Being that I had dated an alcoholic, you can plead, beg, threaten, bribe them all you want to get help. But unless they see that they have a problem and are willing to get help, you're running in circles and getting no where with them.
Sometimes it's best to let them hit rock bottom. Then they see they have no where to go but up. And that's when they'll get the help they need.
In the meantime, it's like a vicious vortex. And all their drama becomes your drama, and can cause tensions with your loved ones as well.
I know it's hard to walk away, but sometimes you have to just for your own sanity.
Maybe have your SIL and niece stay with you, but the brother....I'd leave him in his own home.
2007-12-03 00:45:42 · answer #1 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to change him or stop him from drinking. He has to want to do that yourself. You should let your SIL and the kids know that they can come to your place when he acts like a fool and beats on people.
2007-12-03 09:36:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
rule #1.-don't move them in with you!!! you cannot cure him and moving them in will cause you more pain and resentment than you can imagine. if he is abusive, his wife has to come to the decision as to leave or not ansdyour brother has to want to feel better on his own. you can't do it for him.
2007-12-03 08:42:15 · answer #3 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should try getting him help if he really needs it cuz it seems like he does.
2007-12-03 08:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by Cher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋