How do I get out of my abusive family? I am 17?

Question

My parents hit me sometimes. Always call me names threaten to hurt me. And I am even having trouble in school (Because the abuse has gotten so bad.) I had department of human services in my life many times but they do not work. I appreciate anyones help. Thanks!

Answer 1

you need to tell someone.
tell all of your techaers, friends, any not immediate family members you can trust.
contact the police.
you need to get out as soon as you can.
i would give tou an abusive hotline number,
but i dont know where you live.
research online for a number like that in your area.


people stop telling her to "tough it out"
if the abusive is bad enough, she could end up dead.
they could get so angry and accidently beat her to death !
nicole you need to get out.

Answer 2

I know how you feel. I don't mind the psychical pain as much as the emotional pain and that's what screwing with your grades. They don't know all the termoil their putting you through. If you've tried human services and that didn't work, perhaps . . . in the grown up world, I'd call this confronting your problems but your in kind of a perdiciment with your housing here. However, doing what you've always been doing has gotten you where you are at in life, SOMETHING HAS TO CHANGE. Have you ever seen the movie freddie got fingered, well I wouldn't go that far, but start taking pictures of your bruises for say a month or two, then take these to the police department. A school counseler can call the police for you and get it all set up. If you need to, keep going up the ladder to the principle, then to the school board. You are on the internet and the internet is a powerful thing. You've defined your problem, that's the first step. You're learning from others that had this problem. Now you just need to do what they did to take care of this problem. Good Luck

Answer 3

are you still in school? do you have a job? i moved out at 17, got 2 jobs, took ged classes two nights per week and had my ged and was in college before my class graduated. you'll just need a place to stay for a month or so to get on your feet, but regardless of that you should tell your friends parents, if you tell teachers they are required by law to report it to child services, which is good the more reports you get the more likely they are to do something about it, sometimes all it takes is getting the right worker to make a difference...I am so sorry for what you're going through and hope that you find a way out...

Answer 4

In the UK you can leave home at 16 provided you show that you are living in a place where you are not in moral danger.

Have you anyone else you could go to? Family, church members etc?

Have you tried contacting Barnados or the Salvation Army? What about an adult refuge for women experiencing violence. Where I live, the nearest women's refuge does outreach sessions in the ante-natal clinics in the hospitals - the details are on posters all over the hospital, including the loos in A&E. Also, have you talked to your doctor? S/he might have some suggestions, and it can be in confidence.

Answer 5

Tough it out until you are 18. In the meantime, get a good paying job and start saving money. That way, when you turn 18 you can move out and get an apartment. Then, never talk to them again. If you do see them again, provoke them into hitting you. By then, you are a legal adult. You can call the police and press charges on them for battery. They will go to jail and get some punishment. I know it won't fix everything but at least you get some kind of satisfaction that they got some sort of punishment for what they have done.

Answer 6

Sorry to hear this... usually school councellors help, even though it is intimating at first. Look for a local youth shelter, talk to a relative, call a help line, tell the police, get some evidence and show some1. Stay at a friends place, and make sure u talk to some1 about this! Good luck hope things only get better for u!

Answer 7

well if this is true and your not a joker ( which i dont find funny as there are alot of children who go through this) then there is alot of help out there, ie child line, social services they will help you and it can all be confidentual as long as you make sure it is first, i was in care from 13 to 16 so i know its not nice, if you speak to a social worker as you are over 16 they can help you with getting your own place with a bit of help and some one to make sure your ok u have to prove you can cook clean etc and just tell your mum you want to stand on your own two feet and get a job then she wont be upset and u wont have to worry about that x good luck or else turn back round and smack em one they will soon stop !!! but dont if it will make it worse x

Answer 8

Go to your police department and tell them that you will not return to your abuse family. Tell them that you have contact Child Protection Services and they will not remove you from the home. Request to be placed in protective custody. If they refuse leave. Do you know anyone that will help you financially? Start calling every agency in your town, contact your mayor, your senator. Don't stop until you get help.

Answer 9

Call your grandmother,friend,aunt anyone and tell them about this as to live with them for a while get a job or two save up money and try to work really hard at school try to get in a college and when your 18 buy an apartment..And if nothing here works CALL A CHILDLINE

Answer 10

Depends on the state you live, but since you are 17 you might want to consider moving out, maybe with a friends family, get a part-time job and finish school.

Answer 11

Do you have other family members who would take you in? You are old enough to move out on your own if you so desire. Call your local Child Protective Services and explain your situation. I'm sure they will be able to help you. Good luck!