l love my husband ,but l go to bed thinking all night of my ex,l have dreams of us making love and all that,l dont know what is wrong with me,l have not see him since l married my husband,2 YRS now,but we do communicate on phone daily,he told me that he loves me and cannot carry on ever since l left,l tried not to see him all this while cos l know we love ourselves and seeing him we be dangerous,l dont want to cheat on my husband,l will see him this weekend cos l we be going to a friends birthday in the same building where he lives,l am stress because l dont know if l we be able to avoid the temptation thats is before me
2007-12-03 00:56:22 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to face the reality YOU ARE MARRIED! the feelings that you have are most likely from feeling that you had for him in the beginning of your relationship. Things change and your old relationship will never come back so suck it up and forget about it.
2007-12-03 01:12:38 · answer #1 · answered by Tina D 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honey, temptation is the worst!!! Just do not give into it!!!
I know it is hard, you have a child, and you are committed to your husband.
You have feelings, and that is all they are, just feelings, there is a reason why you broke up in the first place with your ex and there is a reason why you married the one you are with now.
If you are afriad of giving into temptation, do not go to the party, if you are that weak.
Love the one you are with, think, think about your child and your husand and if you give into temptation, then can you imagine the damage you will do to your marriage and the serious issues your son will have when you "give in to tempation"????? Do not do this!!!!
Honey, when I was first married, I kept on having dreams about my ex, for many months and many years!!!!! Eventually, I got over him, my husband and I had marital troubles, and we split up, and during that time, it gave me time to really realize how much I love and needed my husband in my life!!!!
There was a reason why I broke up with my ex, and when I was still thinking about him, it was the good memories I was remembering, not the bad ones!!!!! And believe me, there were bad ones.
2007-12-03 01:11:47 · answer #2 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As easy as this sounds, I know it's not. I struggle with the same problem with my boyfriend at times. The best thing to do is to avoid all communication. It will take a long time but after a while you will see that life goes on without him. Even though you think just talking to him does no harm, you and I both know it certainly does. Think about the devastating changes it would make to your husband and child if something happened. Think about the consequences. Do what you can to push him away. You have a family and a life without this man. Swallow those words hard and realize it's just the way it is. God bless.
2007-12-03 01:01:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You say you love your husband. Good then just continue to dream. Dreams are harmless and healthy. Stay away you will be looking for trouble. Maybe, you are in the need for some attention or romance. This is common, marriage after awhile becomes routine. Take some special time with your husband. If this does not work, you may have a more serious problem in your marriage than you think.
2007-12-03 01:02:12 · answer #4 · answered by clever girl 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
What the hell did you get married for? See ? Another case of another woman who can never be satisfied. Then you go running back for the sex. But whoa, then you wake up next this other dude and realize why you left him behind so long ago. Hmmm, will she tell her husband or will she live with the guilt? Then buy him huge gifts for Christmas. All is good, he thinks she love him, and she hides in shame. Or she makes a huge mistake and leaves it all behind and then doesn't realize her mistake till later. What will happen, who knows? Keep us informed.....
2007-12-03 01:10:11 · answer #5 · answered by Daniel R 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to break off the ties with your ex. Talking to each other on the phone daily is causing you to be confused. There is a reason you got divorced! Remember that! You are in a good relationship now, don't mess it up. It can be tempting, but you won't be happy going back.
2007-12-03 00:59:48 · answer #6 · answered by Kristy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quit talking to your ex and focus on your family. Your EX is an EX for a reason; Start acting like a good wife and get your head out of la la land. You are being very disrespectful to your husband, and kid.
2007-12-03 01:00:43 · answer #7 · answered by Brittney 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cheating doesnt always mean sex. you've already cheating on your husband for talking to you EX on a daily basis. if your feelings were always like this why get married? didnt you know Adultry is a sin?? you better hope hubby doesnt find out. and women have the nerve to say men are dogs. (shaking head)Women.
2007-12-03 01:01:17 · answer #8 · answered by SupaMan 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2017-03-03 11:06:48 · answer #9 · answered by Joel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up and smell the coffee, Tina. He's guilt-tripping you, and you are helping by obsessing over him. Stop calling him: It's time both of you got on with your lives.
If you can't on your own, get counseling.
2007-12-03 01:07:46 · answer #10 · answered by Tigger 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋