He is married with two children. I am in a long term relationship. We want to be together but don't know how to do it as we don't want to hurt our partners. What do I do?
2007-12-03 17:56:20 · 9 answers · asked by crazychick1975 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to play it cool. Dont put any pressure on this married man. It is very unlikely that he would leave his wife and children for you, and if you force him to make a choice you will be dumped for sure. If you really love him and still want to see him, dont make him choose. Dont make any commitment to each other. Dont even talk about it. Just spend whatever time you have together, enjoy yourselves and make some memories. If you are meant to be together in the long run, the time will come when it will be right for both of you. If it doesnt work out, he still has his family and you still have your relationship. No-one has to get hurt in this situation if you play it smart.
2007-12-03 19:13:33 · answer #1 · answered by saturdaygirl4 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find a man who's not married, who doesn't have children, and whose family you wouldn't be breaking up by being with him.
Break up with your boyfriend, there's nothing tying you to him if you're not married, and then back off from the married man.
He can tell you as much as he wants that he wants to be with you, but chances of him actually leaving his wife and children for you are slim. And if you continue to see him and are fine with him never leaving his wife, then you need to realize that he's not really with you for anything but the physical side of things. (I'm not positive you two have been physical together, but I'm assuming you have been.)
Even if he did leave his family for you, would that make you feel good? Taking those kids daddy away from being around them full time?
I don't mean to sound rude, but I really think you should re-evaluate things. Step back and think about the whole picture, not just your feelings. Good luck with things.
2007-12-04 02:04:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the feeling you are putting your interests above those of his children. Be careful not to be so selfish to ruin another woman's family. It may be her fault for marrying a guy who may not be all that into her. But he has two children, which means she has two children also, who's lives you would assist in severely traumatizing for the sake of your own emotions. I'm sure you wouldn't want to marry a man who'd ever be willing to compromise the love and devotion of you and your future children. That's the kind of man you're falling for.
I think you should seek a nice, good-looking single man (if the one you have now is not satisfying) to have children with whom to call your own. You'll be much HAPPIER.
2007-12-04 02:06:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't go there, you will be the one who will end up heart broken. Besides its not fair on the children, nor his wife. Stick clear of him as he is trouble and guarantee he will never leave his family. You may have feelings for him, however nobody wants to be classed as a home wrecker, his not worth it......
His not your knight in shining armour!
2007-12-04 02:51:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, the only feelings he has for you is in his pants.
You are only the latest in a long line of affairs he has had.
He will move on to his next conquest when you don't put out.
Don't sell yourself short or endanger your own relationship.
2007-12-04 02:00:29 · answer #5 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ill take it for granted, and this is a big assumption, u have good reason for staying with your partners, but you'll get caught sometime. for sure. u do the math.
2007-12-04 02:04:03 · answer #6 · answered by Blue Hues 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg; SUCH HOMEWRECKERS YOU BOTH ARE
YOU HAD BETTER THINK LONG AND HARD.
AND NOT JUST ON HIM. HOW FOOLISH OF YOU TO BELIEVE YOU WONT DO YOU THE SAME WAY WHEN HE GETS TIRED OF YOU. YOU ARE NO BETTER THAN HIS WIFE. FOR SHAME; I HOPE HE IS WORTH HELL FIRE AND THE DAMAGE YOU WILL CAUSE.
2007-12-04 02:04:04 · answer #7 · answered by roughdelicate 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can not be love Your spoiling two family please stop this diver your attention to your family
2007-12-04 02:04:47 · answer #8 · answered by skrn_d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF HE OR SHE IS CHEATING NOW IT WILL HAPPEN AGAIN
2007-12-04 02:03:16 · answer #9 · answered by SLOMO 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋