How do i tell my wife to stop it?

Question

I am having a bit of a breakdown. She has been good to me for a few years now. We have no kids thru choice and we enjoy our home together.

Recently during our loving sessions she has become more frisky. different outfits and stuff like that. I smiled and accepted as I appreciated the change from the lights off & silence. But now she has begun to talk during it. I admit the first few times were very good for me. But now she says things that upset me. She keeps calling me a "big black buck". I am a normal white guy from Kent and i dont get why she is doing this.

She tells me to go faster or give her some medicine, like "go on you big black buck give me your medicine". I find it all very embarrassing. I cant ask her afterwards as i am too ashamed. She never mentions it. I thought maybe i should tell her sister or her friend to talk to her.

I am lost with what to do. Does anyone else have this experience? Thanks

Answer 1

sorry, i dont get a woman riding me, calling me a big black buck.....

she could be havin an affair......
sorry to burst your bubble... lol ;)

and jesus Ollie, dont you see a wind up when it hits you in the face?? lol

Answer 2

Hi, I'm a Chinese which came from Singapore. Act fast... I think you're being a cuckold. Some things which came from the Chinese, woman wants tender instead of wicked. I think things turn out different, I thing you could find some advice from a marriages consoler to give you an idea or what. The most important, don't let your wife know, don't tick her off or scold her for calling you big black buck. But I don't have any experience, I just giving you an advise or have kids ASAP! Thats the way, get her drunk and get it going man!!!

Answer 3

Are you really going to tell her sister and freinds about this? Don't even think about it. If your wife found out you woould get an axe in the head!

I don't think she is getting medicine from a black guy. She would have to be dumb to then spill the beans. This is a fantasy she has, that she is enjoying playing out.

The rule in sex is that both must find some enjoyment in it, so if you aren't, then she is spoiling your fun and she must tone it down. Still, if it makes her uninhibited, perhaps you should loosen up and give her some earthy backchat. You both might enjoy.

Answer 4

You got a woman with control. Best thing to do, is to sit down, and tell her how what she tells you, makes you feel. Also try to make her understand that if she continues, your relationship will be affected by it and might change, alot. However, keep your intentions to "save the relationship" by saying you love her very often during the conversation and don't try the "IF YOU DON'T DO WHAT I SAY, THIS RELATIONSHIP IS OVER" I garantee that you might get some surprise...
Talking is the secret. For better results...make her a romantic dinner before the "talk".

Answer 5

I definitely don't think discussing this with her sister or friends would be a good move. You need to find a way to talk to her and tell her more what you would like and what you don't like. Communication is the key, so just find a way. You might find it easier to write your feelings down and get her to read it, if saying the words out loud is the problem for you then maybe that will be a way around it.

Answer 6

Uhhh... my man likes me to make casual conversation while we "have fun". Stuff like grocery shopping etc, which I find kinda hard to do but that's irrelavent to your question.

You can try telling her that the way she's changed her "pillow talk" is distracting you away from picturing HER when you're making love. That that's not how she is regularly and you want to make love to HER, not get caught up in the glitz and glamour and be distracted away from the pleasure of HER.

Ummmm... there are adult stores you can go to to find different things to "spice up your life" if that's helpful.

It sounds to me like she's desperately feeling the need to "spice things up" out of either a lack of security within herself or the feeling that you need more stimulation to be excited by her - and this may be for any number of reasons that you may or may not know.

I hope this helps you out in some small way.

Answer 7

Your wife has probably got a fantasty of having a black man .... try talking to your wife about it even during love making when she says it say so you fancy a bit of black buck then ... tell me more but say it in a sexy way..... I am a female and used to be like you very reserved and embarassed about sex but after my then boyfriend (who is now hubby) spent time making me feel relaxed about sex and not ashame to talk dirty to him and dress up ect we have a fantastic sex life..... dont involve her sister or her friend this will lead to a very embarassing situation for your wife....have you thought about your fantasies or how you would like your wife to act .... then try telling her

Answer 8

I would simply ask her why she is calling you a big black buck and see what she says. If she asks you why, tell her you find it odd, a turn-off or whatever. Speak to her only about it, after all you don't want all of your friends and family in your love life.

Answer 9

well a buck is a horse, so shes calling you a stallion. Thats nothing to be embarased about. And if you tell her sister or her friends about what shes doing in the bedroom your going to upset her. Just grow some danglies and talk to her!

Answer 10

Open up the lines of communication between you. If you are too embarrassed to broach this with your wife, how is it you don't get embarrassed to talk this over with her sister and friend?

I have no way of knowing if this is fantasy or what. But if you two don't talk, it will end in tears. Be sure of that.

Cheers

Lisa

Answer 11

Noo you cant tell her family or friends, thats embarrasin for your wife, the best thing to do is sit her down and talk, i mean isnt that what a marriage is? And if your not comfortable with the bed room situation you have the right to change it so you are, just sit your wife down and i am sure she will understand. Good luck hun xxx