My boyfriend and I have been together 6 years. In that time, naturally, his friends have become mine and vice versa. At the least, we all get along. However, one couple we know (friends that were his before our relationship) seem not to include me in their friendship. They just had kids and so, they don't really hang out anymore. So, he'll go to their house for dinner spontaneously. But, I only hear of it after the fact. The latest is, they sent him an invitation to their party. I usually get mine in the mail the same day, but did not. I moved a year ago. The excuse will be that they don't have my new address. They didn't ask for it either. When I mention this strangeness to my boyfriend, he says that there's no diabolical reason behind it. Still, I can't help but feel like they just... dismiss my existence. The relationship my boyfriend and I have is great. This isn't about him - it's them. I just need a way to put this in perspective. How should I deal with this?
2007-12-04 04:38:44 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is it thaaat important to you to go to their house? Are they even cool? Or, is it just because you werent invited is your mind racing what could he possibly be doing? You must learn to trust in your boyfriend that everything is okay. Also, send your boyfriend with some homemade brownies or something saying its from you. If they still are reluctant to chill out with you then take it as they must only feel comfortable hanging out with him. Thats fine really!!!! Some friends are jealous of other friends relationships and it takes a long time to smooth things out. However, your boyfriend may be part of the problem maybe he is using it as an excuse to have his own alone time!!!!! Or, maybe if you talked to him about how much it bothers you and just ask him to try and smooth things out on his end, why would it be such a big deal for you to hang out with everyone afterall, it is the holidays make some cookies, wrap it up and mail it to them maybe a little note saying"have a great holiday and enjoy your party!" Then they will know you didnt get your invite.
2007-12-04 04:55:15 · answer #1 · answered by Maddie Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dont worry about it because why do you want to hang out with people who are judging you b4 they know you and if you go to there house there will be alot of pressure on you because your going to have to try to make an impression on them and i would rather not work so hard for people who dont care. now if you really want this couple as your friends then impress, the only thing that can happen is they'll judge you if you mess up or they'll like you after.
2007-12-04 04:52:16 · answer #2 · answered by chicana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta act like you belong. If you fit in then they won't have a reason to not want you to be there. The only reason a guy wouldn't want you there is if he had to watch his Ps and Qs around you.
Or you could just do what my ex's have always done. Just sleep with my friends.
2007-12-04 04:45:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey if your boyfriend is any kind of man...you dont need an invitation! he can take you as his date. i would never had friends that would not have included or accepted my now wife while we were dating. if you dont go, i would certainly have ALOT of fun somewhere else that night.
2007-12-04 04:50:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him that you want to be involved and all you want to do is spend time with him. It doesn't matter about his friends, they'll get over it because you should be number one to him
2007-12-04 04:44:13 · answer #5 · answered by LoveMeForMe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋