Story: I started seeing this guy in July & fell head over heels. Things went well for a long distance relationship we were both happy until Oct. We had stormy times, & broke up at his request. I was devistated. We have not seen each other for 6 wks. He wanted to be just friends - I thought it would be too hard. But after two weeks agreed it was better than not having him in my life at all. We e-mailed, talked on the phone, etc since Thanksgiving.
Problem: He wants to be "just friends" and told me to move on. I had a date last week, while he knew I was out, he sent me 4 e-mails and was still on-line when I got home, said he couldn't sleep thinking of me with another guy. Okay, so I think he's wanting to be more than friends again. Last night while I was at work, he sent me a text asking how I was. We texted back and forth on my way home from work.
This morning I get an e-mail asking me not to contact him ever again?
What does he want from me?
We're 40ish, not kids!
2007-12-04 05:01:21 · 8 answers · asked by Tauri Athena 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds more like hes losing sleep over you, he misses you perhaps. if he is losing sleep over you I'd say that "just friends' is not going to work.
maybe he felt that if he never heard from you again he would be able to get over you???
Sounds more like you two need to figure out a way to make a long distance relationship work seeing how neither of you seems to be real happy ending it.
People say and do dumb things when they are dealing with emotions... even when they are 40ish.
good luck! i hope it works out for you both
2007-12-04 16:29:22 · answer #1 · answered by cocoa puffs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds really confused or involved with someone else. By the way he turns from hot to cold. Why let him have all the control of this relationship? Shouldn't you have a say in this also? And besides, you deserve to be with someone who knows what they want & can appreciate you. Seems like a waste of time dealing with his demands & control issues. Nothings wrong with keeping him as a friend but you call the shots, if its worth it to you.
2007-12-04 08:40:02 · answer #2 · answered by lovie808 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all he's an idiot....Sorry but the truth hurts... Trying to have your cake and eat it to never works out. He's wanting freedom to screw around... Hence the ending of the relationship the first time. This allows him to fool around without a guilty conscience. Then he's trying to keep you in his back pocket....just in case there is a late night chance for a booty call. Meanwhile knowing he cannot keep this up he uses your date to place blame on you and your now the one responsible for the failed relationship... You said 40ish-I say foolish!
2007-12-04 05:10:51 · answer #3 · answered by C G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He dumped you, and now he basically is getting jealous when you're with someone else? He sounds like a total chaunvinist loser. The sad part is that he hasn't moved on at all. But you did, so don't stop. Take care of yourself, have fun and don't let him hold you back.
He doesn't deserve you or anyone. Be glad you got rid of him so easily.
2007-12-04 05:12:59 · answer #4 · answered by lostinconfusion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a little older than you and have been there. Life it too short to waste time. Go out and enjoy every day to the fullest. If you find someone to spent it with that's great if you don't just keep plugging away.
2007-12-04 05:10:24 · answer #5 · answered by Johnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have heard of this before yet i doubt it... on occasion the unattractive adult men are the funniest, sweetest and kindest and with the aid of their sturdy personalities and sweet attitudes females will commence to fall for them perhaps after seeing the goodness and ask your self interior ... a sturdy guy can win hearts even if if he aint the most magnificent looking guy... yet i do imagine you should have an interest on your significant different on some element or you'll basically save the guy as you bestest buddy and fall in love with you may love for who they are and how bodily alluring they look :o)
2016-10-25 10:46:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats soo weird i think its not a good situation and u should leave him alone,,,,he sounds kinda like a crazy stalker and thats scary. also guys are always getting jealous but ive never heard anything like this, maybe hes bipolar
2007-12-04 05:07:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on and forget about him, it was only a few weeks. Why should you deal with his bi-polar moods?! Life is too short for that drama!
2007-12-04 05:16:50 · answer #8 · answered by Priscilla A. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋