Family & Relationships - 25 November 2007

we dated for 5 months befeore I begun to suspect he was married. he has been denying it and insisting that him and I will get married in January. but some times when I call him he wont pick up the phone. later he will call and pretend all is well. I got fade up despite the love and I have warned him so many times before. Then he did it again on friday and saturday. so I sent him text to say I am fade up and I believe he is either married, seeing someone else or both a and b. no response to date. I am going to his city this week and he knows that, how am I supposed to behave if he gets in touch with me? There are things I am still not sure of and if there was a chance of us staying together, I would gladly do so because I love him. I don't know what to do but I know I am also ready to move on instead of being lied to. But If I am wrong I would try again. Anybody please help me.

2007-11-25 20:12:18 · 8 answers · asked by justme 1 in Singles & Dating

I've been in a serious relationship for 6months now. However, i've not told him about a bank loan that i have and it's eating me up when i put in mind that he has revealed his skeletons to me and i cannot do the same.The reason is because I want to pay it up on my own as it is my debt and don't want him to feel like he needs to help me out. It may take me 2yrs to pay and as we are considering settling down together before then, when would be the right time to tell him ?

2007-11-25 20:09:27 · 6 answers · asked by shi b 1 in Singles & Dating

1, for abusing me growing up
2, my dad leaving me when I was 10
3, neglecting me
4, sending me off to military school at 15, where I was cut off from the rest of the world, not being able to communicate with anyone or any freedom for over a year

Sometimes I feel guilty for not liking my parents, but I still have such a huge grudge against them...

2007-11-25 20:05:49 · 9 answers · asked by puffer fish 5 in Family

I have been happily married for fifteen years. My female coworkers on hot days wear practically nothing. One night after work, I was in the file room. A coworker that was married came in. We were talking and she asked if I liked her. Of course, I said yes, and she kissed me. I returned the favor. We ended up making love right there in the file room and we have not stopped. Six months later, my wife and I were at a local bar when she came in and asked to sit with us. After having a couple of brews, she asked if we wanted to have a threesome. My wife was interested, so we went to our house. That evening and next day were wonderful. I had wild sex with two beautiful blonds. We usually get together once a week and have a wonderful time together.

2007-11-25 20:04:08 · 30 answers · asked by jim 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-25 20:00:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

well tomorrow there is an event i want to go to in a club in london, my aqauntant friends are going but im not sure if when i get thier they wil accept me in thier group to dance...
im not tha confidant and dancing is not a very fun thing for me (due to my confidance!!) but i really want to try and let it go for this night...
however i may get to the club to find they are not thier!
so i will be by myself...what do i do in times like this, its also a large club so mayb slighlty hard to find them, help please!
should i go, or should i stay at home like usual ):

2007-11-25 20:00:54 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-25 19:58:22 · 18 answers · asked by Ms Sharing of Life 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

This is really happened to me.Im in love with a girl she loves me alot.Unfortunately she got married(arranged) to another guy.She still loves me.Im very depressed by this.Our past n sweet memories are dwelling in my mind.Im unable to bare this pain.But when i ask her about pain,she says not having like me,she is normal.Im weeping like anything,im unable to control my emotions. Then wat is the difference between she n me.How to change my mind from her how to control my thoughts.But if our past comes into my mind i cant stop crying.Is im wrong by loving her too muchhh. Need serious answers plzzzz......

2007-11-25 19:54:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am recently single and do not enjoy my life home alone !

2007-11-25 19:52:03 · 9 answers · asked by tenderdeb627 1 in Singles & Dating

This question just came up in a converstation with friends and is it ever okay? Does this still apply to your ex's best friend?

2007-11-25 19:50:56 · 9 answers · asked by Alice N 1 in Singles & Dating

every time when i ask my relatives money i feel like its wrong and they will just say ( stop asking me money you have parents and i have kids to take care of. so why are your parents not taking care of you, you should be asking them money not me.)

2007-11-25 19:46:26 · 12 answers · asked by prudence 2 in Friends

any one in the plant have areal heart and have ahumanity and want to do nobel works ,i hold MSc in computer network and my wife hold BSc in law and have two kids the big is 3 years & the smal is 1 year . i want liveing peasely i deserve more than what i live currently please the terest capture my house and before one week my father was died please, please help me and thanks for every one spent time to read my sos

2007-11-25 19:44:10 · 5 answers · asked by adeelbaghdad 2 in Friends

I have a very very good friend, who I've known for years, she's generally a very nice chirpy happy girl, and we get on very well.
When we first met, yonks ago, we were like 14- I shot straight out and asked, if she would go out with me- just out of curiosity, and of course 14 y/o boys say some right stupid things, either way, she went all shy- i felt well nasty- and she didn't say yes, but she told me she wouldn't say no...since then we've gone to films and things together, I buy her a valentine every year, and I'm always her driver if we're going anywhere, but we've never considered it a relationship, and I've always thought she could do much better. She's had boyfriends(one of whom she says she still likes) and i've had girlfriends, but I have always had this niggling crush I can't get rid of, what would you do?
Do I ask her again and see if she still feels about the same?
Or do I keep my crush a secret? 8D
What du think could happen either way?

2007-11-25 19:42:34 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Im 24 i av a daughter 4 and a son 1 i am getting married in june me and my partner have been together 8 years but i got a big problem me and my daughter just dont get on i am consantly shouting at her sometimes i feel like smaking her or just leaving i dont no wat to do

any body got any idears on what to do i av tryed spending quality time with her i doesnt help. i love all my family to pieces and i would do any thing for them HELP!!!!!

2007-11-25 19:41:52 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Sometimes when I go over to a hot girls house to have some fun, her parents give me weird looks and asks me questions. Her dad would ask me why I like her and I don't know what to say. I wanna say "cuz she's hot", but I can't. What should I say to get along with the girl's parents? They're too overly protective of her! this girl is really good looking

2007-11-25 19:40:50 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm only 153 cm and 17.5 years old. Everyone around me are taller than me. my confidence is slowly withering away because all my friends are 160+cm and i'm scared that i wnt ever get a boyfriend, let alone get married. I dont want to go out with my mates anymore because one of them said that they only hang out with me because i make them look tall and good. it sucks and i want to grow taller so bad, but i've past puberty and theres probably no more chances left of that, cheers.

2007-11-25 19:25:20 · 10 answers · asked by little.clown 2 in Singles & Dating

how do you deal with a situation where your spouse doesn't trust your relations with a workmate of yours despite having explained that you just work together and nothing more than friends?

2007-11-25 19:18:15 · 11 answers · asked by ktamay 1 in Marriage & Divorce

we've been friends for a year, and I'm slowly falling in love with him. It hurts me sometimes, when he talks about girls coz i cant be that one, I really do like him. I was thinking to let go of this feelings, maybe its just crush but... everytime i'm alone, All I think about is him. I was thinking of moving away from him and to stop our communication, in that way i could move on further. But I really cant... everyday we're always together, we do things together and I really love to be with him. If I can't see him in a day it seems my day is not complete.

I dont want either to tell him how i feel because if he knows what I feel for him, he may be the one to keep the distance between us and it maybe difficult for me to accept that.

Right now, he's courting a girl and talks to/consults me about her a lot. It really really hurts me, but I still give good advice on how for them to become lovers.

I'm really torn.... can someone give me good advise?

2007-11-25 19:13:44 · 18 answers · asked by Spiderwebs 1 in Friends

Im in love with someone who steals from me and never calls.

I feel second best, and he flirts with other girls.

Somehow I just cant stop being in love with him.

I guess the sexual chemistry is just too much~

~I cant wait to screw him.

2007-11-25 19:13:28 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Last week, I went out with the guy that I like, he knows that to cuz my best friend told his friends when she was drunk! Now we could talk for the first time and I really liked it. He asked for my phone number and the next day he send a message, but since then he didn't reply at my message!
Why does it take so long?
I'm really desperate, my best friend who knows him says he's really picky!

2007-11-25 19:11:43 · 7 answers · asked by Saar 1 in Singles & Dating

I am not sure what my sexual orientation is. I am planning to try dating guys and see where that takes me. I do not know what my matrimonial future holds.

My friend says I should tell one person at a time. I do not know if I really even need to tell them.

My father and brother seem pretty anti-gay. My dad especially makes jokes about me being gay if I don't get a girlfriend.

2007-11-25 19:11:10 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

i asked this boy out and he said yes so we have gone out for 3 months he has not ever huged me so my m8 asked him to hug me and wont listen to me then today i asked my m8 to ask him to hug me and he huffed and put one arm around me he didn't even bother talking and saying bye and all my m8s boy friends gave them presants on there 2 week of going out i have not even got one


WAT SHOULD I DO???

2007-11-25 19:09:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-25 19:09:30 · 6 answers · asked by Kat 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-25 19:06:22 · 12 answers · asked by sammy p 1 in Family

I was the one that told him to pick up the phone because I feel so sorry for a poor black girl

2007-11-25 19:05:02 · 5 answers · asked by blackoil 1 in Singles & Dating

I know it wasnt easy for him to deal with my insecurity. I was being really difficult when he had to leave town for work. we had been together for 1 year, out of nowhere he broke up with me through text. i tried to call him, but he wouldnt answer my call nor my text.

i was about to break up with him, because i felt that he's no longer comfortable being with me, i asked to meet so that i could say it in person, face to face and make it a mutual decision....

but he texted me first, just minutes before our rendezvous. Now, i feel disrespected, dumped and yet i still miss him....

It's only been 1 day, and it hurts so bad. Please say something to me to make me feel better...how to make this pain go away? this is my first heart break...

2007-11-25 19:02:51 · 7 answers · asked by Duddette 2 in Singles & Dating

i had a secret relationship with a family friend.we had a relationship at the same time he was engaged to marry a girl he got pregnant.he said he didn't love her and would never marry but he did and since i really loved him even after he was married our relationship continued and when i finally realize i want to stop it i found out i was pregnant.now i'm raising my son alone without any help from him.he lives just beside our house and his son is only 6 mons older from mine.i don't want my son to be hurt knowing that his father is just there but doesn't care for him at all.it's only me and him who knows the truth no one else does...i wanna keep it a secret but what should i tell my son when he'll ask me someday who his father is...

2007-11-25 19:00:14 · 13 answers · asked by iane_d 1 in Family

No matter what culture it is, a father or an elder brother is very protective over a daughter or a younger sister especially the one with gentle personality and beautiful and cute appearance. A father or an elder brother is so protective that he has to know his daughter or younger sister's whereabouts all the time. In some case so protective that not let other men approach. Why is it like this?

2007-11-25 19:00:02 · 4 answers · asked by chayaninsun 1 in Family

We met at work. He's the most beautiful thing I've ever seen. He's a model. Right away we connected physically. By that I mean, whenever I was near him he would flirt with me, touch my arm, or grab my waist, etc. One of the first things he did was take my arms and put them around his neck and gave me a chocolate. He's very sweet. However, I know he has a history of flirting with women at work and then losing interest quickly. But we've kept in touch mostly because I wanted to. I'm not sure how he feels. Anyways, he wanted to come over once but I never called him back because I wasn't ready for sex w/him. I knew thats what he wanted. So for the past 2 yrs, no contact. Meanwhile he moved to NYC and I still live in Chicago. Well recently, I decided to call him and he just so happened to be in Chicago for Thanksgiving. He came over. We kissed (for the first time), and soon we were naked, but no sex. He said he wanted to get to know me better first. Should I feel insulted or glad about it?

2007-11-25 18:59:47 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I love my husband a lot. However, Whenever he does something that hurts me and I get upset, he gets mad at me. Even if he is clearly and admittedly in the wrong, he still gets mad at me if I'm upset.

Tonight he was looking for a packet of paperwork he needs for work tomorrow. He left it in the car. He couldn't find it, so I tried to help him. I found the paperwork in the trunk. I went to hand it to him and he grabbed it out of my hand and went in the house and slammed the door. I didn't rub it in his face that I found it or anything, I was just trying to help. This happens often. He takes things out on me or is ungreatful when I help him with things.

I told him that it hurts my feelings when he treats me that way and he just gave the a generic "sorry" and acted mad at me. I'm not sure of the correct way to respond to that. Tonight I told him that his apology meant nothing because he never does things differently afterwards. Was that wrong of me? What would you do?

2007-11-25 18:56:57 · 17 answers · asked by sarahbeth 4 in Marriage & Divorce