1, for abusing me growing up
2, my dad leaving me when I was 10
3, neglecting me
4, sending me off to military school at 15, where I was cut off from the rest of the world, not being able to communicate with anyone or any freedom for over a year
Sometimes I feel guilty for not liking my parents, but I still have such a huge grudge against them...
2007-11-25 20:05:49 · 9 answers · asked by puffer fish 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to Pray for them and for yourself as well. You need to sit down with them and talk the whole situation out, otherwise this hate will grow within you, and you will never have peace. May God Bless you and your Parents.
2007-11-25 20:39:55 · answer #1 · answered by The Questioner 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anyone that has never gone though the abuse, neglect, head games etc. will not understand. However having been though similar I can understand the hatred you feel for them.
Unfortunately keeping that hate inside us only hardens our hearts and blinds us to the kindness of the many people that are around us today. I know I failed to see many kind people that were really trying to help me because of that.
While you may never be able to be friends or even like the people that gave birth to you (anyone can give birth to a child that does not make them parents or even a mother or father.) it is important that you find a way to forgive them in your heart. More importantly you need to forgive yourself for the many things that you still feel were somehow your fault even though you had no control over what happened.
I know it’s not easy.
But just take it one day at a time and learn from the mistakes they made with you not to do the same to others. In time, though maybe difficult to believe right now, you will probably turn out to be a much stronger and kinder person than many of the people that had “normal” childhoods.
May Our Creator watch over and protect you.
2007-11-25 21:03:50 · answer #2 · answered by jerrys1960 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's Okay to hate your parents. But remember that they didn't have a parenting manuel to use with you growing up. Were they abused by their parents? It is usually what they learned. Did your Dad leave you or the family? Sending you off to military school was a form of caring believe it or not. If they didn't care, they wouldn't have bothered. They wanted to teach you something and felt the school could do it. the grudge will pass when you get a little older and can understand some of the reasonings behind the things that have happened to you.
2007-11-25 20:47:31 · answer #3 · answered by dallas 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some parents don't always have the best interests for their child, nor do they want the best for them. Parents can be selfish, and even jealous of their children. Maybe now your parents feel guilty for what they have done, however parents are just people, just like people you meet everyday. You are related by blood, however you were forced into this world by them, in that sense they bear a responsibility to protect you and nurture you. If a child truly hates their parents, than it is probably for a good reason. However if your parents are truly sorry, which is hard to tell, than its your choice to forgive them. Just remember their actions they did because of anger, selfishness, laziness or whatever will never be erased from your memory.
It's natural for children to love their parents dearly, and extremely unnatural for children to hate their parents. It's also extremely unnatural for parents to want to cause their children harm, or unhappiness. If your parents are aware of the fact that you hate them and don't feel guilty for what they did, or try make things right, than that means they still don't feel what they did was wrong, or that they just don't care.
2007-11-25 20:38:05 · answer #4 · answered by crazytrader101 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all - do the math - count the blessings you have NOW. Take a step back and find out if you're a better person for it or not. If not, then take the steps to better yourself and try to learn to forgive them. Forgiving them doesn't mean everything is erased. But it lightens the load on your shoulders. Look to the future and leave all those bad memories behind and learn to forgive them for their stupidity.
2007-11-25 20:15:23 · answer #5 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find out why they abused you & why they sent you away. Most of all ....WHAT KIND OF PEOPLE ARE THEY? Are they worth your loving them? Get some insight as to how they feel about you. I don't think you hate them. If it were me I'd feel sorry for them that they are so messed up to act that way. Do they need help from you?
2007-11-25 20:35:39 · answer #6 · answered by TOM J 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no matter how much u hate ur parents...they still ur parents...nothing u cant do or change with that..they just do what they think the best for u (even sometime they are wrong) but remember..this life is yours...u can choose the way u want...but dont ever lost urself!!
2007-11-25 20:15:13 · answer #7 · answered by maxie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You do not have to forgive them.
Hate can eat you up inside.
For your sake, let it go and move on.
Your happiness is more important than keeping the anger alive.
2007-11-25 20:49:09 · answer #8 · answered by ScootRBoy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should seek the Lord whole-heartedly and ask Him to help place forgiveness in your heart. You should forgive them, for yourself.
Release all that negative baggage that you have been carrying around all these years and exchange it for peace, forgiveness, joy, hope, love, and prosperity.
-May the Lord bless you.
2007-11-25 20:13:44 · answer #9 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋