Help!!!!!!?

Question

Im 24 i av a daughter 4 and a son 1 i am getting married in june me and my partner have been together 8 years but i got a big problem me and my daughter just dont get on i am consantly shouting at her sometimes i feel like smaking her or just leaving i dont no wat to do

any body got any idears on what to do i av tryed spending quality time with her i doesnt help. i love all my family to pieces and i would do any thing for them HELP!!!!!

Answer 1

I would say besides taking some parenting skills, go to Church and take your family. Submit to God. Seek the Lord with all your heart. Teach your children about God and His word.
When I submitted to the Lord, I found that I have more peace and patience for my family. I am very calm and I
no longer blow up for every little thing. Having God in your life changes you and your family for the better. I loved my family that much to change and submit to the Lord. I am a better person because of it.
-A family who prays together stays together.
-God Bless & Happy Holidays.


Proverbs 12:14 (NIV) Bible
From the fruit of his lips a man is filled with good things as surely as the work of his hands rewards him.

Proverbs 13:2 (NIV) Bible
From the fruit of his lips a man enjoys good things, but the unfaithful have a craving for violence.

Matthew 7:17 (NIV) Bible
Likewise every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit.

Matthew 7:18 (NIV) Bible
A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, and a bad tree cannot bear good fruit.

Matthew 12:33 (NIV) Bible
"Make a tree good and its fruit will be good, or make a tree bad and its fruit will be bad, for a tree is recognized by its fruit.

Galatians 5:22 (NIV) Bible
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,

Ephesians 5:9 (NIV) Bible
(for the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness and truth)

James 3:17 NIV) Bible
But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.

Answer 2

You need some help here, so why not get some parenting advice, from a counsellor, books, tapes or whatever. Shouting is never a solution because each time you have to shout louder, and in the end the kid just gets used to it, takes no notice and ends up losing respect for the parent. Lay down some rules for your daughter. STICK by the rules whatever happens...then she'll respect you...she'll feel more secure too...really it works! Kids have to know just how far is too far...that's why rules are important...they understand them...they understand why they are punished when they break them, they accept this and their behaviour gets better, the relationship gets better. You will have to be very consistent...kids don't understand if one day you punish her and one day you don't etc. I think 'time out' is a good punishment (not smacking etc!) But your first rule is YOU don't shout! She is probably already immune to it!

Answer 3

hello there it normal to feel this way but when things get bad just walk away from your daughter make a cup of coffee if she feels as if your on her back that may trigger more atmosphere so stay calm i have 3 kids each with different problems and it is very trying at times but you need a break from your daughter to is she in play group i put my 3 yr old in playgroup and found our relationship better hope i have helped please relax and some of the time let things roll of your back ok chin up.

Answer 4

perhaps you could use some parenting classes or therapy to learn how to relate to your daughter.

i know you love her, but kids don't come with instruction manuals... and sometimes, personalities clash - even if she is only four.

there are a lot of resources for help out there, and i hope you can find some good advice! take care of you and that family

Answer 5

maybe ask her if she wants a bit more personal space and then go out occaionaly as a family (with every1) maybe that will help