Should I Tell My Friends and Family About My Struggle?

Question

I am not sure what my sexual orientation is. I am planning to try dating guys and see where that takes me. I do not know what my matrimonial future holds.

My friend says I should tell one person at a time. I do not know if I really even need to tell them.

My father and brother seem pretty anti-gay. My dad especially makes jokes about me being gay if I don't get a girlfriend.

Answer 1

Wait until you are sure about how you feel. There is nothing to share until then. You are still confused. Why confuse them too?

Answer 2

I would wait on telling anyone in your family. As far as friends....if you have one that you can totally trust and you know they will accept you regardless and give you wise advice then talk with them. Don't tell anyone and everyone until you are secure in your sexuality.

Another suggestion is to try to talk with a therapist at your college. You should be able to talk to someone there who could give you some feed back and bounce your thoughts and feelings off of without it costing you anything. I would do some research on that if I was you. This could be a safe alternative to get some unbiased advice.

Answer 3

"I am not sure what my sexual orientation is. I am planning to try dating guys"........

YOUR GAY.
You are going to start seeing guys, straight guys don't say lets give another guy a spin just to see if I like it. Your gay and there is nothing wrong with that. Tell your family when your ready, but first get your head together. How can you expect them to accept it, when you have not accepted it yet.

Answer 4

I would not tell them yet. You never know how they are going to take it so figure yourself out first. Families sometimes take it the worst. Don't worry about your matrimonial future. Do not get married because that is what is expected. You will be miserable.

Answer 5

Its your life have a long talk with father explain to him it may take time but a fathers love is strong. I used to have the same anti gay feelings. Good luck

Answer 6

If you're unsure of what your sexual orientation is, then I wouldn't bother telling anyone. If you decide you're straight you might regret it.

If your Dad is making comments like that then he probably suspects something though.

Answer 7

see how you feel about guys first..
if then you think your gay or bi then you have to think about how your family an Friends might reacted .. I'm not telling you to hide your sexuality.. but you have to be sure be for you say it to you family.. with friends ??? i guess that how you hide out who really cares for you.. I'm sure they will sick by you either way..
good luck..
an i hope you find your self

Answer 8

Follow your heart.......it doesn't matter what your father and brother think about gays, you have choices and you can make any decision you wish. If I were you I would wait until you decide what your sexual preference is before letting anybody know.

Answer 9

i personally dink u should wiat a while b4 tellin any 1 i mean i'm bisexual n i havn't told my mom but i my best frend knows n my bf but dats about it ur business is ur own but u should tell at least 1 person so dey can help u u feel meeh ehehehe

Answer 10

i think you can judge yourself by the comfort level you share with them..i understand it'll be very tough but you will have to take it as the stark reality.you cant change the truth.please think very very carefully before you take the decision.tell those who can understand your view point and not to those whom you feel will just mock you........sad....please deal with it bravely.