well tomorrow there is an event i want to go to in a club in london, my aqauntant friends are going but im not sure if when i get thier they wil accept me in thier group to dance...
im not tha confidant and dancing is not a very fun thing for me (due to my confidance!!) but i really want to try and let it go for this night...
however i may get to the club to find they are not thier!
so i will be by myself...what do i do in times like this, its also a large club so mayb slighlty hard to find them, help please!
should i go, or should i stay at home like usual ):
2007-11-25 20:00:54 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is exciting....
so take this now as the most challenging time of your life..to build your confidence, to be exposed to people..and to test your credibility as a young woman....okay , finding out that your friends wont be around then you are faced with anything that can happen like guys may come near you and talk to you,invite you for a dance..all this happens while waiting of course....just decline politely and say you are waiitng for some company but don't show any fear...be confident and just be yourself...while you don't enjoy dancing, ok, just go with the flow and experience it..just for the fun of being with your friends..but if alone, maybe you'd better just get a place where you can sit comfortably and wait for them to come and since you are a decent person, so there is no need to worry ok???If they really didnt appear and stood you up, then leave the place gracefully still with a lot of charm..ok???After this event, I am sure you will feel a real new you! Staying at home will not actually help you develop your personality, the more you succumb in your shell and out of touch of the real world, you will become more inferior, shy and unaccomplished..............get out of your shell, will you???
2007-11-25 20:37:43 · answer #1 · answered by E@rthGoddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to the club. Hang out by the bar or find a seat somewhere. Usually its doesnt take guys long to spot a girl standing alone, so you shouldnt be alone for long. If you drink, get one as soon as you walk thru the door, just to loosen you up a little.
This is a perfect opportunity for you to gain confidence.
Even when i go to the clubs with friends, it is very rarely that i stick with them. I usually go off on my own, stand alone, get a drink, dance with a few guys, then later own bump into my friends somewhere in the club or at the end of the night.
I also, go out by myself to bars, i may know people but noone that i hang out with may be there, and those nights i may just sit around and enjoy myself, by myself. There is nothing wrong with that and it beats sitting home in front of the T.V. all nite.
2007-11-26 04:09:16 · answer #2 · answered by Real Talk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marie you have made the first steps if you wish to do something so bad what is stopping you already you have shown you have confidence in asking this question you want to go so bad and a little frightened in case you are alone marvellous just thing you might meet a cool guy there don't be afraid get your glad rags on honey and knock them out friends or no friends and stand tall why think you need friends but please be careful whom you talk to and don't leave with any one for safety and you will be safe and get a taxi home good luck Dave
2007-11-26 04:07:39 · answer #3 · answered by Psycho Dave 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go by yourself, absolutely. You'll be fine. Let a friend know where you're going and when you think you'll be home, then check in with him or her afterward, just to be safe. I guarantee your acquaintances will be happy to let you join them. However, if you feel they don't welcome you, or you can't find them, and start to feel insecure or awkward on your own, a good thing to do is to find a stool and hang out at the bar, until you feel comfortable enough with your surroundings to hit the dance floor. Chances are, you'll be asked to dance before you know it, but if you're not, you can always chat with the bartender. If you really start to feel insecure, you can always look for a friendly looking girl heading for the dancefloor, and ask her if she would mind if you dance with her group for awhile, because your friends have taken off, but you didn't feel like heading home. I'm sure she'll be happy to take you under her wing. Have fun. Any time I've seen a girl at the bar by herself, I've admired her confidence, so whether you feel it or not, you'll look confident to other people.
2007-11-26 04:12:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you couid go out by yourself,just make sure you have a safe way there and back home,dont go off with no one after the club is over,in fact try to leave before it ends. dance to enjoy the music not to show off and you'll have fun. usually nobody knows the difference and are having a good time.
2007-11-26 04:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by thehottestbradpitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't ya'll meet up before you go to the club that way you don't get left in the dark?Because you really should not go to the club by yourself.This world is to crazy for that.And I know from experience you don't want to stay home.Good luck and always have fun.
2007-11-26 04:08:50 · answer #6 · answered by Lindsey Brown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know many females who go "Clubbing" by themselves...
Just make sure your safe go and coming from the Club, let people know where your going and a rough time your coming back, do not get too drunk and beware of the company you keep...otherwise just "PARTY" and be "HAPPY"... nobody cares what you look like on the Dancefloor as long as you are happy, having fun and do not swing your arms around too much...
2007-11-26 04:07:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go there, take a chance. If they're not there or if you feel uncomfortable and unhappy you can always leave. Be careful and don't get too drunk to care of yourself if someone comes on too strong. Maybe you could pick one of your friends you feel most comfortable with and ask her if she'll meet you there at a certain time near the front door.
2007-11-26 04:05:13 · answer #8 · answered by braennvin2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about contacting a (different) friend to go along? I think going to a club by yourself kind of takes a large portion of the fun out of it. Just my opinion, I could be wrong.
2007-11-26 04:05:55 · answer #9 · answered by bindardundat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt want to just cause i'd feel a bit uncomfortable but clubs are so busy people cant even tell if your on your own so as long as you take a phone with you and are careful not to leave with anyone you should be ok
p.s if your a friend they should let u dance with them, if they dont they are mean and you deserve better people you know
2007-11-26 04:05:45 · answer #10 · answered by Emma B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋