Im in love with someone who steals from me and never calls.
I feel second best, and he flirts with other girls.
Somehow I just cant stop being in love with him.
I guess the sexual chemistry is just too much~
~I cant wait to screw him.
2007-11-25 19:13:28 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're not in love. When you love someone you are able to name actual things about that person that makes you love them...you are naming just the opposite. You're just in lust.
2007-11-25 19:25:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, this has happened to me, and those that say "Move On", well maybe they haven't been there.
The nasty behavioral psychiatrist B.F. Skinner actually invented an experiment that tested this (as well as confining his own daughter to a rather small box). He found that if he wanted a pigeon to repeat the same thing over and over, that consistent reward, although a stronger stimulant than punishment, eventually resulted in the pigeon getting bored and doing nothing.
What worked, and perhaps what your "fatal attraction" is doing like mine did, was to start by giving a big reward and then suddenly giving nothing or even punishment for the desired behavior, and from time to time, rarely and with no pattern, giving a reward again. Then the pigeon would keep pecking where Skinner wanted it to practically forever.
As hard as it is to swallow, there's merit to the lack of self-esteem issue others have mentioned: and he's probably worse than you in that regard, judging from his stealing and so on. But you're at a disadvantage, because if he's really ruthless, then no matter what you do to "get even" -- he will eventually do worse. When my girlfriend eventually ran off with a real creep, a psychotherapist (Oh, yes.) told me this by way of explanation. "Why she's gone with someone so lousy when I was so good to her?", I asked. "You know", she said, "there are some people whose self-esteem is so low, that the only treatment they consider to be honest IS abuse." The fact was the fabulous girl I loved -- SHE HERSELF thought that person was a myth. It's only twelve years later that I'm willing to admit to myself that might be true. So I know it's persistent, and it hurts.
Does this keep happening to you "for no reason"? Do you maybe feel short-changed in other areas of your life as well? Well, the same therapist told me this: "I think if you were more realistic, you'd have to admit that there is a lot about rabbits, and the way that rabbits act, which is VERY attractive to snakes."
Don't let people put you down. You have a right to your feelings, I think, and to make mistakes. After all, who really "chooses" who they fall in love with, except on the awful Eharmony.com commercials. If you accept that it's just par for the course, maybe you won't expect so much and things will go better -- even in this dubious "relationship". But then again, if you just keep heating up the same leftovers, it's going to make a lousy dinner anyway.
Why not look him straight in the eye the next time he talks to you and say, "I think you're boring." My guess is that will get his attention -- which is what he's really after in his left-handed way. He just doesn't believe that anybody who likes him is worthwhile, that's all. People like this are like trying to deal with Helen Keller: the question is, do you really care, or is it just a challenge for you? Nothing wrong with either: just adjust your tactics and expectations accordingly.
2007-11-29 03:16:19 · answer #2 · answered by titou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easier said then done: MOVE ON sweetheart cause the more you sit there and put up with the BS then the more your going to get caught up. Best thing to do is find someone else who care for you to cover up the void he gives you. And eventually you will fall for someone else instead of the other guy!
2007-11-26 03:21:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is same like your father and u are same like your mother....
if u don't want a family similar with what your parents created.
then take your time and choose your future husband wisely...
there is a bunch lots of good and cute guys out there...
this guy got no real feeling for u... to him u are just one of the gals he flirts with....
better dump this ******** asss hole and gets one that really love you...!
the right guy that got real feeling for u will treasure u like his queen... he will share your happiness and sadness...
whatever he do...he will think of u.. and do all sorts of thing just to make u happy... he will never flirts with other gals..
to him...u are special and no other gals can compare to u..!
so don't give up a forest of good trees for a piece of rotten wood... okay... ? good luck..!!
2007-11-26 20:09:53 · answer #4 · answered by nightowls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fall back out of love fast
And next time you see him
say something nice then leave for ever
2007-11-26 19:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
whatever works, but if you allow him to have sex with you after he steals and treats you like dirt, you might want to take a good, hard look at your self-esteem.
most women wouldn't give him the time of day.
try a vibrator.
2007-11-26 03:17:00 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if he doesnt care than there is your answer. you need try and move on and get on with things. there is someone out there for you.
2007-11-26 03:36:22 · answer #7 · answered by Amy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't love you and you're just flirting...you have no self-esteem at all I guess...sorry to tell!!!
2007-11-26 03:35:20 · answer #8 · answered by Nainai55 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're a shallow biotch. . .that's pretty much the message I'm getting here
2007-11-26 03:17:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Call me and I wont steal from you.
2007-11-26 08:00:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋