Family & Relationships - 15 October 2007

Everytime they have to go to a party for my ex or his wife or any one else, they moan and groan about it for a week in advance. So I get the message that it is just a pain in the rear for them to go to these parties. I don't want to be just another "obligation" that they have to get out of the way. So I told them "I just don't like all the attention." Now they are acting like I am a nut. Also, they end up spending a fortune everytime they take me to dinner, etc. $200.00 bottles of wine and I don't even drink. A card would do just fine for me. I know that they love me and other than this birthday thing, we have a great relationship. How do I get them to understand?

2007-10-15 05:02:19 · 9 answers · asked by Collinwood 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I recently broke up with my boyfriend of a year. We talked about marriage, children, and became very close with one another.
The reasons I broke up with him:
1) He's Muslim, I'm Catholic. Could never come to an agreement on wedding plans/children's religions
2) We could NOT have sex!! He just could NOT perform. He would be finished after about 30 seconds. I was not satisfied at all, ever. We tried working on it but it never got better
3) We ALWAYS fought about stupid things.

But the thing is, he was such a good bf. Told me I was beautiful, was faithful and never let me know. He'd drive an hour to come and see me every single day and treat me like a queen when we were getting along. I just fell out of love.

Were my reasons justified or should I get back together with him? I regret it more and more everyday, wondering if I'll ever meet someone like him again...

2007-10-15 05:01:47 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husband and I are starting marriage counseling soon. He is military facing deployment in the near future. Lots of possibilities and positives/ideas but I dwell in the negative. Others closest to me say I should leave him, yet offer no alternative solution. They address him as being the problem rather than there being problems with the relationship. I feel consumed by something dark, like i am the void rather than falling into it, I know i love but do not feel what I have come to associate with love. which is real? what is truth? what is emotional abuse? there is so much bad in our past. I fear telling the counselor. will she tell me to leave him too? i have nothing if i leave (friends resent me for choosing him, won't go home either), and i love him? will she offer judgement rather than solutions? he opens up and then shuts down. I have walls, inability to trust. no understanding or consistancy. Is this worth saving? we approach life as opposites. compatibility: a need or a want?

2007-10-15 05:01:34 · 6 answers · asked by cav71006 1 in Marriage & Divorce

It annoys the shitt out of me!!! Does it annoy you? Are you a relative that asks this question??? Why dude? Why?

2007-10-15 04:59:28 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My daughter's b-day party was Saturday and my besfrd's car wouldn't start. She called every last one of her sister's to get a ride to the party. Not 1 of them would come up and drop her off.I had my BF pick her up since no one could do her the favor. She was mad at them b/c she has always been there for them. At the party we made plans to make a big Sun. dinner at her house. I went (Sun.) to pick her up to go the the store. While we're out her sis calls asking where she was, she replies and then her sis asks what you cooking today and my Besfrd being the person she is tells her oh me and momo are making a big dinner, so her sis's invites herself and says i'm going to call teh other sis to come up. She gets off the phone and tells me and I flipped and said no 1 of them could drop you off but they are quick to come eat up for free right. I told her no i will not feed all of them us just with us was alot of ppl. Was I wrong? i cook'd @ my house instead.

2007-10-15 04:59:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

This is really childish, but I want to get the consensus out there. So I took a girl out on friday, it went very well and I'm really excited about her. I told her I'd call her this week (when I really wanted to call her yesterday), and I was going to call her on wednesday at the earliest. However, I heard from a mutual friend that she likes to make the guy work, and likes to be chased. Is this an exception to the three day rule (turned 5 day rule in this case), and is it ok to call her sooner? Furthermore, will waiting till wednesday make a girl like that think I don't care?

Thanks for the input!

2007-10-15 04:59:01 · 3 answers · asked by Nate 6 in Singles & Dating

I divorced my husband some years ago, I am now very happy with someone who has taken on my son and my son has called him dad for the last 4 years. We have a baby son together and now my son who is 8 years old has decided that he would now like to change his name to be the same as his brother and dad, but I need to know what I have to do to have this done legally.

2007-10-15 04:57:34 · 15 answers · asked by kaz100jay 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband gets angry when I bring up a friend. For example I was going to take some of my old jeans to my friends' daughter she is about my size now and my husband was instantly angry. I could hear it in his voice. Then a day later he asked me if I wanted to go to a three day class with him, I would have went, but we are in the process of moving and I figured since we are trying to save money, if I did not need to be there I would just go to work. Again when I asked if I had to be there he said no, so I said probably not and the angre came out in his voice over the phone again. I do not know what to do to get to the root problem, if there is one or where to turn now. I do not want a divorce I want to stay married I love him, just needing some advice on what should be done to make our relationship run more smoothly.

2007-10-15 04:54:32 · 10 answers · asked by outgoing pincess 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Me and my partner have been together for 5 years but we had a split after 4 years. My partner and i were in very different places and wanted different things out of life. In that time my partner got into huge amounts of debt having the life he wanted. We promised to not share money as he owes alot more than me and we shared money before and it caused arguments. However i think we are both in the same place now and have the same dreams and goals. He currently budgets himself but every week he goes over, spends more than he can afford and forgets about bills he owes, basically he is terrible with money and always has been, the only difference is now he actually wants to get it right. im thinking to accept he is terible with money and go all in to take control of this and do this idea. We put all money in together and whatever is left we half....does this work and am i wrong to want to take charge, i just feel its the only way we can have a healthy future together.

2007-10-15 04:51:32 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I found out he is in a website looking for girls and saying he is separated. Three month ago he started to go out all the time and didnt want to talk to me.And know he is saying he is willing to change and he is acting very nice with me and not going out anymore. This weekend he said if I dont get pregnant quick , I dont have to be surprise if I found out he is dating another woman. I feel really bad. I asked him if he is already looking for another woman and he promise me that no!!! But I found out already his ad in a dating website. What should I do!

2007-10-15 04:49:46 · 24 answers · asked by Estrella 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband and I have been together for 10 years. We have a 3 year old son. Our relations have deteriorated beyond repair: there are no more feelings left besides sadness for the lost years (at least on my part); I am not even angry any more...our relations continued through cheating (on his part), moving across the country (I followed his job moves and was able to find jobs everywhere we went), his multiple job losses, infertility treatment, his affair, his "business game" and the loss of most of our savings...and now his other "dream": he wants to become a cop in NYC and he is not exactly 22 years old anymore...I couldn't handle it anymore and filed for divorce...I can afford to support my son, but am I making a mistake? I am so miserable and unhappy...I trully believe I will be better off on my own...

2007-10-15 04:49:44 · 21 answers · asked by Alla 2 in Marriage & Divorce

He doesnt want ANY THING to do with me. Won't even try to kiss me...nothing. We havent had sex in 5 months!! Now, he did have a heart attack in May, but he was doing this long before that. He's 43, and I'm 36. We will be married 3 yrs. this month. Im so sick over this. He works ALOT! He DOES work, I know that. He comes home maybe 2x a week, cause he works far away. Then when he comes home, its not even a Hi. Ive tried talking to him......and thats a joke. What would be the signs of an affair? Thank you

2007-10-15 04:49:08 · 25 answers · asked by Cheri S 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-15 04:47:24 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I wonder if it is harder for the man or woman, with custody of the kids, to date. What are the differences in dating for both when they decide to get back to dating. What issues do they face that are similar or different

2007-10-15 04:46:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

All I keep hearing about is that couples should be getting married. To improve our society, and now tax breaks for married people.

My partner and I have been together 12 years we had a 3 year old son, my son knows his parents love each other and more important than that, we love him. We are not married, and none of us ever have been. I refuse to accept that marriage is best, and will not spend on average £11,000 for a piece of paper to confirm my love to my partner.

I would rather invest that money into my sons future, for college or what ever he decided to do. Surely with the divorce stastics at all time high, should we really be all that quick to get married. Does marriage really make you more solid as a couple. i am not totally against married but i personally would only consider marriage if my son said it made a difference to him. My only concern is that should anything happen to 1 of us, the other is not consider a next of kin, or legal partner.
anyone agree??

2007-10-15 04:46:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My guy and i have been together for a little over a year and it's starting to annoy me that he refuses to think about the future.. he wants to be a kid forever and it's driving me crazy that in our relationship he acts like the girl and i'm like the guy.. If we end up together how do i get him to be a man and take charge?

2007-10-15 04:45:25 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

So here it is. I was with my girl this weekend and well we were about to have sex when something happened my manhood failed me. Which this was very embarrising first off this has never happend before. Second it shouldnt of happened im only twenty one. So what the hell went wrong? What can i do to make sure this never happens again? And why did it happen and with her? like i said its never happened with any other girl. But i have never felt this way or cared so much about any other girl as much as i do about her. Somebody please help me out!

2007-10-15 04:42:35 · 23 answers · asked by Skyline 1 in Singles & Dating

My husband and I have been together for 8 years (married 6 ) Not always an easy road for us; we have both had issues. Wth him, it has been his alcoholism (he has been clean 2 years now), and emotional detachment and smoking. With me, my low self-esteem, sharp tongue and anxiety. When I met him, he was a mess emotionally and physically and now he has lost 30 pounds and looks and feels better than ever. I loved him then and still do. Sometimes I say I wonder why but then why would I still be here otherwise?
Now that he looks very attractive women hit on him more than ever. I have never had a horrible issue with it; I take it as a compliment. One thing I knew I could always trust him in is that he wouldn't cheat. However, he recently said he he has feelings for a co-worker; he gets butterflies around her and wants to get to know her. He come home crying and determined to tell me even though he was afraid I might leave. What should I do? I told him forget her; it's a silly crush.

2007-10-15 04:42:35 · 13 answers · asked by em 2 in Marriage & Divorce

What would you change if you could change one thing about your man? and what differance would it make

2007-10-15 04:39:46 · 4 answers · asked by me1234529 1 in Marriage & Divorce

A few days ago one of my co-workers that I have been working with for 6 months asked my for a favor. The favor was for me to follow her to drop off her car and give her a ride back well the place was like 45 minutes away from our job. First of all she gets in the car doesn't even say thank you, then on our way back to our job my gas light goes on I tell her "oh god I need gas we better stop somewhere". She just tells me were I could go and doesn't even offer a dime. My issue is not the money but the fact that I didn't even get a "thank you".

2007-10-15 04:39:25 · 13 answers · asked by Jewel 2 in Friends

I have been married for 13 yrs and just recently my husband moved out for no reason what so ever. He has not given my a reason as to why and he won't talk to me about it. We have 4 wonderful kids and they are hurting as well can someone give me some advice on what i can do to change the out come of this i don't want to go through a divorce and have to put my kids through that. Please just give me some type of advice or hope that i can work this out.

2007-10-15 04:39:05 · 4 answers · asked by darpadilla 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My family and I got into a huge fight over the weekend about my who I should date. I am so confused and would like help and nice answers. I have dated this guy off and on for 8 years, which has been pretty rocky. I try so hard to get more from him and when I don't get it, then I feel really down. I think in my head I am choosing to see the picture of us and the future. How do I stop putting this picture and future in my head if it never will be?

2007-10-15 04:35:32 · 5 answers · asked by padros 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

I have custudy of my daughter. Her mom keeps telling her that when she turns twelve, in the state of Texas, law says she can go live with her

2007-10-15 04:32:49 · 10 answers · asked by Veronica V 1 in Marriage & Divorce

He will not let her take any of her clothes or her sons clothes(he is not the father). He is harassing her and her parents. Her parents had things stored at thier house and he will not let the the parents posessions leave his house. Need help.

2007-10-15 04:32:08 · 20 answers · asked by roger p 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-15 04:31:55 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-10-15 04:31:03 · 43 answers · asked by Alicia C 1 in Singles & Dating

WHO HAS MORE COMMON SENCE???

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2007-10-15 04:28:49 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

When I talk to this girl what does it mean if she smiles at me.

2007-10-15 04:28:46 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

He said he has been staying at his mother's house to help her, she lives 20 miles away, I drove past at night a few times and he is not there. He will not come clean and tell me where he is, but I know in my heart he's not out doing anything good. When is enough enough?

2007-10-15 04:28:39 · 29 answers · asked by itsjust me123 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-15 04:28:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating