So here it is. I was with my girl this weekend and well we were about to have sex when something happened my manhood failed me. Which this was very embarrising first off this has never happend before. Second it shouldnt of happened im only twenty one. So what the hell went wrong? What can i do to make sure this never happens again? And why did it happen and with her? like i said its never happened with any other girl. But i have never felt this way or cared so much about any other girl as much as i do about her. Somebody please help me out!
2007-10-15 04:42:35 · 23 answers · asked by Skyline 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It happens to everybody. Don't fret about. Just move on.
2007-10-15 04:46:23 · answer #1 · answered by Jabberwock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anxiety has a lot to do with it. And it is NOT abnormal. And it will probably not happen to you again, until you are much, much older, if even then. You admit you have never cared so much before. Tension, nervousness, anticipation, anxiety....all play a factor. Of course you were embarrassed. Anyone would be. But it is not really anything to be embarrassed about....if it weren't for stereotypes of guys always being "up" (no pun intended) for it, people would realize even guys have emotions that control their sex drive and the ability to perform. You may want to in the worst way, but your emotions and hormones go into overload, and your body says, "Nope, not right now". The next time, every thing will be fine.
2007-10-15 11:52:40 · answer #2 · answered by claudiacake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first off if you masturbate a lot than this can cause erectile dysfunction when you need it like in the case with your Girlfriend. You shouldn’t masturbate any more than once a week and that’s even pushing it. Erectile dysfunction can occur at any age really it’s just more common in older men. There are sexual aids out there that can help with this problem but I’d suggest you lay off the masturbating for a while to see if you can get back in action.
2007-10-15 11:49:31 · answer #3 · answered by Spike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put simply...NERVES!!! Give it time! You probably got so nervous about the whole sex thing with her, your system had 'Melt Down"!! Tell her this! Explain to her how you fell, and how nervous and anxious you were with her. You didn't want her to get the wrong impression or idea.
Next time...don't fret so! Let things follow their natural course. Don't try to Force you body to do something it isn't ready to do!! You need foreplay and you need to let both your bodies get prepared for sex!!
This is a natural thing!! it's happened to almost every male, at one time or another!! Don't sweat it!!
2007-10-15 11:49:38 · answer #4 · answered by Rawstuff 007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be stress, drinking, nerves or it could be a medical problem. I recommend talking to a doctor to rule that out. If it's not that, maybe you just put too much pressure on yourself because this time was so different and so much more meaningful for you. I'm told it happens more than people let on.
2007-10-15 11:50:16 · answer #5 · answered by bainaashanti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It failed because your thinking about her too much,,,Your so worried about how your going to perform but that's not the problem,,,,the problem is that your worrying about what she thinks in other words you care now and before you didn't,,she must be a pretty girl,,,the next time your with her in that way,relax and don't worry about what shes thinking just be yourself and stop worrying so much,,you can impress her later
2007-10-15 11:54:04 · answer #6 · answered by boscowood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if u really cared for her so much as you say you do then you wait until you are married to her. Dont make it sound like she is such an easy lay. Shame on you, you dont love her you just want a piece of a---
2007-10-15 11:49:04 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about it. tell her what you told us.
stop thinking of it as you 'manhood' or as a 'failure'. do some research. you can't make sure it never happens again. lots of young guys have this problem when they are nervous, etc.
2007-10-15 11:46:56 · answer #8 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there are a couple I can think of.
You could have been really nervous. If you like her as much as you say you do, I'd say this is most likely.
If you drink a lot of caffeine, it can effect you down there.
2007-10-15 11:47:25 · answer #9 · answered by AceShooter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your nervous to have sex with her cause you care about her. Did you drink before hand or maybe you are stressed out?
2007-10-15 11:46:47 · answer #10 · answered by Arie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋