He will not let her take any of her clothes or her sons clothes(he is not the father). He is harassing her and her parents. Her parents had things stored at thier house and he will not let the the parents posessions leave his house. Need help.
2007-10-15 04:32:08 · 20 answers · asked by roger p 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Call the police and tell them he is harassing her. Ask them to escort her to the house to get her belongings. In abusive situations, they will do this.
2007-10-15 04:36:36 · answer #1 · answered by Snickerdoodle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could try to handle this through the appropriate channels, and I'm sure you'll get suggestions for how to do that. I'd say that he has to go to work sometime. Walk in and take the stuff while he isn't there. He can call the cops if he likes and there is a chance you could get in trouble, but I don't think that would happen.
This isn't the legal way, but the legal way doesn't get clothes for the kid. The legal way is to call a cop who probably doesn't want to transfer property from one person's hand to another (it's the court's job to figure out who owns what--some cops may put themselves in the middle of this and point out that baby clothes are obviously not his, but most wouldn't, and if he says "I bought that stuff", then even the cop who may have decided to get involved would probably back off him and tell you to sue). So the right way is to go to small claims court, and two or four months later when he gets to court, he could probably get away with giving your stuff back then (when a lot of it will be worthless and/or replaced already).
2007-10-15 11:44:11 · answer #2 · answered by wayfaroutthere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't state what form of harassment. If it is threatening then lodge a complaint with the police. Also ask the police to accompany you to retrieve the personal property regardless of the harassment issue. Do not go alone. Be very careful of this man because if he is refusing to be reasonable in returning clothes, then the man is not a reasonable man at all, and is potentially dangerous. He sounds like a controller, and they are probably the most dangerous of them all.
2007-10-15 11:40:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Damn it roger what the hell, call the police, this guy from your description has no legal grounds to hold her property. He may be able to argue things like a tv or some crap like that but clothes and especially the kids man, what is he going to tell the police their his. Yeah right!!! But also he may just be really hurt by this whole situation I mean you have to stand by your daughter, but your a guy hes a guy i mean you should understand how he may feel. But there is probably other details you didnt put only you know the whole thing. But Im mean if he didnt hurt your daughter maybe you should just give him a man to man talk.
2007-10-15 11:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter needs an attorney to tell her what her options are and to file the appropriate paperwork for her protection and her son's. The things belonging to her parents may fall under the category of her belongings and would be covered by the same paperwork. In any event this should not be ignored, control often leads to violence and should be handled immediately.
2007-10-15 11:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by Judy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear this. Go to the police station, ask if they will go with you to the house. I'm pretty sure they will. If not, I know it's awful to lose material things but be so thankful it's material things you're losing and not your daughter or grandchild. Too many times women and children are killed by angry exes...very sad but true.
Also...notify the police that he's being this way. Your daughter needs to be protected. Also...tell your daughter NOT to go to the house alone EVER. Sometimes these guys pretend to be nice to get them alone. Then they get hurt or even killed. This is very serious.
2007-10-15 11:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by Kim 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see that they have 2 options. The police will not do anything.
1) Forget it. Forget the stuff and move on. He is using their possessions as a power play. Take away his power by not caring about the "stuff".
2) Get an attorney and take him to court to get the possessions back.
But unless the stuff is REALLY valuable, I would go for option one.
2007-10-15 11:39:24 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Kim 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
call the police. sometimes they will escort a person to retrieve their personal belongings when there is a break up or separation. but you have to do this stuff according to their schedule, so when they have someone extra, they can do something like this.
you can also have the police notify the ex boyfriend that this is what is going to take place and when.
i hope you can get help and cooperation from the police, if this is the route you decide to take.
2007-10-15 11:35:47 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Meticulously detail and document every instance of harassment, date time nature of incident etc. whether the police act now or later this will give you the evidence to use in court, which is where this is heading.
2007-10-15 11:38:16 · answer #9 · answered by cimra 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the police before it gets out of hand
2007-10-15 11:38:18 · answer #10 · answered by Kaila H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋