I found out he is in a website looking for girls and saying he is separated. Three month ago he started to go out all the time and didnt want to talk to me.And know he is saying he is willing to change and he is acting very nice with me and not going out anymore. This weekend he said if I dont get pregnant quick , I dont have to be surprise if I found out he is dating another woman. I feel really bad. I asked him if he is already looking for another woman and he promise me that no!!! But I found out already his ad in a dating website. What should I do!
2007-10-15 04:49:46 · 24 answers · asked by Estrella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dear,
You can't divorce your husband.
You can ask for Divorce.
Dating Website is not yet dating. You can always stop him in doing it. Since you know the Website, go into it and chat with his girlfriend and tell her the real situation.
2007-10-15 04:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by AHMAD FUAD Harun 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would divorce him. And I would not engage in any discussions or debates with him about it, since there are no children involved. He sounds like the argumentative type, and I think that bit about giving you an ultimatum about getting pregnant or else he'll start dating is ridiculous, since he already has and is dating. So do not get pregnant, and begin filing for divorce and move ahead with your life. I know it hurts to think of your marriage as over, I was married before and thought it was until death due us part. I had no children either which made it much simplier. And in the end, it turned out to be the best thing because when I married again, it was to a man who truly loves and respects me and I am grateful that I did divorce the first one. Good luck to you and I think you will be better off down the road.
2007-10-15 05:08:55 · answer #2 · answered by HisChamp1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about the loss of your husband. Your first husband. It sounds to me that you remarried in a haste and now you are having second thoughts. If your current husband thought it was OK to have one type of relationship with his ex wife before meeting you, that is fine. It worked for him and his kids. But now that you are his wife he needs to respect the fact that you are not comfortable with that same relationship and now he needs to set new boundaries and guidelines for the ex and put you first. If he does not do this or see the need to do this then he is disrespecting you and cares about his ex's feelings more than yours. If this happens you need to file for divorce and allow more time to heal before your next relationship. Oh, and far as him lying to you about being married in the beginning. Just know for every one lie you find out there are probably 7 you don't know about. Don't be surprised when the rest come out. Good luck and I hope you get this man on track or you leave and move on with the rest of your life. You have been through enough.
2016-05-22 18:14:42 · answer #3 · answered by kristen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you really are confused. Do you love him? Are you convinced he is going to change or has already? Personally I think that the threat of "get pregnant quick" or he will date someone else is wrong. You are married and for him to even go out with someone else in my eyes is showing that he is already gone. The thing is that you have to decide whether or not you want to put up with this or do you think that you deserve better. It is hard to give advise when no one really knows the whole story. Personally, I would leave and not have a baby with this guy, he sounds like he had no respect for himself or you and from the sounds of it, you do deserve better.
2007-10-15 05:08:30 · answer #4 · answered by outgoing pincess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give some time to your relationship..i know its hard but still, you dont want to wake up after 15 yrs and realize that my life was much better with my husband..
Just sit and talk to him..let him explain what he thinks and tell him what you feel, may be it is a time for a baby in your marriage now..
just speak your heart out..i wish everything will be fine..and yes trust me on this DIVORCE is very difficult, i mean the situation that you pass through is really tough..may be for some people its not but i think its the worst thing..you didnt get married to be divorced one day, did you???
thanjust think about this, and everything will be great as before..may god bless you!
2007-10-15 05:05:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! first off, you are right in your feeling Hurt and confused about this scenario. This is not a pretty scene and IF you choose to save your marriage you would be advised to seek a mediator (counselor) to help you work thru this. I don't recommend trying to continue with professional help because it is clear he is having some 'respect issues' when it comes to how he treats your marriage and his vows.
Do you want to divorce your husband? Choosing to divorce him would not be unreasonable from a reasonable persons point of view. Doing so would in no way make you the 'bad guy'.
Oh,,. and lastly,, DONT GET PREGNANT until all this is sorted out,,, one way or another.
2007-10-15 04:57:39 · answer #6 · answered by dynastronii 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to divorce your husband? If yes...Stop and go there. Do you want to have a baby? If No...Stop and see the last line.
If you want to try and save things...find out what's wrong. There's something missing in the relationship for your husband. Best place to find out is in a counselor office. It's not threatening, nobody is wrong, and it's a safe place to talk and prevent things from getting into a fight...good luck.
2007-10-15 04:55:05 · answer #7 · answered by tjusa2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Out of all the reasons people divorce for now a days that is the only reason that has Gods approval so that should tell you something, when someone so great that you cant even imagine how great he his because your human mind cant think that big says its ok.
2007-10-15 04:59:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's not worth it. If he did it once, he'll always keep on doing it. LEAVE HIM BEFORE you get pregnant. After that, it will be too late and you won't want to leave him because of the child. I regret not having left my husband before. Now it's really hard because we have two children.
2007-10-15 05:08:26 · answer #9 · answered by guille 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he deserves you. Its time to divorce him and make sure he has a really bad time during the divorce process. If he cannot respect his wife, he needs a big shovel up his ***. Be quick.
2007-10-15 04:56:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋