I wonder if it is harder for the man or woman, with custody of the kids, to date. What are the differences in dating for both when they decide to get back to dating. What issues do they face that are similar or different
2007-10-15 04:46:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i soo disagree with the first post.... first of all its hard for anyone with custody of their kids to start dating, they have more to think about than themself. People who start dating with kids from a previous relationship involved have more to worry about. Of course their kids are gonna come first but that dosnt mean they dont know how to love someone else just as much, its just a different kind of love. Nothing is gonna beat a parents love for their kids, nothing but there is lots of love to be shared and if the right person comes along, they can blend into the family perfectly.
2007-10-15 04:55:02 · answer #1 · answered by louie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult at most ages to get back into it after you've been out for a while. With single parents, I think it is more difficult for the woman. She doesn't want to marry another guy like her ex, so she puts up the shields...
I know one woman that anything I said was automatically offensive.
I know for most men, they do not want the responsibility to raise someone else's children. You know the former husband had all the "fun" and now you have to take on the responsibility financially and emotionally. It is very difficult for some men to do that.
2007-10-15 11:54:06 · answer #2 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the same difficulty for both. They must both arrange babysitting for the child. They also feel the same amount of guilt from being away from the children.
Both are usually more protective which makes in difficult. I would recommend 'Parents without Partners' or a Church with singles and divorce support as a place to meet others and 'get back into the swing'.
Blended families can bring great join. I pray for your success in meeting the right person.
2007-10-15 11:55:03 · answer #3 · answered by sad_state_of_affairs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More harder for women I think because 9 times out of 10 they live with the woman full time. Whereas men can swan off when they feel like it.
And men are more likely to lie and say they dont have any on the first few dates.
2007-10-15 11:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by buff1ne 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its tougher for women. Men with children put their bay mama on a pedestal of some sort (ooh she gave me a CHILD..meanwhile OOH you were just DUMB to **** her skank *** without a condom). Still are sooo nice to her, kiss her, becuase they are so afraid she will take away their visitation rights. Plus the woman usually is ok till he starts dating, then you get the "but we have a BABY" together speech.
women with kids find it harder to get men who want to date them, but they dont idolize their baby daddy because the woman usually has custody anyway. plus their exes are usually happy to be rid of them, so not sweating them. so men dont have to deal with all the b/s that women who date men with children do.
2007-10-15 11:52:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only issues will be around the fact that in society women generally assume more responsibilites for children. it is going to be dependent on the specifics (ie if you have parents in town that will help with the kids or how much money you have or how old the kids are etc.)
2007-10-15 11:49:47 · answer #6 · answered by Sufi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men the Women love their kids more than can ever love you, plus you are expected to pay for their past in every way.
2007-10-15 11:48:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋