My daughter's b-day party was Saturday and my besfrd's car wouldn't start. She called every last one of her sister's to get a ride to the party. Not 1 of them would come up and drop her off.I had my BF pick her up since no one could do her the favor. She was mad at them b/c she has always been there for them. At the party we made plans to make a big Sun. dinner at her house. I went (Sun.) to pick her up to go the the store. While we're out her sis calls asking where she was, she replies and then her sis asks what you cooking today and my Besfrd being the person she is tells her oh me and momo are making a big dinner, so her sis's invites herself and says i'm going to call teh other sis to come up. She gets off the phone and tells me and I flipped and said no 1 of them could drop you off but they are quick to come eat up for free right. I told her no i will not feed all of them us just with us was alot of ppl. Was I wrong? i cook'd @ my house instead.
2007-10-15 04:59:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I was mad cus she is always there for them but when she needs them they're not there for her. The tend to come up and eat and then just leave. She hasn't had a car and finally gets one and it breaks down but when she did she would do them favors left and right. She never stands up for herself when she has to. She was so mad on Sat. that she didn't even want to come to the party cus by that point she was frustrated cus she couldn't find a ride after making 6 phone calls. But of course I figured something out to get her there cus she is my daughter's godmom and she wanted the kids to have fun.
2007-10-15 05:02:18 · update #1
I don't know if anyone comes back and reads over what they write but thank you all for making me feel better. Give and take goes both ways!
2007-10-15 08:24:26 · update #2
If your friend does not stand up for herself, and everyone uses her, it's not YOUR problem.. it's her problem and she is the only person who can stop it.
Your friend doesn't have personal boundaries.. if she did, people wouldnt try to take advantage all the time.
NO you are not wrong for limiting who you cook for.. it's your life, your money and your food.
Some of us do not realize that other adults are perfectly capable of doing things for themselves, so we go out of our way to "help" them, when they don't actually need help.
2007-10-15 05:36:01 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know, I'd be considering sending the sisters the story of "The Little Red Hen". She planted the wheat, harvested the wheat, ground the flour, cooked the bread and then everyone who was too busy to help with the work wanted to eat the bread with her. It didn't go over well in the story and it shouldn't go over well in real life either.
2007-10-15 16:01:20 · answer #2 · answered by Critter 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. Your friend didn't talk with you about it. She shouldn't have assumed you'd be okay with having to feed many more people than expected. Your friend needs to learn how to stand up for herself. Maybe you can help her with that since you obviously don't have a problem sticking up for yourself.
2007-10-15 05:13:15 · answer #3 · answered by Loves the Ponies 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were in the right even though your BF may have done it another way, you were in the right to feel the way you did. And since you did Cook at Your house, then you can invite or Uninvite, whomever you choose to and Not to. That's the way I would have handled things, myself.
2007-10-15 05:57:38 · answer #4 · answered by Dub-G 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would have done the same thing. I know people who have siblings like that and they have learned to stick up for themselves. Yes, if I was in your friend's situation, I would have done the same thing.
2007-10-15 05:05:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you acted fair in the situation I would have done the same thing if I were you
2007-10-15 05:46:35 · answer #6 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your money, your time and effort for the meal, your decision who is eating it. You did the right thing i think, dont worry about it.
2007-10-15 05:06:13 · answer #7 · answered by louie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋