I recently broke up with my boyfriend of a year. We talked about marriage, children, and became very close with one another.
The reasons I broke up with him:
1) He's Muslim, I'm Catholic. Could never come to an agreement on wedding plans/children's religions
2) We could NOT have sex!! He just could NOT perform. He would be finished after about 30 seconds. I was not satisfied at all, ever. We tried working on it but it never got better
3) We ALWAYS fought about stupid things.
But the thing is, he was such a good bf. Told me I was beautiful, was faithful and never let me know. He'd drive an hour to come and see me every single day and treat me like a queen when we were getting along. I just fell out of love.
Were my reasons justified or should I get back together with him? I regret it more and more everyday, wondering if I'll ever meet someone like him again...
2007-10-15 05:01:47 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
THis sounds like a mess in the making. Let it go.
2007-10-15 05:05:32 · answer #1 · answered by wizjp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that number one would be a huge reason. If you can't come to an agreement with how to get married or raise your children you shouldn't be doing either. Not feeling satisfied in the bedroom would make it hard for anyone to stick around even if everything else was perfect. The fighting over stupid things is normal to a degree as long as it doesn't get out of hand. I think your reasons are justified and you made a good decision. He sounds like he makes a good BFF but not a boyfriend or husband.
2007-10-15 12:09:54 · answer #2 · answered by Cinderelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2) We could NOT have sex!! He just could NOT perform. He would be finished after about 30 seconds. I was not satisfied at all, ever. We tried working on it but it never got better
3) We ALWAYS fought about stupid things.
This made him a good BF LOL.
But the answer is and remains you do not need a reason to break up with a person-if you feel like you don't want to be with him then you should not be with him.... THE END
2007-10-15 12:04:59 · answer #3 · answered by nyjae 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have very valid reasons for not staying with him, and the biggest one being your religion. If religion is any part of your life then if you disagree now it iwll only get worse and magnified once you get married. As far as the sex goes, well although a big part of the relationship, I don't believe it should be a deciding factor if you truly love someone. There are pills he can try and take, or exercises he can do, and I am assuming he is younger, so he has time. You guys have your whole lives to get that part of your relationship down.
But I do not think you did anything wrong, in fact it sounds like you did the best thing for yourself. I just got out of a 2 1/2 yr relationship with one of the most amazing guys. He is one of those guys that everyone loves to be around because he is fun, funny, and just easy to be around. We also talked about getting married and kids and all that stuff, but for basically the same reasons, except for the sex part, we split. I was devistated because like you I thought, ther is no way I can find a better guy out there who will love me as much as he did. In fact we are still friends to this day, but you know what I did find someone else, and once I looked back I didn't realize that even though I loved my ex, I was giving up so much of myself to be with him and it didn't have to be that way. It sucks, its, sad, and I know it BUT.........if there are that many core things wrong with your relationship, no matter how good of a guy he is, of how great of a boyfriend he was, it won't hold up down the road.
I wish the best of luck to you! and hope everything works out.
2007-10-15 12:22:33 · answer #4 · answered by KRDB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it wouldn't have worked out either way, the religion would have been a huge issue, if only you two were mature enough to both drop the childish religion thing than maybe you could et along, but that alone justifies splitting up, not to mention the "performance" problems.
2007-10-15 12:07:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know want you going through. I had a boyfriend couldn;t do it long and i wasn't satisfied. But I did stay with him we were high school sweetheart. He broke up with me. And I move on and now he married. I know you feeling. I thought the same thing should I break up with him because he couldn't satisfied me. But one time he did last longer then he ever had before..
2007-10-15 12:05:55 · answer #6 · answered by In Love with Steve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex aside, the arguments might never have subsided. If you really want to have kids, and it sounds like you do, you will be better served to have a hubby who shares your religious beliefs. Fighting about stupid things is a symptom of bigger issues.
Good luck!
2007-10-15 12:07:23 · answer #7 · answered by mamarat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first one was a good reason. Number 2 and 3 you could've probably lived with. I'm not a big fan of "Go-backs" but you may want to get in touch with him again and see how he's doing.. Go from there.
Good luck.
2007-10-15 12:05:38 · answer #8 · answered by Bee 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well u have choice u have to make and weigh them out, now u know catholic and muslim dont mix, two u can always get something for his sex problem.... if yall can work out yall faith then i'll work it out but other then that you have your reason y u left
2007-10-15 12:10:24 · answer #9 · answered by phyllis g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your reasons are justified!!!! if you can not be happy sexually with your partner then you need to find another one and that is a fact.... and personally i believe anything less than an hour is just a waste of time overall.... and i am sure you understand what i mean by that... anyway, good luck on your search....
2007-10-15 12:06:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋