My family and I got into a huge fight over the weekend about my who I should date. I am so confused and would like help and nice answers. I have dated this guy off and on for 8 years, which has been pretty rocky. I try so hard to get more from him and when I don't get it, then I feel really down. I think in my head I am choosing to see the picture of us and the future. How do I stop putting this picture and future in my head if it never will be?
2007-10-15 04:35:32 · 5 answers · asked by padros 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hello again.well,i think you know the answer to this one in your heart,8 YEARS,its going no-where is it,if he wanted to give more you would have had it by now,there is no real commitment coming from him nor is there likely to be,it would appear that he is happy enough to just drift along and keep the bail out option open,what about what you want,its equally important and you have to decide what it is you want from this relationship and go for it,put the ground rules in place once and for all,start thinking on a positive note and focus on that,after all,your not a doormat are you.
2007-10-15 07:22:40 · answer #1 · answered by the devil wears camo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Big mistake you are doing. Sometimes your family sees alot of what you don't see. Remember love is blind. I was in my previous relationship for 6 years. I never noticed what kind of things i did for him, until 8 months ago. Now I see everything my family saw. I smile more and I don't cry myself to sleep. Maybe you should call it off. Move on. If he doesn't want anything serious with you after 8 years, then don't continue the relationship just give up on trying to imagine a future with this guy. It's not worth it. If he did want a future with you, don't you think he would have done it already?
2007-10-15 11:44:44 · answer #2 · answered by masdtx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Padros, after 8 years together as a pair you should be capable of discussing anything between yourselves. Sit down with him and ask what his future plans are and explain what it is you see in your future. If you are not both on the same page then it may be time to close this chapter of your live. Sometimes family members are right when giving their opinions. Other times they are concerned that you seem to going nowhere and are concerned for your happiness. But if this relationship is causing problems with your family members then you need to take a close look at it and see if perhaps they are giving you good advice. Best of luck.
2007-10-15 11:42:33 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that you have heard several times that you should let go. It sounds like you are just hanging on to what is comfortable. Understand that you can't stay in a relationship based on the possibility of change. It never works. You have to be willing to accept what already is and never count on anyone changing.
2007-10-15 11:42:37 · answer #4 · answered by Tre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 8 years he is not begging you to marry him ... it is not going to happen. He is still looking for "something better" to come along. What you have pictured in your mind is not life with him.. but that life you want. You can have that life if you let go of him, sent him on his way and make yourself available for the right man. It is not too late.
2007-10-15 11:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋