Family & Relationships - 14 October 2007

My husband's ex-girlfriend had his name put on her while they were dating. They were never even engaged, let alone married. I just think it's weird. In a way, I think it's kind of funny too b/c she still has to see his name everyday knowing she's not the one who ended up with him...

2007-10-14 15:46:06 · 9 answers · asked by snowqueen80 2 in Marriage & Divorce

see them every other weekend and have them on holidays and most of the summer? (previous question asked got that he abandoned his children response) Keep in mind that we both wanted them to move here with us, they wanted to stay in their schools. My husband moved here to marry me, 1 1/2 hours away from them. Is this considered abandonment?

2007-10-14 15:42:12 · 12 answers · asked by Rein 5 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-14 15:42:02 · 5 answers · asked by dreammaker 1 in Family

2007-10-14 15:41:02 · 14 answers · asked by Joeyboy 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i feel like i fell in love with someone ealse i do love my husband its just that i have feelings for somone ealse. i dont know what to do. someone help please i cant tell him but i dont know how to tell him could anyone help

2007-10-14 15:40:38 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Scenario: An argument. Everytime my wife and I have an argument, she gets really emotional and starts telling me all kinds of nasty things, (verbal abuse only) I tried not to answer to try to cool things off. This has happened for seven years. Until two months ago I decided to answer back and told her exactly what was in my mind. She stayed quiet, then she broke up with me. Are we (guys) just supposed to stay quiet and not have an opinion about anything?

2007-10-14 15:40:32 · 11 answers · asked by Mandibulin 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Hes 18 but we love each other and i can't go to my dad cuz he would murder me and him if i even talked about gettin with an 18 year old.....I am not gonna get with him if it is illegal because i don't want him to get to any trouble.... but if you know any thing please let me know!

2007-10-14 15:40:19 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i met this guy during spring break...we talked for a while and i really liked him and he felt the same or so he said. His best friend was with my best friend and it was awsome to be able to hang out with my fave 3 people. I went away for a while and something terrible happened someone told him this huge lie i had said to him. he hated me forever but finally started talking to me again...i thought it was love. he would tell me the most sweetest things but other days he would be a real asshole. I still cry over him, i can't stand seeing him with his new girl...i have a boy friend but i cant get him off of my mind. i feel like i am too young for this and he wasnt the perfect guy when he called me all the names he called me. it hurts me so much to know that he has completly moved on and i know he talks about me and not good....so is it love or infatuation?

2007-10-14 15:39:15 · 4 answers · asked by crazzzypotato 1 in Singles & Dating

he said he doesn't deserve me and wanted me to think whether i'm sure i wanted to be with him for a month. i already posted a question and someone had mentioned that i should be happy he broke up with me. because when i'm 42 he will be about 60. right now i'm 25 and he's 42. you think this might be a reason why he broke up? but he didn't seem to think this when he was persuing me in the beginning!

2007-10-14 15:38:32 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Be honest, do you mind if your gf/wife was checking out guys, and stuff? Does that bother you? I don't want to hurt my bf about it, but I just have a wandering eye sometimes.

2007-10-14 15:37:24 · 16 answers · asked by Tammy W 1 in Singles & Dating

what's it like to date a guy with a little child? My friend said don't do it, he probably gets the kid on the weekend and wants you as a babysitter while he goes out with the guys...is this true?

2007-10-14 15:37:21 · 6 answers · asked by Lil Blousou 3 in Singles & Dating

In reference to a bridal shower and wedding.

2007-10-14 15:34:02 · 21 answers · asked by graylightening 1 in Weddings

This summer I was planning on going on a "study abroad" program for a month with my best friend. it goes to different cities in europe. anyways soo, on the phone today she told me that her other really good friend wants to go on the same one with us. ive met her once, she seems nice. anyways im wondering now that were a group of 3 rather then 2 should i still do it? the only thing thats holding me back from signing up is that fact that an odd # might leave someone out, me or her other friend.

should i do it? explain to me what you think :)
THANK YOU!

2007-10-14 15:33:15 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I'm getting married in a year, and really would love an Atelier Aimee gown from the Alta Sposa collection. Is there another designer/dress that is less costly but still retains that awesome original, unique, flowery, corset-y, and ornate style? Thanks!

2007-10-14 15:33:00 · 14 answers · asked by some_fantastic 1 in Weddings

My bf broke up with me after 4 years b/c he was suddenly unhappy and I took the break up badly. I also asked him back but he told me to not have hope, he wants to be single, and told me to find another man.

I haven't contacted him since and I just want to know if he might one day call back. Has anyone experienced something similar whose ex said the exact same thing but ended up coming back? Thanks

2007-10-14 15:32:08 · 9 answers · asked by S S 1 in Marriage & Divorce

he's my bf for months and he's still hiding me from his family i don't know why im also hiding him from my family because we're not yet ready and everytime i ask him about his wife he said his seperated i know its true beacause almost everyday we're together before, his now residing in canada with his kids and im in the phil. i love him so much. i really don't know what to do. im so confused.

2007-10-14 15:31:24 · 43 answers · asked by Jane A 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i need a new nickname for my gf named gabby it use to be gabby wabby but i wanted to change it she loves soccer kayaking she is really nice and sweet

2007-10-14 15:28:44 · 42 answers · asked by Adam 1 in Singles & Dating

Ok, I will try to make this long story short. I was married we had a child. He then started to steal my money and use drugs all day. Totally changed and didnt work was a getting trouble with the law and so forth. We did get a divorce. The judge didnt give him any rights to our child because of his history. Now 3 years later his mother wants to see the child. The mother is writing letters to me and there are not nice ones at that. She use to talk to the child then would sneak her father on. Our child now has issues. She holds her self from going to the bathroom everytime she hears their names. I got a letter now stating the the grand mother wants my child to visit her, we do live in diff. states. She has stated she has been around the house and said she will do anything at cost to get her. She calls all the time and wants to talk to the child, the letters dont stop. I want to put a restaining order on her. Will the courts let me? DO we have to appear in court? How does this work?

2007-10-14 15:28:16 · 6 answers · asked by duh..... 1 in Family

my dad is the biggest dickface to walk the planet...and he does not have respect to me, my mom, he tries to buy my little sister with the little money we have...

he got kicked out 1.5 months ago and now hes living at his moms.

weirdness:
he came into the house (while still living at his moms) at 2 in the morning, and he blows up everytime i give my opinion and hes worse than a kid when it comes to the things he wants (i want this gun uses it once)....

reason he got kicked out:
worked for a friend(my dads a plumber) not telling my mom, he lied, and the job overall we would have got 1000$(which we need) but instead he wanted to hunt the woods by his house...
lied about something else totally retarded(i forgot what it was)

my dad is a mamas boy where he goes to her with many problems(jail, home, ect) and makes it look like it my moms fault...

so am i wrong to hate my dad? what should i do?

oh yea, hes tooooo manly to use coupons...

2007-10-14 15:27:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

serious answers only. And dont tell me to grow up or whatever, I want real answers

2007-10-14 15:24:20 · 8 answers · asked by kaiors23 2 in Singles & Dating

i am constantly thinking about this one guy who hot and likes me, but sometimes he don't show signs (but sometimes he does-not as often as when he don't though ). i've cried once and am sad all the time. am i obsessed? or depressed? do i even need a boyfriend? i feel that i really do...i'm a sophomore...the boy is shy (sometimes), but outgoing and funny when he does talk...do i wait, and give it time? or try 2 talk to him more...
help!
I am clueless!!!!!

2007-10-14 15:23:44 · 16 answers · asked by Beth t 1 in Singles & Dating

Society idolizes marriage, but so much anti-social results happen from it. People can't make friends because of its confining effect, and the "all or nothing" attitude in pre-married people too. Doesn't anyone else notice this ? Isn't it another case analagous to "the Emperor's Clothes" story ? Everyone pretends its great when its really a lie?

2007-10-14 15:23:36 · 18 answers · asked by million$gon 7 in Marriage & Divorce

my bf loves me and wanted to ask me to marry him. he needed a friend to tlk to and his friends wouldnt listen, so he tlked to this girl. they started tlkin about it and eventually became friends, she pushed herself on him. and he resisted. one time he didnt and he let her kiss him but he pushed her away. then it happened again and he pushed her away and pulled her back and then pushed her away again. this time he told her off n never talked to her again. we have been together for 3 years and he didnt mean to hurt me. this girl has a rep for trying to split up couples, and now she brags and says she accomplished what she wanted. i cant quit picturing them kissing. only when i picture it he is enjoying it. he didnt really enjoy it. he hated it. he stopped it himself, and hes really truly sorry. when wil this sick feeling go away? when will i get over it? plz help. i love him to death....he didnt mean to hurt me...HOW can i get over this?

2007-10-14 15:22:47 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

From Dr. Laura:

According to a recent survey by the Pew Research Center, having children has fallen to eighth on a list of nine keys to happiness in marriage, way behind what is now considered more important, such as sharing household chores and being faithful:

1. Fidelity
2. Good sex
3. Sharing household chores
4. Adequate income
5. Good housing
6. Shared religious beliefs
7. Shared tastes and interests
8. Children
9. Agreement on politics
93%
70%
62%
53%
51%
49%
46%
41%
12%



... Of the nine qualities these folks mention as important for a successful marriage, only one had anything to do with giving, and that is children. The rest have to do with getting. Thoughts of division of labor and responsibilities are clearly out the window as the issue of which person might be doing more in the house than the other is more important. That sounds more like roommates than loving spouses.

When 50% more folks think that not taking one more bag of garbage to the curb than their spouse is more important to a marriage than combining love and energies into making a family, America is in trouble.

2007-10-14 15:20:40 · 16 answers · asked by The cryptic paranoid 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I just came home from work today and I was looking in the fridge... no food. I asked my mother why she didn't go shopping (not for food, I was talking about something completely unrelated to food) and she started going on her bitchy route. She was screaming at me like I asked her something offensive... (like why does she rape little children or something, she doesn't, she acted like I stabbed her in her heart). She does this all the freaking time, and I'm tired of it. I just turned 18 a few days ago, I do not do drugs, alcohol, I am graduating from HS early (Halloween), and I have a good job. I'm so proud of my accomplishments, but she makes me feel like I'm nothing and that I'll mount to nothing. I just do not know where to go. California is expensive, but the schools here are cheap and they have this good program for me. Everyone else on my family lives on the other side of the country.

I thought about saving up for an apartment (roomies) next year... idk.

2007-10-14 15:20:06 · 6 answers · asked by creep show 1 in Family

I understand that my husband works a lot of hours, but I don't think he understands that I do too, just in the home. He will leave crusted on cereal bowls all over the bedroom, coffee cups, clothes thrown all over (I don't know what's clean or dirty) when he shaves he leaves his whiskers in the sink, shoes in the middle of the floor. Is it asking too much for them to atleast pick up after themselves, even if they don't do laundry, dishes, cook or clean!!? My husband has never been this way before & it's getting really annoying! I don't want to sound like his mother or a ***** by telling him to "pick that up" or "put that away," but I don't want him to think he can just take advantage of me like this?

2007-10-14 15:20:03 · 7 answers · asked by ♥bigmamma♥ 6 in Family

I cant stand where im living now, i just feel so isolated. Im depressed because of it, and i dont know how to convince my parents that its really affecting my life. It isnt a good location either. and they could do it if they really wanted to financially, but i dont think they really want to. It would just be a small set back to what we are now finacially, but i know for a fact that it woudl be worth it. Ive tried to convince them, and i tried to explain to them that i would be happier somewhere eles, but they dont really care. The place where i would love to live is so much close to my friends, and i just knowww that ide be happy their. I want to move so bad, i think about it everyday, how do i convince them?

2007-10-14 15:19:11 · 4 answers · asked by me 2 in Family

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 years.(I know im young being 12 and stuff,but we met on the computer when i was like 9,my friend told me to chat with her and i met him etc)
And like, I get alot of attention, and now he tells me that theres this girl, Not saying her name, and she and him had sex. He's like 13... And he says he drinks...his friend said he didnt but on the phone it sounds like he smoking at the same time.
I love him so much and when i tried to talk to him,he said he was only acting that way because he thought i was cheating.I know im flirty but come on! Atleast I didnt have sex.Well,we made up but he's always playing around and says im cute when im mad.I just dont feel like he's taking me seriously!I cant visit him b/c my grandparents say no.He's usually in North carolina on the weekends.and im in South Carolina.:( I wanna visit him but how should i convince my parents?
I love him so much and how should I prove to him? He says he loves me but... Lies?

2007-10-14 15:18:52 · 17 answers · asked by the kid 2 in Singles & Dating

my husband doesnt care how much he hurts me , he does it on purpose if i cry just turns his back , says i cause my own pain i tryed to love him listen yell scream cry nothing matters. so now i guess i told him i wil get a job and he needs to divorce me since he obviously doesnt care , love, or respect me . he says yea okay whatever.

2007-10-14 15:18:12 · 23 answers · asked by dontcha 2 in Marriage & Divorce

ok back in may my ex im'ed me and said she wanted to see me and she would give me head if i came down and see her, so i went down and seen her we went to an abanded house and she started to kiss me i asked her if we can have sex then she just climbed on top of me then started to give me a lap dance and she wispherd in my ear how bad do i want it, i said bad then i put my hand down her pants and ask her again if we can have sex, she wen into the next room and pulled down her pants to her knees then i took them off the rest and we started, after we did it she kept textin me tellin me how much she love me and dont tell anyone bout it and stuff like that and now she's claimin i sexual asulted her? is this sexual asult if i have text messages saying that she loves me after and stuff like that and she pulled down her own pants? i need to kno i got court soon!!

2007-10-14 15:17:57 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating