Family & Relationships - 14 October 2007

need help what to do ...

im married and my husband don't know that it not his baby since i was sepeated with him for while and we been together thought my preg and he went to hopital with me and he notice that my baby is " dark " skin we are light skin and he didn't say anything but he love my daug very much ...

the thing is that i want to get my ex guy to pay child support and my baby got my last name not my ex last name and i don't know if i should get that guy to pay child support and if i do my husband will leave me for lieing to him that is not his baby .....

what should i do ????

i love my hudband so much and we do have 4 month baby .

2007-10-14 18:13:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-14 18:11:04 · 10 answers · asked by David G 1 in Marriage & Divorce

She is 35 and gave me her number last Friday, she came over on Thursday and nothing happened between us. I was thinking about making a move on her, but I didn't get the right vibe. We were talking about porn and wet dreams she has had, but we weren't talking about it for that long. Was that a sign that she likes me? She seems very friendly, so that leads me to belive she wants me. What 35 year old woman gives a 22 her number? after only knowing her for a week?

2007-10-14 18:10:33 · 17 answers · asked by devil boy 61 1 in Singles & Dating

she has a lot of work piling up for the semester. What can I say to make her feel better and that I care? I am not in college so I cant help her at all with her work.

2007-10-14 18:07:44 · 6 answers · asked by may 1 in Singles & Dating

We are 15 and my friend just told me that her parents abuse her. For example: Her mom is making her loose ten pounds or she is taking away all her privileges, all though she is perfectly healthy and ok with her body image. She explained this too her mom but she doesn't care.
Then anouther time she borrowed something of her dads and he accused her of stealing it and he whacked her on the shoulder. I always knew her parents were mean and unfair just not like that.
She has phoned a child help hot line but they want to remove her from the household and she panicked and hung up. I just found out this whole whammy today and i can't stop crying. I feel really really bad for her and i don't know what i can do or she can do to resolve this. It's just not fair that my household is so perfect while she has no love or support at home. I'm not allowed to tell anyone that she told me this. I dont know what to do or tell her. Please someone help us?

2007-10-14 18:06:24 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Yeah I like him and I don't think I can stop just because he has a girlfriend! What makes me really sad though is that he's probably not going to want to be around me at all anymore, because guys with girlfriends just don't hang out with single gals. And now I've lost not only what at one point I thought was a promising friendship but probably my best study partner ever too! The thing is, we're in a group together for this project for class so I don't even have the option of avoiding him. WHAT DO I DO???

2007-10-14 18:05:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My friends are almost always fighting, and usually over the same issues. One of my friends unknowingly does something wrong, and the other gets mad and calls her on it. Then they fight and my youngest friend calls me and vents all her anger to me because she considers me her "sister".

I have 4 good friends, but 2 of the 4 are always having drama and fighting. For a little while it is okay and things are fine...then the crap starts again. She says this about her, and the other fights back. And they both whine to me about it.

Another thing, my 2nd oldest friend always demands to know what me and my friend talk about on the phone, whenever her and her other "close" friend fight.

I've been really adamant about it, telling them the bull has to stop, and that I am not their messenger or secret-keeper anymore, and that they have to talk to each other if they have problems with each other. They say ok but they don't seem to get I've had enough!

Btw, they are turning 20 and 21 years old.

2007-10-14 18:04:04 · 8 answers · asked by Annie 3 in Friends

Pick one of the following:

1 - A guy with lots of money, but distant has no time to spend with you and is not romantic in the least.

2 - A guy who makes you laugh, is very kind and loving to you, but cheats every turn he can (without you ever finding out).

3 - A guy who is the ultimate romantic, sweeps you off your feet, but has no cash what-so-ever and looks to you for financial support.

Please don't take attributes from each to the other, it's a package type deal.

Whom would you pick?

2007-10-14 18:00:16 · 42 answers · asked by whuz007 3 in Singles & Dating

So last night I told my boyfriend that I wanted to you know.. and he told no.... that he wansnt in the mood... we dotn get the chance to a lot because he works during the week and I dont get to see him... Why would he tell me no?

2007-10-14 17:59:03 · 15 answers · asked by Lostandconfussed 1 in Singles & Dating

im 19 years old in uni........im an engineering major and there are no girls in my classes

decent looking

EXTREMELY SHY

every girl ive dated we were either set up or she asked me out or something like that

i want to know how do i meet girls

2007-10-14 17:58:52 · 6 answers · asked by peanut b 2 in Singles & Dating

I am being called the names and told to leave eventhough I did not do anything wrong!

2007-10-14 17:54:13 · 17 answers · asked by Hurt in Texas 1 in Marriage & Divorce

He tells me he loves me, and I tell him the same. But we live so far away. I don't know if I should keep going with this; I don't know if it's right. I love him so much. But do long-distance relationships really work out? I know they can if we love each other enough. But I'm just scared, and I don't want to get hurt again. And his friendship means so much to me that I couldn't bear to lose it if our relationship didn't work out. What should I do?

2007-10-14 17:53:39 · 11 answers · asked by Jenny Jean 2 in Singles & Dating

My husband and I have been married for a little over a year and the whole time it has been a constant battle with him and porn. He prefers porn over me and it is completely tearing me apart emotionally. I don't know what to do anymore I feel so betrayed and worthless. We had a HUGE fight the other day and I almost left him and once again he promised he would quit and the next morning he was up masturbating to it again. He thinks I don't know half the time but I do, so I guess he thinks it's ok. I try coming on to him all the time and 99 times out of 100 he flat out turns me down. He has said once before that he is "ashamed of himself" because he doesn't last very long but I think that is just a good excuse. I have tried telling him how I feel a million times and he doesn't seem to get it. I have mentioned marriage counseling and he makes up a zillion excuses why he cant. I just don't see how any man could treat the woman they supposedly love this way. I am so torn up inside.

2007-10-14 17:50:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

ok since you are reading this what is the deal with you guys with like the thousands and thousands of points for like answering all these questions... do you not have anything better to do then sit on the friggin computer and answer all these questions... and after saying that do you get anything if you do... i mean that is sort of like the whole thing like on my space all you lamo's typing out those lame surveys get a life and live it losers... and further more if you think i am lame for typing this and you try to put me on the same level as you step off cuz i gotta ole lady and i def dont sit on here all the time doing something as lame as that... plz share your comments thoughts and what not peace holmes

2007-10-14 17:49:33 · 10 answers · asked by smiles 1 in Singles & Dating

OK, specifically, he won't touch my vagina! When we have sex, he occasionally gropes my breasts, but he doesn't go anywhere else and he doesn't even kiss me! I try to spice things up in our sex life (toys, porn, new moves) but he always says "I'm not interested". It's been this way for about 7 of the 9 years we've been together and it really makes me feel like crap. I never said anything to him because first I thought it was a lazy phase, then I didn't want to pressure him. Finally, 8 months ago I had enough so I asked him why and he got extremely angry and defensive, said he "didn't know" why he won't touch it, he "just doesn't feel like it"! We didn't talk for 3 weeks after that. I told him he has 6 months to work it out or I'm leaving due to my self esteem is down the toilet. Well that 6 months has come and gone and he didn't even try to touch me once. But I am 7 months pregnant with our 4th child so I can't leave. And I'm certain he's not cheating or gay. Sorry this is so long!!!

2007-10-14 17:49:21 · 16 answers · asked by blubaby77 2 in Marriage & Divorce

until i find a girlfriend i am so sad

im so lonely and i dont have any frinedss out of school and if i had a girlfriend shed be with me the whole day

i wish a had a friend to share all my feelings to

am i a loser for saying i wish i had a girlfriend to share all my feelings to?

i wish i had one friend that i could spend the rest of my life with and be happy with her

im 17 and im so sad, i enjoy listening to sad songs and this prevents me from doing hw

i just wish i had a girl that cared about me so i wont be so lonely

2007-10-14 17:41:40 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

The whole problem started with my dog. He is still just a puppy and so likes to chase my sisters cat. Sometimes this goes beyond just chasing for fun though and it actually turns serious, which is when we have to intervene. A couple days ago this happened. My dad who has anger issues and others as well built up from a crappy childhood threw him out of the house in response to this. I went out and got him back inside but by the time i caught him and got him inside my dad had left. I just turned around in time to see him flying out of the driveway. He returned today and talked to me, my sister, and my mom. He thinks the solution is for him to move out. I sometimes think this too, but it would hurt my sister and i dont want that . I need to know what i should say to my dad and what i should do to help my sister if he does move out, which i think he just might tonight when we're asleep. please help me.

2007-10-14 17:36:56 · 11 answers · asked by Kijin 2 in Family

2007-10-14 17:36:20 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Im lookin to get married but nothin too big im still young and plan to have the dream wedding once im out of college but for now i want to just lock her down with that ring

2007-10-14 17:31:40 · 3 answers · asked by S 2 in Weddings

I've been datind this guy for about 1 month, last nit he got hit by a car and came to the hospital where i work he asked to be brought here b/c he wanted to be with me, I went to the emergency room to be with him and the EMT pulled me to the side and told me that I seemed like a nice girl and he felt compelled to tell me that the guy I was dating had told him that I was his weekday g/f and that he was out w/ his weekend g/f. and that the girl he was w/ (which my b/f claims was just a friend) didn't know how old he was, he apparently told the EMT not to say his age in front of the girl (she was 18 he's 31), I actually talked to the girl and thanked her for coming to the hosp. w/ him. My b/f denies ever doing any of this he swore he NEVER said any of these things but why would the EMT guy lie, I don't know him and he sais he was just trying to look out for me b/c I seemed like a nice person who din't deserve to be w/ a jerk like that, my b/f denies everything, Who should I believe?

2007-10-14 17:30:18 · 12 answers · asked by Danny82 2 in Singles & Dating

Folks don't trip, my husband is no longer with me, he's with another woman across the country, no intentions on getting back at all, we've moved forward, financially we have been in a bind to finalize the divorce, with him, him and his wife have been apart for several years, however recently she feel on hard times and he said he could help her out but only for a month, she will be moving out soon, however when we are together we can be in the middle of a hot moment and he's gets distracted, he says he has alot going on at home, and that he needs to get that in order, and I believe him, he says there is no physical contact whatsoever with his ex, he says he has no desire for her at all, on top of it she smokes which is a big turn off for him, but I just wonder if some men are easy to loose an erection when something is mentally bothering them? we are a perfect match, and there is no doubt that God put us together, our chemistry is on fire, and we share a deep spritual connection, howe

2007-10-14 17:28:43 · 5 answers · asked by Jus2Sexy 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My parents want to help with the wedding, so do his. Both sets, as well as my Fi and I, agree that each set of parent should contribute equally.

They want us to decide (w/in reason) how much money would be helpful for use to pull off for our wedding.

My Fi and I said, that 5K is reasonable for both parties. My parents make good money (about 90-100K a year). His parents are pretty financial stable also.

So, do you think this is reasonable. This would not even be one large sum of money at one time. My parents might give $1000 for the photographer, then in 6 months another $1500 for the DJ.

What do you think? Is 5K reasonable.

2007-10-14 17:27:29 · 11 answers · asked by Je Adore 2 in Weddings

i do, for being over protective. they wont let me go to my homecoming dance when i went last year. they said o their might be shootings and stuff. i wanted to say BS. they also check ur stuff if u have alcohol and things

2007-10-14 17:26:54 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

ok so theres this guy lets call him mike- i think he lies me cuz i ee him looking at me all the time but i think he likes someone else cuz i see him checking out other girls

i like him a lot but hes very poplular while im not that popular-i mean i have friens just not as many as he does...

another thing is im a big ugly *** seriously i look the worst out of all girls at school i like to dress up and sometimes i do and put on makeup but sometimes i dont do anyhting at all i just go as if i just came out of bed but i still see him staring at me, no matter what. i want to ask him to this dance which is coming up, on nov 8 how should and should i even ask him? i know ill look pretty at the dance but i dont wanna be rejected plz help me

2007-10-14 17:26:51 · 12 answers · asked by milli 1 in Singles & Dating

boyfriend is nice how do i beack up with him in get over it
the rison i am beacking up with him is becuasei want to go with another boy that is older in that byes me thing in gives me money when i ask i am 9 in the i am with is 9 in i am looking for a boy that is 10 or 11

2007-10-14 17:24:57 · 9 answers · asked by Tatiyana W 1 in Singles & Dating

need more details...

2007-10-14 17:24:48 · 15 answers · asked by krishna_raj_s 2 in Friends

My parents think its too early.
-- They want me to finish school first, have some money on my own,..and they think that i should just --Be Ready for that life, saying that its soon for me. What do you think??

2007-10-14 17:24:41 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

I've been talkin to him for 1 year and a half alreready, he is 10 years older than me, he lives in NY and I live in CA but I'm moving out to NY next year to work, we trust, care, and 'love' (he says he loves me and can't let go of me yet) each other, we share everything. We talk on the phone almost everyday. I don't make any plans with him for the future and I don't illusionate my self with this guy. Oh and we've never seen each other in person, we are planning to do it though sooner or later.

2007-10-14 17:19:18 · 12 answers · asked by Ana 1 in Singles & Dating

since she got to us she change she wasnt sweet anymore she hit me ,pick on me for no reason.now she lives with her cousin n she trying to sue me for all i got even though i did everything for her.people say i cant win because she a women is that true. it hurt me but i think she was using me to get to this country

2007-10-14 17:18:52 · 10 answers · asked by dadagaga 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I promised her that i will leave the girl but she is worried & doubtful.I felt she doesn't believe me. I'm sincere & true.pls help and advise.

2007-10-14 17:18:50 · 14 answers · asked by FMR 1 in Marriage & Divorce