Yeah I like him and I don't think I can stop just because he has a girlfriend! What makes me really sad though is that he's probably not going to want to be around me at all anymore, because guys with girlfriends just don't hang out with single gals. And now I've lost not only what at one point I thought was a promising friendship but probably my best study partner ever too! The thing is, we're in a group together for this project for class so I don't even have the option of avoiding him. WHAT DO I DO???
2007-10-14 18:05:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I did think he like me and I tried to let him know I liked him but at some point he started to seem really detached... which is when, I hypothesize, he met the girl he's dating now.
2007-10-14 18:26:56 · update #1
You don't avoid him. You work on the project together.
You be supportive of him right now. Don't be a hypocrite. You like him. You like him. So keep it that way. Just don't expect anything.
Jealousy can be a vicious thing.
Stay friends. Be mature. Get that project done!
2007-10-14 18:09:30 · answer #1 · answered by Up & At 'em 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A good friendship needs no explanation. With all due respect to you, first, you shud check on yourself on having any possible crush (dent?) on him. Most of the cases we dont realise and sub consciously we do like a person. In this case, if you think he has been a good friend and that coz of his newly discovered gal friend, you think that you have lost a good, once promising friendship, its time you shud talk to him and let him. People, whom friendhip matters the most, will never let go a friend. I have a gal - friend and we have been damn good buddys since couple of years, so good that we take each other for granted. we talk abt eachother's frequently new founded love. we are now a sea apart but still make it a point to talk to eachother as often as we want. We have this amazing telepathy, that when i even think abt her, the next thing i realise is, an incoming call from her. This happens with her too.
If you care enough a for the frienship you have wth him, and if you think he had/has it with you too, its time for a cuppa coffee and talk abt your cud be promising friendship
2007-10-14 18:13:07 · answer #2 · answered by emm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear. If he were a good friend whom you can really talk to, you might want to have a chat with him about this. Yes, you may make him uncomfortable and he may shy away, but it might be best before things get really really uncomfortable (from your point of view) later. He may be clueless to your feelings.. but he should at least know.
Hopefully he will be professional enough that he will be continue, and complete, this project with you.
Don't act like a jealous girlfriend, because unfortunately, you are not, and it will drive him away.
I hope I have not been too harsh. Be open to others too, so you won't limit yourself to this person.
2007-10-14 18:10:46 · answer #3 · answered by Pooky™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U dont need to avoid him. The two of u r friends, first n foremost. However u do need to allow him space to spend time with his girlfriend. As for u liking him, that needs to be shoved to the side. U r his friend, if u liked him that much u would've said something before plus if the 2 of u were to date n things messed up- ud never wanna be around eachother again. So in essence, if u truly value ur friendship, dont say anything about it. Hang out with him still but just not as much as before cuz he needs to spend time with his woman. U can use ur extra time to get to know urself, hang out with ur girls, or even score ur own hottie!
2007-10-14 18:14:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but you're going to just have to deal with it. Guys don't necessarily have to stop hanging out with their female friends just because they are taken. It all matters on the amount of trust the two people in the relationship have for eachother. No good girlfriend should ever tell a guy he's not allowed to have "friends".
With that said you should definitely not come in the way of his relationship. That's just wrong.
2007-10-14 18:08:48 · answer #5 · answered by Tasha 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Been there and Now I am married to the guy. Be a friend... if he wants to stop talking or whatever, fine, but who's to say that he does, ya know? If you weird out on him it will probably just make him not want to be your friend.
J
2007-10-14 18:10:23 · answer #6 · answered by Cookiez M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finish the project then bow out gracefully. Fill your time with other things and other people and get a boyfriend yourself.
2007-10-14 18:10:53 · answer #7 · answered by Bean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to just...get over it. I know that sounds harsh but if you want to remain friends then you have to respect his relationship. If not then you might lose him as a friend. Be happy for him.
2007-10-14 18:15:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're in a study group together, then study. That's it. Why would you want to avoid him?
2007-10-14 18:08:00 · answer #9 · answered by Richard B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Here is a novel idea! How about get a boyfriend of your own!
2007-10-14 18:08:03 · answer #10 · answered by Bronson 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋