how and can i even ask him out?

Question

ok so theres this guy lets call him mike- i think he lies me cuz i ee him looking at me all the time but i think he likes someone else cuz i see him checking out other girls

i like him a lot but hes very poplular while im not that popular-i mean i have friens just not as many as he does...

another thing is im a big ugly *** seriously i look the worst out of all girls at school i like to dress up and sometimes i do and put on makeup but sometimes i dont do anyhting at all i just go as if i just came out of bed but i still see him staring at me, no matter what. i want to ask him to this dance which is coming up, on nov 8 how should and should i even ask him? i know ill look pretty at the dance but i dont wanna be rejected plz help me

Answer 1

Start paying attention to your grooming *all* the time.

I'm not making light of this. A few years ago, between marriages, I agreed to take an online friend to a function where she worked, because she said they all thought she was ugly, and she wanted to show them she could attract a guy. I'd seen her picture, and she wasn't a beauty queen, but she was OK.

She met me at the airport, and I didn't recognize her. Faded dress that didn't fit her well, hair in tangles. I swallowed my tongue, and said, well, it's just the weekend, and I know I like the girl.

She showed up at my motel and I didn't recognize her. She'd had her hair done, was in a killer dress, and she looked good enough to turn any man's head. Went to her function, had a really good time, went back to the motel, had a really good time, and in the morning when I woke up, she was gone.

She showed up a couple of hours ago, and once again, she looked horrid. The dress was torn and stained, fit her badly, her hair was a mess, and she looked far worse than she had at the airport.

No guy wants to go out with Cinderella. You don't need dynamite looks, but you *do* need to have enough self-respect to wash your face, brush your hair, and wear clean clothes that fit reasonably well.

If *you* think you're not worth spending time on, why shouldn't a guy believe you?

Answer 2

Rejection is a point of life, it happens. Thing is, only WE make a difference in who we are, so don't let what anyone else says interfere with who you are.

Take the bull by the horns and go up and ask him. You'll get either a yes or a no. If it's a no, at least you'll know for sure that right then it's a no, but later it could be a yes. Kids in school change every two months, nothing is permanent.

As for ugly--get that out of your head right now. I know a lady who weighs 350 pounds, she can be the sexiest woman in the room when she wants, and it's all done with self confidence and intelligence, not the dresses or makeup. Once she starts talking, you just find your attention suddenly all on her and nowhere else. It's absolutely amazing. Self confidence takes the place of a lot of stuff on the surface, and considering only 2% of people are considered the 'beautiful ones', that does leave 98% of the rest of us having to rely on something other than outward appearances, you know.

Answer 3

Asking someone to a dance is all kinds of awkward when you haven't even had a convo yet. ;)

You could go to the dance and see if he's there, then use the opportunity to talk to him and maybe ask him to dance.

When you catch him staring at you, smile. If you're near him, say "How's it going?" You can't really jump in and ask him out; you have to at least get a little conversation going and see how he responds.

Try to forget how you feel about your looks. If he's staring at you, he's finding something attractive about you. Being friendly and outgoing is more impressive than makeup, anyway. Good luck!

Answer 4

Under no circumstances do you ask this guy out, you first have to know if he's into you or not. November is right around the corner so you have to befriend this guy quickly after a few days of being friends see if he's going to the dance or not. If not he being your friend will invite you as friends and who knows what might happen.

Answer 5

First of all, develop a better sense of confidence! a guy isnt gonna go with you if you think that your ugly! second i once waited too long to tell a guy that i liked him and for some reason im still hoping that theirs something there, but u shuld tell him how u feel, no matter what!
~LOVE YOURSELF 1st THEN LET SOMEONE ELSE LOVE YOU!!!~

Answer 6

just ask him hun!
i know you're nervous. but get one of your girls to help you with hair/makeup/lookin HOTT. when you're feeling really confident with the way you look, walk up to him and say, like you guys are best friends, "hey, 'mike', are you going to the dance with anyone?" see how he responds; see if he kind of shies away like he doesnt want to go with you. that way you can kind of guess at how he feels without asking him flat out. but just dont worry about it. if he doesnt like you because of your looks, hes not worth it anyway.
and good luck sweets! anyway, it sounds like he likes you from what youve said. so just doll up, get confidence, swing, and flair, and wing it. the worst that can happen is he'll say no.

Answer 7

First you have to love yourself first before worrying how you can ask him out.Now if you know his interest and what he likes in a woman then it would not be a big problem with you asking him out

Answer 8

Try being his friend! If you don't think you're attractive on the outside, be attractive on the inside. Seriously--confidence shines through.

Answer 9

who knows, maybe he likes big ugly ***'s. And, sometimes a woman is stunning the instant she wakes up and just keeps looking better the more she wakes up. AND, it is possible that you're not ugly.

Just ask him and deal with his answer.

Answer 10

#1. if you want to change yourself, do it for you, not some little kid.
#2. just ask him. and do it soon.
#3. rejection is a part of life. get used to it.