My friends are almost always fighting, and usually over the same issues. One of my friends unknowingly does something wrong, and the other gets mad and calls her on it. Then they fight and my youngest friend calls me and vents all her anger to me because she considers me her "sister".
I have 4 good friends, but 2 of the 4 are always having drama and fighting. For a little while it is okay and things are fine...then the crap starts again. She says this about her, and the other fights back. And they both whine to me about it.
Another thing, my 2nd oldest friend always demands to know what me and my friend talk about on the phone, whenever her and her other "close" friend fight.
I've been really adamant about it, telling them the bull has to stop, and that I am not their messenger or secret-keeper anymore, and that they have to talk to each other if they have problems with each other. They say ok but they don't seem to get I've had enough!
Btw, they are turning 20 and 21 years old.
2007-10-14 18:04:04 · 8 answers · asked by Annie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I mean they act like they're still in high school. I'm a pretty reasonable person, and am a good friend and a good listener...but I absolutely HATE drama...I refuse to repeat things I talk about with my friends on the phone...if they want to know, they should ask the people they're mad at!
How can I clearly and concisely let them know their bull is over and I am not a scapegoat for their childish arguing? I wish they would come to me for real problems...not trivial childish crap!
2007-10-14 18:06:17 · update #1
Tell them to grow up and be adults about the situation tough love is better than no love next time one of them whines about the other say "i love you like a sister but i'm not getting involved with the mess anymore" if they don't get the hint be just as adamant about it stress the fact that your sick of the drama. drama isn't your middle name so take it somewhere else.
2007-10-14 18:27:42 · answer #1 · answered by cutie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok... im in grade 8.. but seriously ive been through a fight from kindergarten till now!!... ya till now!!... 10 freakin years.. ok... so this girl wont leave me alone and i tried to become good with her.. but she wont let me.. she is a bully!>. and she crys to get her way....omg! ok what i did was a moved like 1 month ago!!!... yess!!!.. away from her,... and her annoying freinds.... we were freinds.... but there was the fight.... and when there was a fight she thought i would still be her freind... and then like after the fight cooled down for a sec she came crawling back up to me askin to be freinds... but im so glad of moving.... what i think they should is make them sit down and talk about the problems and resolve them and then also talk to them alone.. and write or memorize some of the impoortant facts... try to help em.. and get some other freinds together to so they could help.. tell me if that helps.. bye
2007-10-14 18:12:51 · answer #2 · answered by Nadia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Maybe you should take a break form these girls. It's sound like you've already tried talking to them about it. You're obviously way more mature than them.
Do they have friend counseling? Lol
2007-10-14 18:07:34 · answer #3 · answered by MJ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it takes some people years 2 grow our of high school drama
2007-10-14 18:26:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell each that the other said: "I want to apologize to ... (name), she's really ...(adjectives she likes.) and I didn't mean it." on the phone.
No, it's not bad lying. You're trying to stop a fight between two, aren't you? The problem is: it may go as:
A: OK, your apologize is accepted.
B: What apologize? Weren't you the one who apologized?
A: No, I wasn't. You were
B: No, Anna said you said so.
A: No! She said YOU said so.
B: N... wait.
A&B: ANNA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-14 18:14:21 · answer #5 · answered by Palestini Detective 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like all of you need to grow up!! like fast!! maybe you need some better friends with less drama. this is real childish and stupid. sounds like a continous circle. why not grow up and move on.
2007-10-14 18:06:35 · answer #6 · answered by Fit 4 A King 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is what i hate about most girls, they are like noisy cats.
I think you should hook 'em up with boys to divert their attention.
2007-10-14 18:09:36 · answer #7 · answered by jace 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
sit them down, have a deep talk. tell them how its affecting you.
2007-10-14 18:07:26 · answer #8 · answered by Your A DWARF ON STILTS!!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋