Family & Relationships - 14 October 2007

I had 5 years of happy marriage and 2 years of going through the worst dovorce. My husband who was so loving for five years turned into a monster during the divorce. I seem to have totally blacked out on the two years of traumas, threats and torture and seem to be stuck with those five years of happy things. How do I move on ? It has been extremely difficult even with so much of family and frind's support. What is wrong with me ?

2007-10-14 15:14:12 · 13 answers · asked by Romi 2 in Marriage & Divorce

asked him back already told me he didn't deserve me(cop out i know). how do i move away with still hope of him realizing he wants me instead if i leave him alone with my dignity intact (remainder of it) .

2007-10-14 15:09:54 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I was just wondering why some hot looking girls act nasty, annoying and mean

2007-10-14 15:09:36 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

When we first got married it happened about 3 times a week. Now we've been married for 6 and a half years and I get it about once every 2 months.

2007-10-14 15:09:11 · 10 answers · asked by dustssoundman 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

...guys stop chasing girls and the girls start chasing the guys more aggressively? Explain.

2007-10-14 15:08:55 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Father Figure by George Michael?

Do you think it is appropriate as a first dance song?

2007-10-14 15:07:21 · 16 answers · asked by belizeable 4 in Weddings

He moved to my state and gave custody to his ex because she was always comming to his house and no one had any peace. I am grateful, however there of course are problems of guilt on his part still....it has been three years. What can I do to help him....he feels that he has to play the role of the buddy, and take all kinds of abuse from them.....I know he hurts so badly and it makes me a bit crazy at them (silently) to see them do this to him. How can I help him through this?

2007-10-14 15:05:53 · 15 answers · asked by Rein 5 in Marriage & Divorce

I am a supporter of the Pink Ribbon campaign that helps make people aware of breast cancer and raises money for vital research. It's my engagement party in a few weeks and I was thinking of selling merchandise there. Not walking around shoving it in people's faces, more so just having a little tray of stuff (eg. pens, badges, magnets etc...) for people to buy if they choose to. Do you think this is inappropriate?

2007-10-14 15:05:42 · 13 answers · asked by iamabeetle 3 in Weddings

What advice do you give your children on contraception and at what age do you give that advice or do you leave this to the schools.

2007-10-14 15:03:03 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

do you find your self turning into your parents.. there ways.. there habits.. child raising or do you go out of your way to be different.. i did that and got 2 spoiled kids.. which will lead to another question later

2007-10-14 14:59:44 · 25 answers · asked by vis 7 in Marriage & Divorce

i think he might also be dating his ex again who is about his age and have kids. he wanted me in the beginning and treated me like a queen but i was not ready to be in a relationship to realize i really did like him. i asked him back already. he says i don't deserve him. he told me to give it a month and think if i still want to be with him and we'll talk about it. what do i do in this situation. and what are the things i can do now to increase my chances of him wanting me back.

2007-10-14 14:59:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husband is always telling me that I am wrong, Everything I do or say is wrong its to point were somtimes I think I should just stay on the computer to avoid arguments. For the pass couple months we have been arguing evey weekend and I have even cought him checking a few singles site. I dont know what to do. Please help.

2007-10-14 14:58:42 · 15 answers · asked by Jiz 1 in Marriage & Divorce

go back to the answers you have given to see if you got thumbs up or thumbs down or is it just me that wonders about that. If you get an up does it make you kinda smile :) or is that just me too? Not that it makes or breaks the day I'm just asking if anyone else checks...just curious.

2007-10-14 14:57:40 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Okay, here's the deal. I got this mom, that's very, very lazy. My dad is a truck driver, and is gone all the time, and I'm here with her my little sister that's two years old. I've recently graduated from high school, and now i'm in college, a full time student. I'm doing all my schooling over the computer, so i'm here constently, but latley, a little more then usual, she wants me to do all this crap around the house. Do this, do that, and nothing I do satisfies her, and everything has to be done right the very freakin second that she says do this. She's lazy as hell, and she's always asking me to clean her house up like i'm her butler. It's really annoying, I know she's got my sister, but she doesn't do anything but just sit and watch tv and get on the computer here and there, she plays with her every great once in a while, and i'm really sick of being here. I left for a week and went to the beach with friends, when I came back she treated me like gold. (Cont. below:)

2007-10-14 14:57:17 · 6 answers · asked by Ask Phoebe 2 in Family

I am asking this because I know her, and at one point (before I knew they were together) I had spent the night with her. I know she regularly goes out on weekends with her girlfriends (most of them are addicted to drugs and/or alcohol) and when they get together, they are actually worse than most men I've ever known. I don't want to be the one to let him know, but I'm afraid he is going to find out after it's too late. Please help?

2007-10-14 14:57:14 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

but i dont think so because they lose their elastic! please settle this 2 hour conversation we had please!

2007-10-14 14:56:27 · 4 answers · asked by Giggle Bear 3 in Singles & Dating

I am a virgin and plan to stay this way until marriage. Because I chose to remain a virgin, I require a virgin wife. No exceptions; no excuses: virgin only. What's wrong with that?

2007-10-14 14:54:31 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

1. Does anyone know of a great place to find plus size wedding gowns that have at least a little sleeve?

2. Also looking for a place that would sell such dresses in not-so-conventional colors. I'm specificly looking for a light (very light) green, so light you can just barely tell it is green.

3. If such dress is found. What is your opinion on the best color for attendant's atire? An outdoor wedding (with adequate shelter) is being planned. No date set yet.

2007-10-14 14:54:25 · 11 answers · asked by Amanda G 2 in Weddings

last night, i went out with my boyfriend for couple drinks, everything was nice and smooth, we went to a club, we danced and had more drinks, 'till i got in his car in the way back home, when i started arguing with him, for no reason, bringing my ex boyfriend, insulting him with no f words, he was calm and didn't wanna fight with me, but i got more aggressive, and louder,
he called me today, telling me that i was beyond mean to him, and totally off line, i kept quiet didn't know what to say, except an apologie, i didn't try to defend my self cause i don't remember anything, he also said that i broke up with him last night, i had nothing to explain, i just feel ashamed of my self.
i told him that i still wanna be with him, deeply sorry, and if there is anything i can do, please let me know.
please tell me how can i apologize to him, he was always nice to me, i don't get ugly like that when i drink, it usually make me happy, and that's a fact, right now he's turned off of me. help me.

2007-10-14 14:52:47 · 19 answers · asked by nestor j 1 in Singles & Dating

When I was online dating a few years ago, on 3 different occasions, I had a date suggest that we meet at Starbucks. 2 of those times when I arrived, he was already drinking his coffee, and didn't offer to buy mine. Since I didn't know better then, I bought my own. My friend said that those men should have waited until I arrived, and paid for both of our coffees. She says I should have ended both dates. The 3d man waited, and paid for both of our coffees. But the others didn't. That is why I don't like coffee dates. I don't know why so many people online like them for the 1st date. They think it is safe and casual or something. To me, it is crowded, hard to hear and it is too easy for either one to leave early. What do you think?

2007-10-14 14:52:46 · 32 answers · asked by LAgirl 3 in Singles & Dating

IS it too creepy? Or charming?

2007-10-14 14:49:26 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok so my freind is like throwing the best sleepover ever again anyways we always do a bunch a fun stuff but this year we want to do something mischeives you know getting in trouble (but not getting caught and stuff) since we're all 13-15 yrs old we're not sure what to do you know since we cant drive we're not sure what we can do so if you have any suggestions please make sure to inform me !

(no sexual things, no nudity, violence, vandalism)

please and thank you

(no sneaking guys over!!!!!!!!)

2007-10-14 14:48:50 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I personally dont mind open marriage but im shcoked....... why don't most open marriages work???????? I mean if you can be in love wiv someone and sleep with another then why won't you be happy?

Are you in an open marriage? If you're parents were, at what age would they tell you? Would you accept your parent's open marriage?Would you get attached to people that your parents sleep with like parent figures?

plz try n answer all my ques. plus ure experinces

once again ty guys :)

2007-10-14 14:47:57 · 13 answers · asked by possessed by insanity 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I am 48 and recently separated from my wife(Sandy) of 20 years.She is 55.The problem is that I have started an affair with HER daughter(Ellen) from a previous marriage (she is 33).I think that the two of us are much more compatible and that we would be much happier .Noone on either side of the family is aware of what's going on however I know we can't keep this a secret for much longer (she is moving in with me at the beginning of the month).I did help raise her from the age of 16, however her natural father WAS always a part of her life, so I wasn't REALLY her father. Is this wrong or would it be considered accaptable. Please let me know what u think. Thank you.

2007-10-14 14:45:13 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

We would like to include a baby girl who passed away before we could take one. We don't want to airbrush her in like she was there. And we don't want to do anything that comes across as creepy.

2007-10-14 14:44:26 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

my uncles bday is coming and im tryin to figure out wat a good present is....any suggestions?

2007-10-14 14:43:53 · 1 answers · asked by The Guy 5 in Family

My family moved back to their country after lvivng in the U.S. for 20 years. My father came back for a while to work. He will be here for 3- 6 months out of the year every year. He started having an affair. I have proof. I feel bad for my mom. I have a 10 year old sister. I feel the need to inform my mom. Advice please.

2007-10-14 14:43:52 · 14 answers · asked by emotional_dreamer 3 in Marriage & Divorce

My best friend and her boyfriend of two years broke up over the summer. He dumped her out of nowhere, and she was absolutely devastated. She seemed to be handling everything well at first, trying to enjoy the single life and focusing on her future. Then she met a cute boy that showed interest right away. They started dating and made things official right away. He is a big partier and player, and they had ended up having sex. Her ex is very straight-edge and wants nothing to do with the party scene, which I think influenced her to be the same way. But with this other guy, she started falling into old habits and turned to alcohol.

To make things worse, this new boy cheated on my friend with THREE other girls. She was heartbroken, and she's been spiraling out of control. She's been letting guys take advantage of her left and right, and she's back to the party scene. I talk to her about it, but no matter what I say, she seems to nod her head and then go out to party. What more can I do?

2007-10-14 14:41:26 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2007-10-14 14:41:26 · 31 answers · asked by single good looking guy 1 in Singles & Dating

ok so a year ago i fell for my best friend. we've been on and off friends and we've been fighting the whole time up until recently. like a month ago things were chill between us again and stuff, we were friends and i told her i would stop talking about her to people even if we werent and im still trying not to cause thats why she didnt like me. but like 2 weeks ago she made up some stupid lie about a fake 23 yr old bf and stuff and i got mad about it so she blocked me. then 2 days later i was walknig and hse came outside with her bff and watched me. i got home and called her about ti and she accused me of walking just to see her house or something and started yelling at me. she has no reason to be mad at me whatsoever. but recently ive been meaning to talk to her about how she acts and if its on purpose or from bi-polar. i want to tell her i cant keep doing this back and forth thing and that she needs to make up her mind.

2007-10-14 14:40:12 · 9 answers · asked by incineratethemachine 2 in Singles & Dating