What is the best way to approach a lady on the train and ask her out?

Question

IS it too creepy? Or charming?

Answer 1

Say hi...introduce yourself and try to start a conversation.
If she finds you cute or interesting you'll know by her first response.

Answer 2

That depends, are you creepy or charming?

Like in most situations in life, honesty works best. Walk over, don't crowd her and for the love of god make sure you are well groomed. Washed, shaved, clean, smell nice etc etc
Just say
Hi, sorry to bother you can I ask you a quick question.

Now if she says Get lost you freak or something equally as charming just think that chances are you don't want to be friends with this sort anyway.

If she reacts with a modicum of grace then just say
"I've noticed you on the train for several weeks now and I just wanted to say you are one of the most beautiful women I have ever seen. I hope I'm not bothering you.

Now don't run at this point, don't lean too far in or anything (I'm hoping you will remember not to invade that whole personal space thing) Just smile and give her a second.

Now she will react one of several ways
1. Scream and spray you with mace. This is not always the best start to a relationship so chances are you are not meant for each other
2. smile or blush and say thanks
3. say nothing as she wonders what you are up to in fear
4. say nothing as she wonders what you are up to in hope.

if 2,3 or 4 occurs again, in a non threatening way just introduce yourself
Ì`m Studly Wellhung and I was wondering if you would like to grab a drink or a coffee sometime

and then just play it by ear
be a gentleman
be kind and considerate
open doors, pull out chairs
and keep in mind that it is a growing process and win lose or draw you will have learned from it

good luck, invite me to the wedding hehehe

Answer 3

You know, it could go both ways - creepy or charming. So I'm picturing in my mind as a lady how it would not be creepy.

As you get on the train, look around to say hello to other people, just so that you also say hello to her. Sit in the seat across the aisle from her, paying her no attention. Don't even look at her. If she sits in the same seat every day, then you'll be fine to sit there every day.

If she moves around, then sit across from her every 1 or 2 times. I can say this, if I were the lady, and I thought you were attractive, I would get the nerve to strike up a conversation. ONLY if you acted in the above. If you acted the least bit creepy, I wouldn't even glance at you.

So you have to play this very carefully. Nonchalantly, with patience. Good Luck!

Answer 4

I say strike up a conversation about the weather, or the train, and talk to her a bit more every day. That way you can get a feeling if she likes you or not. She might be married! Waiting and talking to her over a period of time will make it comfortable. Remember you guys take the train together everyday. it would be rough if you jumped into it, made it awkward then one of you ended up having to take a different train. Keep it light and don't push if you get the wrong vibe. That would just be... bad.
If that doesn't work, you can always hide behind something and wait till she comes close...Then jump out declaring your love for her with two tickets to the Bahamas in your hand.(lol)
It's up to you;-)
Good luck!!

Answer 5

It's all in your approach. If you come over smiling and ask how a person is doing and if they mind you sitting beside them on the train,that is charming. If you come over and just plop yourself down beside someone, that's very creepy.

Answer 6

train=creepy...

although, it would more creepy to follow her from the train and stalk her.

I suggest starting out your conversation like this..." I know the train is probably not the best place for this, but..."

and ask her out. What's the worst that can happen?

Answer 7

You: I've noticed you on this train before, an i just had to come over and say something to you.

Her: Well this is my first time riding this train actually.
or
Her: Well hey nice to meet you.

You: I know it was just a way for me to come talk to you
Or
You: Nice to meet you as well.

Her: Nice
or
Her: My name is ___________.


You: You think, well my name is ________.
Or
You: that's a pretty name, my name is __________.


You: Do you mind if i take a seat ( point to seat close to her)

OK, by know you are already in the zone, so finish off.

But, if you are turned down by this time just return to your original seat, and didn't make eye contact with her until you are walking off, and say, "Are you sure you don't wanna have a conversation." but if she gets of first, just forget about it.

Answer 8

Hi, Ive noticed you riding this route a lot - same as me - do you want to go and get a bite to eat with me? I know a really good place near the stop we both get off at.

ie be direct and honest, and yeah it's a bit forward. See if she responds to eye contact and smiling first

Answer 9

start by just talking to her. if you see her on a day to day basis, then you can pass the time with her. during this time you need to work to put her at ease with you. after about a week of seeing her on the train, and talking, then say something like;

you know this past week has been wonderful talking to you, i was wondering if perhaps you might like to have lunch with me someday?.

if she says yes, then you are in. if she says maybe, then keep working, but dont push her. wait about a week then bring teh subject up again.

Answer 10

Sit next to her one day and have a casual conversation. Then ask if she would like to get a cup of coffee with you one morning, or perhaps she would like to have lunch with you some time. Keep your first date very casual, so it can match your first conversation. For example, you wouldn't ask her to a candle-lit dinner after having ONE conversation with her about the WEATHER. That would be silly(x

Answer 11

umm why would u approtch a lady on a train anyway i mean a bus or somethin is fine but anyway u should say hi and then she will probebly say hi and boom bam u have a conversation but if she doesent say hi back run like right away!