i hurt his feeling?

Question

last night, i went out with my boyfriend for couple drinks, everything was nice and smooth, we went to a club, we danced and had more drinks, 'till i got in his car in the way back home, when i started arguing with him, for no reason, bringing my ex boyfriend, insulting him with no f words, he was calm and didn't wanna fight with me, but i got more aggressive, and louder,
he called me today, telling me that i was beyond mean to him, and totally off line, i kept quiet didn't know what to say, except an apologie, i didn't try to defend my self cause i don't remember anything, he also said that i broke up with him last night, i had nothing to explain, i just feel ashamed of my self.
i told him that i still wanna be with him, deeply sorry, and if there is anything i can do, please let me know.
please tell me how can i apologize to him, he was always nice to me, i don't get ugly like that when i drink, it usually make me happy, and that's a fact, right now he's turned off of me. help me.

Answer 1

It is assumed that people speak the truth or what they have on their minds once they have had one too many drinks.I don't think that is the situation here since there is no indication of any past unresolved problem between you two. So we are left with either you are an alcoholic or you just can't handle alcohol.I happen to think you can't handle liquor unless this is not the first time you have actedin this manner after drinking. Your boyfriend is justifiably angry with you but I don't believe all is lost; but you have to do the repair work in person and not over the phone or text messages.Go to his house and tell him you have come to apologize for everything that happened and that :1) you are not going to blame the alcohol2) that you don't remember anything that happened because you suffered what is called alcoholic blackout, that you are not trying to make an excuse only stating the fact3)that from all he told you that you said you are truly sorry for hurting him so deeply for no reason and you beg his forgiveness4)that you love him,want to remain his girlfriend, don't want to break up ;however you will understand if he no longer wants to be with you anymore.That you hope he will decide not only to forgive you but to remain in the relationship5) that as a rule ,he knows you don't act that way after drinking, but you can't explain what happened6) mean all of what you say.While I don't know how long you guys have been together or if you have had any other major problems in the past, I suspect he will forgive you and conclude that although you were mean and hurtful to him, it does not warrant ending the romance especially if it has been a pretty good one.I hope it works out well for you and you have my best wishes.

Answer 2

i no this may seem like not what you want to hear but if he loves you and 100% wants to be with you then he would understand that you was drunk and that it was the drink talking, i have arguments with my friends or family and take no notice if they have had a few you could spend all day saying sorry because you really do mean it but if he was looking for a way out just a small argument when you were drunk is an easy option for him just give him time to chill out and he will come back if he loves you hope this helps xxxxxxxxxx

Answer 3

Well, I think you had more than few too many drinks yourself, this is bad, because honestly you felt the balls to say what your inner mind keeps. Are you sure you want to be with him? if you would really love him, you would have never had this episode.
Now, I am sure you remember.........what happened, what you said, I don't believe you are a chronic drinker for you to have "memory" issues.
All you can do is apologize for your embarrassing behavior and totally up to him to continue or not. It depends how he feels now. He really need to love you truly to forget and start like nothing, I don't know, depends how deep he feels.
Good luck, and please don't drink, alcohol and you are not good mixers.

Answer 4

i did the exact same thing once!!
this is kinda like a deja vu, well i was with my other friend of mine at the time, when my boyfriend called me and told me all these things in hate. and i was feeling really miserable, and my other friend (who is a guy,) told me not to freak out so much,
because guys take time to accept apologies.

so if you had said that you are very deeply sorry, then wait for a day or two for him to "process" your apologies..
it worked out for me,


as my other friend recommended, i told my boyfriend, that i am so sorry for being a total *****!.

he told me not to make a complicated apology cuz that will only confuse an angry guy. so i kept it short, a day later my boyfriend was back in to my arms!! :)

good luck ;)

Answer 5

All I got to tell you hon is to call him right now, and be sincere in your apology to him. Let him know you love him, and it was just the "beer talking" last night! Hopefully, he will understand. And, if he does, remember that if the situation is ever reversed. Best wishes to you on this.

Answer 6

The truth comes out when your drunk...but you will not remember because you were drunk. If you know how you can get when you drink, you need to set a limit. Give him time to get back to the way he is feeling for you.

Answer 7

Well that's what happens when you drink, that why i despise it,
i hope he forgives you and you find the Lord. My advice, never drink, read the bible, and apologize over and over, if he doesn't except, then still say sorry but understand that it's your fault not his and he's hurt, so give it time and i hope he forgives you.

Good luck!!

Answer 8

You are going to have to let him decide on this one. My b/f has done this numerous times, and while the person she did this to most, she married, after she apologized, she had to let him come to her and forgive her. IF he decides to accept your deep apology - you have to make sure to NOT do it again. These things happen - it's how you fix them that makes a difference in the long run.

Answer 9

Get some of his favorite things, do some of the things he likes to do, and go over to his place and re-apologize to him for the way you acted towards him. Explain to him what you just said in your question.

Answer 10

you need to call him and ask him to come over and have a serious talk with him. you need to not only say your sorry but prove it to him. make him believe that you really mean it. you have to realize that hes going to need some time and is probably going to need some space. and you should also respect that.

good luck! hope that helps you!