Family & Relationships - 14 October 2007

i just had a breakup.. what should i do.. i wanna suicide..

2007-10-14 20:37:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I nearly married an Evengelical American sometime ago but pressures from home affected our relationship and we broke up.

My mom wants me to marry a native of my country (asian), and from my religion (non-christian). am ok with that now.

She is putting height restrictions now (as I am only 5 feet tall). Plsu education background and societal background.

And am running out of time as she has given me only 8 months before she looks for a guy for me (ASIAN traditions suck!)

What should I do?

I also like this guy who is 6'2" in height and 1 year younger. Such a no no for my Mom. (She does not know of it)

2007-10-14 20:30:05 · 5 answers · asked by Tashamster 2 in Marriage & Divorce

LIKE OMG I CANNOT EVEN BREATH, TODAY I'M GONNA SPEAK WITH MY CRUSH (HE'S SO HOT, HE LOOKS JUST LIKE TOM WELLING BUT EVEN HOTTER). ANYWAY, HE'S GONNA BE ALONE PLAYING BASKETBALL ON THE BASKETBALLL COURT TODAY AND I HAVE NO CLASSES, SO LIKE YEA, MAYBE I CAN SPEND THE 1ST PERIOD WITH HIM, RIGHT??SHOULD I TALK TO HIM WHILE HE'S PLAYING BASKETBALL, LIKE INTERRUP HIM?????? AND LIKE MY FRIEND KARA THINKS (I AGREE) THAT IF I SPEND THE BREAK WITH HIM TOO IT MEANS THAT I HAVE GOOD CHANCES WITH HIM. YAY. AFTER THE 1ST PERIOD (TO SPEND THE BREAK WITH HIM) SHOULD I JUST KEEP TALKING OR ASK HIM IF HE MINDS IF I SPEND THE BREAK WITH HIM????????

THANKS YA'LL!!!!!!

2007-10-14 20:20:21 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

How many dates? When did you tell yourself," I love him/her"?

2007-10-14 20:19:12 · 22 answers · asked by 21questions 4 in Singles & Dating

In the past (recently) have had issues with my mum. I have come to the point where I feel better when I don't speak to her. We initially had a huge fight when she realised I was definitely going to University so I wouldn't be giving her any more money. I thought she would be happy for me, but I think she loves money more than anything. I decided I wouldn't give her any money regardless and that she has to work. I had gone through the trouble of having her relocate and help her find a good job only for her to throw it in my face after 10 days of working and she decided to move back out of the country. Recently she was trying to blackmail me by using my sliblings, knowing that I care for them and will send money if it's to do with them, but I refused. She is now so full of anger, and snaps at everyone (major tantrums). My sister cannot take it anymore and has no choice because she is so young. She is bullying everyone including my dad. Now after everything she wants to come back to her

2007-10-14 20:17:05 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Or would it just be too wierd for you?

2007-10-14 20:11:59 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I'm new to this church and some women were nice to me at first. I talked to everyone when the service is over or when there are church activities. Some of the husbands and other women would come up to me to talk and to welcome me to the church. But lately....Some of the wives give me mean looks when their husband do. Lately some men that use to say hi just ignore me now. I'm a really nice person. I mean...I don't go up to them...they came up to me and talk. Was I suppose to me rude and not talk?? Did I do anything wrong? I mean I know my boundries and know they are married men and I don't even flirt or anything! Now I don't feel like attending church but I do anyway...for me. I like friends :(

2007-10-14 20:10:48 · 20 answers · asked by Miss H 3 in Marriage & Divorce

We got tickets to the Raiders/ Chargers game as a gift from his parents to us ( they were given to me) I'm not AS big of a fan as he is ( well I'd call him a fanatic not just a fan) but I really like football. Plus they were playing for first place and it against the raiders for god sake, and we hadn't been out together in forever I was really excited about going with him. Great seats and I love sharing something that makes him so excited. but when I woke up Saturday morning to him talking to his friend. He said "Yeah I know it sucks but I feel obligated cause my dad gave them to her" I was really really hurt. I understand that he might have had different fun with a guy friend. And I told him to take someone else because I didn't want to be where I wasn't wanted. but it was a lie kinda. I wanted to go so bad. What should I do. He's being really difficult about it( I know I over reacted too we had a big fight). I need an outsiders view, specialy a guys point of veiw. please help

2007-10-14 20:08:53 · 7 answers · asked by Brizzie 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-14 20:03:40 · 17 answers · asked by uxor01 2 in Singles & Dating

Husband and I were married only for a year.

A few months back, our marriage went through something EXTREMELY major.

An argument at home resulted in him slapping me. He was charged for assault by the police. They took him to court. If found guilty, he would have had a criminal record for the rest of his life.

But he was found not guilty – thanks to his lawyer. And the case was dismissed.

His family have advised him to file for a divorce. My family have advised me to do the same.

But we are still very close….and regularly see each other and spend all our time together.

Sometimes, when alone, I often think – what’s going on? Why does he still love me? And why do I feel the same?

Ps: We have been living apart since he was charged.

2007-10-14 19:58:37 · 10 answers · asked by Sarah 2 in Marriage & Divorce

they always tell me that they will marry.

2007-10-14 19:54:49 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i went out with this guy last year and he cheated on me!i told myself i would never get back with him ever again.well my friend had a party sat. and he came well we talked and i started feeling for him again.sun. i asked him out and he said that he would think about it but i dont think i made a good chose of asking him out again.what should i do?

2007-10-14 19:54:24 · 20 answers · asked by chasity b 1 in Singles & Dating

I asked a couple questions last week about these pictures, so no comments on the other questions please. If you want to see these pictures go to my yahoo 360 then go to the far right side about 1/2 way down where it says "photo stream" & look at the first 2 pix. They were taken 25 min apart. They were taken in Sturgis during biker rally & to me one looks like it's taken at work w/ all the boxes in background, but the other one looks like it's after work. What do you think? My husband says she's just a girl that was handing out beef jerky & then had her picture taken w/ people. Remember they are 25 minutes apart & look at them closely & tell me what you think? If I'm just being paranoid, you can tell me so, but he said the guy he works with that took the pictures didn't think the 1st one took so HE thought he should take another one. Something just sounds funny about that to me???

2007-10-14 19:34:09 · 23 answers · asked by ♥bigmamma♥ 6 in Marriage & Divorce

Any songs about cheating...

2007-10-14 19:33:51 · 7 answers · asked by CiL 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Do you believe that money is happiness? If you were to marry someone who was poor because you loved them do you think that financial rought times would chase that love out the window?
Are poor people happier than wealthy people or is it the other way around? What do yall think?

2007-10-14 19:33:14 · 7 answers · asked by :) 2 in Marriage & Divorce

There was once a woman and a man, married. They lived in a middle of nowhere, kilometres and kilometres of woods and wilderness around, and the man drove to his work for an hour every day. He married a woman for love, and she didn't like to stay in all the time, and searched for job, or something else to do, but there was nothing to do, and if there was a job advertised many kilometres away, they wanted a man (and they had only one car, and could not afford any other). They lived so so, not too bad, but not extremely good either. Then the man lost his job, and however hard both of them search, nothing came up, and they lived on baked potatoes and tap water. Then a woman went to the nearest little town to apply for yet another job, where they wanted everybody on paper, but were looking for a male in fact, and meet a well to do man.

2007-10-14 19:30:33 · 10 answers · asked by 17 3 in Marriage & Divorce

that will make you go crazy. my girlfriend and i had some problems in the past and i started talking to someone else because i was very unsure about us. i broke of the phone affair because it was wrong and i felt like dirt. a long time went by but i still thought about her a lot and eventually left my girlfriend and started seeing the other woman. the other woman is great but i have realized that i'm very much in love with my ex. my ex still calls, text and sends pictures of us together. when i ask her if i could ever come back she says trust is a *****. i understand she is mad but then why still call text, send pictures. i have made up y mind to stop my relationship with the woman i'm seeing now because it's unfair to her if my heart is somewhere else. i plan to take a break and give my ex her space. if she forgives me great if not, hey i learned a hard lesson and will always have regrets. is there anything i can tell my ex to get to her heart and make her see how i loveherandundersta

2007-10-14 19:28:11 · 9 answers · asked by doormat 1 in Singles & Dating

Here's the thing, I'm 21. And I go to this church & I'm a choir director of a small group. So this guy is in my group & for the last few months I've noticed he acts differently around me. I know that his family and mine hang out & stuff and that's one of the reasons why he might seem more comfortable with me but there have been times I've caught his staring at me from the podium(he plays an instrument during service) & in other places, & he's also done other things like him sharing his iPod with me or letting me borrow (I never ask for it) his iPod (he's kinda over protective of his iPod), he waved goodbye to me with an odd smile & look in his eye one time, when our families go out he usually asks if I'm coming along & if i say i dont know he usually tells me i should go, when he gets to use my camera he sometimes takes pics of me when I don't look and etc. Thing is, I have not led him on in any way, i don't have an interest in him but I just find it kinda odd. What are your opinions?

2007-10-14 19:25:40 · 9 answers · asked by tralala508 1 in Singles & Dating

I married my school sweet heart he was so sweet I felt like I was the most luckiest girl in the world.I felt like a queen he pay for eveything ten white horse, beautiful dove flying as we walk out the church my wedding dress oh my goodness when i see our cake it was so beautiful we dance the night away on his yacet. this was a dream come true and the next day we went to paris.our honeymoon I could not believe it.I say to my self with tear in my eyes is this a gream to me he is so handsome but my joy turn to fear everything was find until we return home he bought me beautiful a home a car everything was paid for..and three week later he begain to slap me around kick me I ask my self what did I do wrong I love him if I look at another man he slap me, and he scream at me I can't talk to him if i ask him are tell him something he get mad over nothing. now two year has pass we have twin boy and i dont wont our son to be like ther father what should i do?I love him so

2007-10-14 19:25:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

me and this guy are going out and we are rather perfect for each other.. he loves me but i am three years younger than him. he knows this and accepts it because he loves me for me and the person that i am. he tells me he dosent care how old i am because age is just a number, but he tells all of his friends that i am two years older than i am.. If he dosent care how old i am then why does he lie,, well i look older than i am so i can pull it off, but it feels weird and now he is telling me that he wants me to meet his parents but i have to say i am 15 because his parents would say i am too young for him (keep in mind i am very muture for my age and act older than i am).. i dont know why he keeps lying???? does anyone else know.. and what should i do about his parents???? please help.. i would really appreciate it

2007-10-14 19:23:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am 20 years old, but due to some personal problems I want to marry with my girlfriend at this age is there any legal provision.

2007-10-14 19:23:03 · 6 answers · asked by sanjay_verma1818 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Hi im 25.My mom has cancer.Everyones depressed at home.Dads also depressed.But im beginning to note a change in him.He has talked to my mom's sis about his personal life.He has told his personal life was bad and he din have sex for almost 10yrs.I don knw y he talked like that.He is very good and nice.But in his irritation he shouts at home.My aunt got depressed on hearing this.Shes also married and has a kid.Because of this suddenly a black cloud has fallen on our family.Is it because hes depressed that my mom's life is gona end? is he doin it out of his frustration?He doesn realise what hes saying sometimes.Im very confused.I myself have been betrayed by my lover who thinks only sex and money is life.So im beginning to hate marriage,and for that guys as a whole.Im beginning to hate sex and male affection.Can anyone tell me what the purpose of marriage?afterall is it only for sex?so if sex is not possible will men change?

2007-10-14 19:20:53 · 3 answers · asked by strong 3 in Marriage & Divorce

my ex (Amanda) she looks gorgeous, I can be myself around her. we went out for 2 a half years and then the the other half we were on and off. When we first started going out, I broke up with her because she was going to move to Tennessee we live in Florida. I freaked out, got scared. I hate long distance relationships. A week later I talked into going back out with me. We were good but then she broke up with me because the stress of her moving after from me was to much. So we broke up and she told me to started dating other people... I didn't want to so I keep trying to get her back. Being her friend and hanging out with her flirting then kissing. She cheated on 3 boyfriends with me and would run back to them the next day. So I finally took her advice and get a new crush (heather). Amanda had a new boyfriend but gets jealous and tells heather to stay away from her man. Both girls are great with look n personality but not brains. =\ so Im bummed. E-mail me @ jonnyf14@aol.com w/ advice

2007-10-14 19:20:24 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

what happened we was dated for about 5 months and 3or 4 months in he ytold me he had cheated on me with his ex i fell in love with him so i tryed to work it out after about a month though i was getting all stressed out from crying and worrying that he was cheating one me i broke up with him this was about a month or two ago i've recently noticed i still have feelings for him but we havent talked since what should i do should i get a hold of him and tell him all this??

2007-10-14 19:19:21 · 12 answers · asked by Nicole M 1 in Singles & Dating

i found out my wife.s cheating on me now it. aint right where she found out i was going with this married woman back in.2001. and she.s cheating with this woman.s husband well her.ex. husband i aint right for her to do me like that with him he.s.53. and she.s 20. it just aint right no way she found out and she said she loves him at his age of .53. she.s 20. she.started e_mailing him i would never thought she found out about me and that thing even if we was married we lived .5. states apart and she told me se loved him no way i am losing her over my past help me please she as well was calling him afterwards when she found out it.s not right help she was even calling him it.s not right on her doing me like that with him

2007-10-14 19:18:46 · 15 answers · asked by matthew v 3 in Marriage & Divorce

The way I grew up I learned to always prove points or point out when someone does something wrong so they can correct their mistakes. It's some sort of defense/survival mechanism that has been permanantly installed as a way of my life. . . I've been with my g/f goin on 2 years now and love her sooo much. But about 25 percent of the time spent together I end up starting a fight or "heated arguement" or "discussion" as we like to say. As with most men. . . I'm pretty much ignorant when I do things like this. (because it's how I am) but I don't want it to get to the point that it will negatively affect our relationship . . . Ladies . . . any suggestions???

2007-10-14 19:17:45 · 9 answers · asked by Iceman 3 in Marriage & Divorce

my bf has always moved slow with me because i have had bad experiences with guys i know he is ready to kiss me but is afraid to do so because he dose not want to scare me but now i'mready and don't know how to tell him please i need some help please awncer if you can

2007-10-14 19:14:01 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

how do I "wash a man right out of my hair"

Only nice suggestions please.....I don't want to be mean

2007-10-14 19:07:48 · 22 answers · asked by Kim 5 in Singles & Dating

My friend Vanessa is confused. She was going out with a boy(Micheal). Until her cousin blurted she disliked Micheal. She Disliked him because he had cheated and talked badly about his girlfriends in the past. Vanessa ended up dumping Micheal. She is now with another guy Jesse. Micheal dosn't know that though. The sad part is she dosn't want to tell him. She also dosnt want no hurt feelings. Unfortannaly we all know there will be broken feelings.

2007-10-14 19:04:38 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend and I have been going out for 8 months. He works around 80 hours a week and I work around 40 and I am also in college. We try to see each other every night after work but sometimes he says he will call and he doesn't. This has only happened about 5 times and the next day he says he is sorry he was just extremely tired. I understand, it's just I don't know. Some things have happened recently, like his ex is always bothering us and around 5 months ago, he pecked another girl on the cheek/neck thinking I didn't see and what was worse, she looked like a man. Sometimes I doubt his faithfulness because of that incident and he gets upset with me. He gets extremely jealous and thinks that every guy is out to be with me. He says "I'm afraid you are too beautiful for me and will leave me." We have had some horrible fights for his jealousy and he has become violent, never full on hit me, but has shoved me out of the way with his arm. We haven't fought in a long time.

2007-10-14 19:02:40 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating