what happened we was dated for about 5 months and 3or 4 months in he ytold me he had cheated on me with his ex i fell in love with him so i tryed to work it out after about a month though i was getting all stressed out from crying and worrying that he was cheating one me i broke up with him this was about a month or two ago i've recently noticed i still have feelings for him but we havent talked since what should i do should i get a hold of him and tell him all this??
2007-10-14 19:19:21 · 12 answers · asked by Nicole M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Would you get back together with him even if you were unsure of his faithfulness and/or commitment to you?
It doesn't sound like you can put your full faith in him, at the moment. Seems like there are a couple of issues to work out before you conceive of a relationship with this person.
What does he want right now? Would telling him change his behaviors or how he feels? Ask yourself, "can I really trust this person?Do I consider this person a friend (all love feelings aside)? Do I like him as a person? Do I respect him?" Unfortunately, all the feelings in the world won't smooth over the inuitive feeling of distrust one might have for someone....no matter how strong the feeling of being "in love." For a time, it might be enough....but it never seems to be in the long run. Take care not to make the conscious decision that his love is worth more than your self-respect. All the love he might give you will never amount to a love that is true and faithful. In time, it would be hard to keep injurying yourself by trying to make the relationship into something it isn't.
I would be slow to say anything to him about your feelings or intentions. It sounds like you have a few things to talk about and sort out (i.e. whether or not you trust him) before you get into talking about your feelings for him or getting back together with him.
2007-10-14 19:47:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you deserve someone better. you should put away this relationship and move on. life is like a journey. there's a lot of junctions whereby we need to make decision before we can move on. we do not noe which turn will lead us to our happily ever after. but if you don't start on the new journey, you will never discover. you are now stuck at the junction. you are left with 2 choices. turn right to go back to him. to try out again. maybe he has changed. maybe he will learn to treasure you to love you more after losing you once. or choice 2, turn left to stop thinking abt him and move on. maybe there are better guys out there who are more worth your love. there is no right or wrong in relationship. the only thing that you should keep in mind is never regret your choice. don't leave regrets in life. do what your hearts say. follow your heart and you will find your happiness. be it right or left..i hope you can be happy. cheers.:)
2007-10-15 02:34:58 · answer #2 · answered by cheer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing to do is talk about your feelings but NOT to him! Grab a girl friend who is positive and won't judge you for feeling the way you do. If she is a good friend she will provide you with plenty of occasions to not think of him anymore.
and, it will take time. Real love doesn't die. You will probably always love him, though not be "in love" wit him. You will fall in love again one day and you'll move on.
2007-10-15 02:30:36 · answer #3 · answered by leelee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm, no. Don't get hold of him and tell him all your deep feelings. There is nothing to work out. He cheated, and the chances of you ever trusting him again are close enough to zero.
That you still have feelings for him is irrelevent. Move on.
2007-10-15 02:24:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably not a good idea. Call him if u must, arrange a meeting and try to gauge how he feels about you. If u come out and tell him how u feel, he'll just sleep with u again and get back to his girlfriend. Dont let him use you.
2007-10-15 02:45:29 · answer #5 · answered by BigJoeDaddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he try to reconcile with you? Did he try to call you or talk to you after you broke up with him? If not then maybe he doesn't really love you... If you are sure that he loves you and if you are sure of your feelings too, try to think things through, will you love him just like before, will you trust him like you did before? And why did he tell you he cheated on you? ? to clean his conscience? or to trigger a break up? Think over and over...
2007-10-15 02:35:44 · answer #6 · answered by aleihs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello? A guy cheated on you. End of story, forget him. Where is your self respect? Once a cheater always a cheater.
2007-10-15 02:23:11 · answer #7 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He was on the rebound. I dont think it will get much better until he gets over his ex completely
2007-10-15 02:23:31 · answer #8 · answered by Claude 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
nope once a cheater always a cheater go w\ the gut feeling
2007-10-15 02:22:57 · answer #9 · answered by momma 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No! You will never trust him again and you can't have a relationship with no trust.
2007-10-15 02:28:13 · answer #10 · answered by collie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋