me and this guy are going out and we are rather perfect for each other.. he loves me but i am three years younger than him. he knows this and accepts it because he loves me for me and the person that i am. he tells me he dosent care how old i am because age is just a number, but he tells all of his friends that i am two years older than i am.. If he dosent care how old i am then why does he lie,, well i look older than i am so i can pull it off, but it feels weird and now he is telling me that he wants me to meet his parents but i have to say i am 15 because his parents would say i am too young for him (keep in mind i am very muture for my age and act older than i am).. i dont know why he keeps lying???? does anyone else know.. and what should i do about his parents???? please help.. i would really appreciate it
2007-10-14 19:23:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i just got out of a relationship with a huge age diffrence. all i can tel you is ask him maybe hes uncomfortable with the age diffrence but doesnt want to say anything to you. I think you should smooth it all out with him before attempting to meet the parents. And maybe his friend would bug him about dating a younger girl i kno that the guy i was dating got bugged all the time. but he said he loved me and didnt care
2007-10-14 19:31:06 · answer #1 · answered by Nicole M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age does matter.
I respect the fact that you claim to be mature, that's very understandable.
In fact this situation you have has happened recently around my peers.
My friend dated one around your age, but 3 years is a bit too young when your only 14.
I mean, if your 23 and the person is 20 then yeah its all good cause your adults and all.
Anyways.
That makes him 17 right?
Why is a 17 year old dating a 14 year old?
First answer that.
Wouldn't any 17 year old who truly didn't care about age not lie about you're true age?
When he becomes 18(adult)
What other possibilities will occur?
Will he say you're suddenly 17 to new people he meets?
Any man is out there to love you if there is the slightest lie in something delicate like this isn't a good option.
When his parents ask you what you're age is tell them the truth, why lie to your partners parents?
Besides, how long do you think this lie will last?
Trust me it won't.
It didn't with my friend and possibly wouldn't with you.
So be honest, listen to you instincts and see what happens.
Because if he does get mad or persuades you to agree with him, then you know for a fact that he knows there's something wrong with him dating a 14 year old.
He would be cool with it if he wasn't.
Best wishes to you dear.
2007-10-15 02:42:56 · answer #2 · answered by Wisdom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three years isn't a huge difference in age... but you should be careful nonetheless. It's true that many men prefer younger women; and some for less honorable reasons.
Maybe he's lying about your age to his friends because he's embarrassed. I know some people tease their friends for dating older/younger people; perhaps he simply does not want them to judge him based on your age. However, the possibility remains that the age gap does indeed bother him. Try talking to him about it a lot more - and maybe even hint to him that you know he lies about your age to others... or just come right out and say it. Honesty is an extremely important part of a relationship, and if he truly does care about you he should tell you exactly what's going on.
I understand why he might be lying to his parents about your age... but that doesn't mean that it's right. If he's lying to them, he obviously knows he's doing something wrong in their eyes. But his parents aren't the ones in the relationship so it's all up to you two. He should come clean with them at some point. Again, honesty is important. What happens when/if they find out your real age?
He could be lying to protect your relationship with him, or he could be lying for bad reasons. Either way you should watch out for yourself.
And talk to him about your concerns! Communication is important too! :)
2007-10-15 02:52:01 · answer #3 · answered by magickfaye 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold your horses! You are way too young to be caught up with this scene. What do your parents say about this guy, or are you lying to them as well? Stop letting him lie to people about your age and if you meet his parents, tell the truth. Since he knows his parents would not approve of his dating you, the best thing to do is not date him. Stick with your own age group and you will be much better off. You don't need a guilty conscience at this time in your life. Use your head, sweetie.
2007-10-15 02:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by older is wiser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From reading this, I believe that you are about 13 years old, and if that's the case, you are too young to be worried about boys! To answer your question, though, he's embarrassed by the age gap. Otherwise there would be no reason to lie about your age. I'm going to go ahead and say lying to his parents is not a good idea. How long do you really think you can lie to them without getting caught? Not only that, but it makes you uncomfortable, so you shoudn't go through with anything that doesn't feel right to you. Good luck, sweetie!
2007-10-15 02:45:18 · answer #5 · answered by kyliekissesx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's lying, it matters to him and he's a jerk for lying. I suggest you dump this "perfect" guy fast. What else is he lying about?
You are jail bait, he's 18 and you are 15, bad news for him if you have sexual relations honey. You better watch yourself, usually older guys use younger girls for a reason.
2007-10-15 02:28:29 · answer #6 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason for him to lie but he may be worried that his parents will not approve of you because of your age. That doesn't mean he doesn't love you all he is doing is try to play safe.
2007-10-15 02:34:32 · answer #7 · answered by dicovi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may not want people telling you arent good for him or you are too young. he may be trying to protect you. im sure he doesnt mind. 3 years isnt very much.
2007-10-15 02:38:30 · answer #8 · answered by mady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
three years younger is nothing,and guys like younger ones anyways
2007-10-15 02:27:12 · answer #9 · answered by e_s_p 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋