My best friend and her boyfriend of two years broke up over the summer. He dumped her out of nowhere, and she was absolutely devastated. She seemed to be handling everything well at first, trying to enjoy the single life and focusing on her future. Then she met a cute boy that showed interest right away. They started dating and made things official right away. He is a big partier and player, and they had ended up having sex. Her ex is very straight-edge and wants nothing to do with the party scene, which I think influenced her to be the same way. But with this other guy, she started falling into old habits and turned to alcohol.
To make things worse, this new boy cheated on my friend with THREE other girls. She was heartbroken, and she's been spiraling out of control. She's been letting guys take advantage of her left and right, and she's back to the party scene. I talk to her about it, but no matter what I say, she seems to nod her head and then go out to party. What more can I do?
2007-10-14 14:41:26 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have a best friend who is in somewhat in the same situation and I actually had to seperate myself from her for her to realize that what she was doing to herself was not only affecting her but also the people that love and care about her. If I were you I would try talking to your friend one last time and explain to her how it hurts you to see her doing these things to herself and offer to spend more time with her. If she rejects your offer to help her get herself back together explain to her how you will have to distance yourself from her because you cnnot stand to see her harming herself, and I know that it will hurt but you will have to really stick to what you say for her to get the picture. MY best friend and I were actually stopped talking for a couple of months before she realized thatshe really was harming herself and now we are closer than ever. Also try explaining to your friend that she is way too beautiful to put herself out like that and try doing things with her that will help her realize that. I hope that things get better for your friend. And by the way you seem like an outstanding friend because there are few people who cherish their friends enough to ask for other peoples advice about what to do regarding their friend.
2007-10-14 14:53:57 · answer #1 · answered by Butterfly87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If talking to her wont work, then try hooking her up with a guy who is good and would make her the same way that she used to be. If you know her well enough then you'll know what type of guy would have the same interests as her, that's my best advice to get her a good guy who would make her happy and who wouldn't cheat on her and treat like crap. Also tell your friend to get over it and have more self-esteem, she can't just let everybody take advantage of her just because some relationships didn't work out for her. And if you get so many positive answers then you might wanna show her your question and the answer so that she would know that you care that much about her.
2007-10-14 21:49:07 · answer #2 · answered by KILLER 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when it comes down to telling your friends you've noticed they're falling apart they usually reject you. You should take your friend on a trip just you and her and talk to her about what you've noticed in her spiraling life. Tell her how you feel about the situation and bring up what problems you've seen. Ask her to stop dint tell her to beg her even but even more importantly do not have the boyfriend in any contact with her, hide her cell phone if you have to.
Please save your friend.
2007-10-14 21:49:31 · answer #3 · answered by beau_money 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ones gonna b able to talk any sence in her head, yes it's very hard when 2 people are in a realationship, and the other leaves. what ur friend should do is play the field,and dont get serious w/anyone till she knows him better. there's many guys in this world for every gurl she shouldnt feel she needs to give her body to any guy who comes along, coz most guys like you said will use you, and abuse you. i know ur concerned abt ur friend, but talkin to her wont do any good. she's gonna have to learn the hard way, by giving ur self to just any guy she runs into will just make her life hell.. i hope she comes to her sences, and realize she has only one body, an she needs to take care of it, coz if she dont no one will.. good luck to ur friend..
2007-10-14 21:57:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, not much else. you've been a good friend by talking to her about it, but if she doesn't want to listen, then there's really not much else you can do. just be there for her when she needs someone to talk to her or for advice. i know she's your friend, but you can't control her life. just continue to talk to her and tell her the consequences, but meanwhile, just be a good friend and be there for her. you may also want to her talk to her parents or a counselor about it. she may hate you for it when you do it, but in the long run, it's the best thing to do- it's showing you really care about her. but i really do think you should tell someone before things get more out of hand than they already are or she gets seriously hurt.
2007-10-14 21:46:41 · answer #5 · answered by person 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say at this point she has to figure it out on her own , but being a friend, be there for her, cause she sure will need it till she gets past all this hurt she's going through right now.
2007-10-14 21:47:39 · answer #6 · answered by shecat2u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel for you honey but there's nothing you can do if she doesn't want to here it what Else con you do but be by her side right or wrong just be there when no one else is there she is just going through a phase shell just have to wake up to reality cause life ain't alwayz gone be peaches and cream so just be there that's the best you can do for her right now at this point
2007-10-14 21:56:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
things like this can be hard to talk to friends about. they just ignore what u say. i think you should talk to her parents about it, thats one the only ways to stop things like this. dont tell her ur gunna though. its a good thing ur tryin to help her... things could get so much more worse if this problem isnt stopped.
2007-10-14 21:46:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing but be there to help herself put her life back together. she will run the course of the partier and they always hit rock bottom and need good friends to help them are you that friend? good luck
2007-10-14 21:50:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
say i know that your better than this and you deserve better than this life style. i know it seems fun and all but where is this going to take you in life. think about it. where do you think your gonna be in 5 years if you keep doing this.
2007-10-14 21:46:53 · answer #10 · answered by lisa B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋