What do I do?

Question

Okay, here's the deal. I got this mom, that's very, very lazy. My dad is a truck driver, and is gone all the time, and I'm here with her my little sister that's two years old. I've recently graduated from high school, and now i'm in college, a full time student. I'm doing all my schooling over the computer, so i'm here constently, but latley, a little more then usual, she wants me to do all this crap around the house. Do this, do that, and nothing I do satisfies her, and everything has to be done right the very freakin second that she says do this. She's lazy as hell, and she's always asking me to clean her house up like i'm her butler. It's really annoying, I know she's got my sister, but she doesn't do anything but just sit and watch tv and get on the computer here and there, she plays with her every great once in a while, and i'm really sick of being here. I left for a week and went to the beach with friends, when I came back she treated me like gold. (Cont. below:)

So I'm seriously thinking about moving out. I have a place to move into it just needs the power hooked up to it, but I don't know how i'm going to do that without a job. My dad says that I should stay at home as long as I can, but I can't take it, she's so annoying, and treats me like i'm not worth nothing. What do I do?!

Answer 1

talk to her. tell her how you feel. and also try to find a job already. i dont want to sound ungrateful, parents are the reason why we're here =) but our parents have to take care of us until they're it's time for us to take care of them when they're much older =)

you might also want to talk to your dad about this =) that way he can talk to your mom =)

Answer 2

As much as your frustrated, you should probably stay.
If you don't have a job and can't get your power hooked up, how are you going to pay for the everyday essentials like food, and keeping the power on. There is a lot of financial responsibility to moving out. Have you tried talking with your mom. Explain how you feel. Maybe you could come up with a contract of sort listing responsibilities around the house that you will do on a regular basis. Does your mom work? Do you pay rent for continuing to stay at home? Communication maybe the key. Has your mom always been "lazy" or is this something new. If her behavior is new maybe suggest she see a doctor and let her know that you have noticed the changes. If not, then maybe putting up with her demands may be a small price to pay in order for you to complete school. It's hard once you have moved out. My dad was an over the road truck driver, only home on weekends. Mom raised 5 of us, we all had our responsibilities to lend a helping hand. I am sure your mom is grateful, even though she takes you for granted.
I wish you luck, but just don't do anything in haste.

Answer 3

I am afraid that your dad is probably right. How can you get the power on, if you don't have a job so you can pay for it?
How can you study on the computer if you have no power?
OK so your mom requires you to do things for her around the house. I didn't hear you complaining that she is interfering with your studies, so as long as you can keep up with that then you are at least fullfilling your long-term goals.
Right now you have to do some chores around the house.
If you left to live on your own, you would still have to care for your own home, PLUS you would have to go out & work a job.
I don't see how leaving would improve your situation.

Get your schooling behind you, & then move out & get a place on your own when you have a job, & a reliable income.

Life is tough no matter where you live!

Answer 4

Maybe talk to your mom about making a cleaning schedule -- a day or two a week, or a few hours scheduled here and there to clean TOGETHER! That way, both of you will be working on things, and she won't be able to sit and watch TV.

Figure out what sort of time you have free, and let her know. Tell her you will be happy to help clean, and it will get done quickly if you work together (say one vacuums everything while the other cleans the bathroom, etc).

i don't know if it would work, but it's worth a try. take care.

Answer 5

If you have a job, then things are going to prosper for you. Get a full-time job and things are going to turn different for you.

Without a full-time job, you become your parents' boy or child.

With a full-time job, you become an independent and your own decision-making person.

I hope you find a job soon.

Answer 6

Time to move out.