I've been datind this guy for about 1 month, last nit he got hit by a car and came to the hospital where i work he asked to be brought here b/c he wanted to be with me, I went to the emergency room to be with him and the EMT pulled me to the side and told me that I seemed like a nice girl and he felt compelled to tell me that the guy I was dating had told him that I was his weekday g/f and that he was out w/ his weekend g/f. and that the girl he was w/ (which my b/f claims was just a friend) didn't know how old he was, he apparently told the EMT not to say his age in front of the girl (she was 18 he's 31), I actually talked to the girl and thanked her for coming to the hosp. w/ him. My b/f denies ever doing any of this he swore he NEVER said any of these things but why would the EMT guy lie, I don't know him and he sais he was just trying to look out for me b/c I seemed like a nice person who din't deserve to be w/ a jerk like that, my b/f denies everything, Who should I believe?
2007-10-14 17:30:18 · 12 answers · asked by Danny82 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why would the EMT lie about something like that? I would believe the EMT.
2007-10-14 17:33:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really confusing. Why would your boyfriend asked to go to your hospital if he didn't actually care about you and want to be with you. He'd have to be a complete idiot to bring his other girlfriend to another girlfriends work.
Then again, why would a complete stranger just come up and lie to you and tell you all that stuff. Well what were the injuries? Was he hit in the head or something? I'm not a doctor so you would probably know better then me, seeing that you work at a hospital, but I guess maybe his injury could have effected his thinking...
You have to look at your interaction between the girl and you when you saw her in the hospital and talked to her I guess. How she acted to you. But this guy clearly cares about you a lot and wanted to be with you in a time of need. If he says that he's not with that other girl, you should trust what he says. You'll probably see the EMT guy again since you work in the hospital so you should ask him why he told you that. Also ask you boyfriend what that even could have meant. But if you care about this guy and want it to go anywhere, trust him and move past what a complete stranger said.
If you can't trust him after this, you should probably break up with him seeing how a healthy relationship is built on trust. If the trust isn't there, it's just going to get ugly down the road. Good luck, hope this helps.
2007-10-15 00:54:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
babygirl, you should go with your gut instincts. im thinking why would the EMT tell you something like that? what would be his reason behind lying? you know what im saying? really think about it. because what beneifit would he get behind lying to you about a story like that? did he get a pay raise or something lol? for lying to you? you know? so maybe hes telling the truth and ur bf is telling you a lie. and why did he wind up with an 18 year old? it sounds like this is too much drama and you should tell him if he doesnt tell you the truth about everything he has to hit the road! because you dont want to be in a relationship full of lies. and he might just still lie to you again. you dont need the drama baby! let that zero go! but follow your heart and your gut instincts. i dont see no reason in the EMT for lying to you for no reason. guys lie because he know he got caught red handed and he told you anything for you to beleive and whatever sounds good. good luck!
2007-10-15 00:36:55 · answer #3 · answered by Fit 4 A King 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its kind of odd for a stranger to just step up and say something... but what do you believe? You have to follow your gut feeling on this one. Maybe you could talk to the girl that came to the hospital? She what she says... then go on that. Its all very odd though. I would really sit down and think about it. Your relationship is still young/ new... think it over
~me personally... I would follow what the EMT said..
2007-10-15 00:34:47 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one. I'm inclined to believe the EMT, you're right, why would he lie to you...what would he gain out of it? But your boyfriend has a lot to lose, and a reason to lie. But please know that I've been lied to and cheated on before, so perhaps I'm a little leary now. Good luck!
2007-10-15 00:35:10 · answer #5 · answered by justagirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd believe the EMT guy, ur boyfriends under pressure and in a situation like that of course he's gonna lie
2007-10-15 00:34:55 · answer #6 · answered by Carlos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a complete stranger pulled me aside and told me that, I'd 100% ask him about it.
Remember it's a complete stranger, it's not life its your friend trying to break you up. And they are usually great people, and they were there and everything. But I don't know your boyfriend so I'm really not sure what to do about it.
2007-10-15 00:36:32 · answer #7 · answered by Art 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course he's going to deny it. He sees you as a sure thing just break up with him tell him something like 'at the moment you reallly don't have time for a relationship do to your job that you need to give your job 100%' Wether he beleives you or not that's his problem.
2007-10-15 00:46:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, do random strangers often come up to you and tell you information that isn't true? Why else would he tell you this if it wasn't true? Did he ask for your number or hit on you, or just give you the info? If he just told you and left, he is telling the truth.
2007-10-15 00:35:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation (not identical)with 3kids 8 years of hell because I stayed for the kids.
my advice if you do not have kids involved is...drop him like he's hOt, if not he'll probably try to get you preg to put you in a spot... Run.
2007-10-15 01:11:43 · answer #10 · answered by Now what?O_0...*sigh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋