I understand that my husband works a lot of hours, but I don't think he understands that I do too, just in the home. He will leave crusted on cereal bowls all over the bedroom, coffee cups, clothes thrown all over (I don't know what's clean or dirty) when he shaves he leaves his whiskers in the sink, shoes in the middle of the floor. Is it asking too much for them to atleast pick up after themselves, even if they don't do laundry, dishes, cook or clean!!? My husband has never been this way before & it's getting really annoying! I don't want to sound like his mother or a ***** by telling him to "pick that up" or "put that away," but I don't want him to think he can just take advantage of me like this?
2007-10-14 15:20:03 · 7 answers · asked by ♥bigmamma♥ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
And yes< I'm bored> not just out to complain...
2007-10-14 15:21:12 · update #1
When I tell him, he says "I'll get it later."
2007-10-14 15:42:24 · update #2
The best advice i can give you is............leave it. Wherever he drops it leave it.
I know this is not going to be easy and not the nicest environment to live in but believe me it will work. He will eventually complain about the mess. Tell him to take a look around him and ask him who's mess is it. Then tell him you are not his mother and you don't ask him to clear up your mess. Just make sure you do not leave anything of yours around that he can complain about and that my dear girl is your solution. He will soon get fed up. If he doesn't then I think you should re-think your possition in his life. Wife or dogsbody
2007-10-14 15:54:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
my husband is the same way..I can put the clothes hamper in our bedroom but instead of putting them in the hamper he will lay them in the floor infront of it.I tell my husband I have a child and you are not it i dont have time to pick up after you so if something is dirty put it were it goes so i can clean in. my 3 year old even will put his dirty dishes in the sink a point a bring up to my husband often.
2007-10-15 09:13:28 · answer #2 · answered by Heather B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He must be related to my ex-husband!
We both worked full time and he expected me to do everything around the house. For a while,, we has working 9-5, I was working noon-8, so I'd get up with him and clean before I went to work, he'd get home hours before me, mess the place up, and when I got home he's yell at me that the place was messy!
2007-10-14 15:37:13 · answer #3 · answered by Amy W 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should not be concern by the piles of dirty clothes he leaves behind BUt the DRASTIC change in his behavier , Its a big red flag there something very wrong in your marriage Wake up and see a conseler before its to late , Do not forget you have children in all this to protect and to love
2007-10-14 16:02:18 · answer #4 · answered by lala 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
my husband was that way when I got him, he had been used to this treatment, his mother did all this for him, after a while, I looked at him, he said something about how his mama did for him, I said, then you better go have your mama do it again, I'm getting tired of it, he changed... yes, there is still those behaviors, especially since his accident..... however....
I think you just need to have a good sit down conversation with your husband......
good luck
2007-10-14 15:33:55 · answer #5 · answered by bizzymom38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a part of the room out of your way and throw it in a pile everyday or time you have to pick it up and leave it if you are at home doing your part then he should respect that your not his maid put your foot down go get him honey.
2007-10-14 15:50:20 · answer #6 · answered by maree2007hamill 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell him about it..........
2007-10-14 15:38:07 · answer #7 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋