My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 years.(I know im young being 12 and stuff,but we met on the computer when i was like 9,my friend told me to chat with her and i met him etc)
And like, I get alot of attention, and now he tells me that theres this girl, Not saying her name, and she and him had sex. He's like 13... And he says he drinks...his friend said he didnt but on the phone it sounds like he smoking at the same time.
I love him so much and when i tried to talk to him,he said he was only acting that way because he thought i was cheating.I know im flirty but come on! Atleast I didnt have sex.Well,we made up but he's always playing around and says im cute when im mad.I just dont feel like he's taking me seriously!I cant visit him b/c my grandparents say no.He's usually in North carolina on the weekends.and im in South Carolina.:( I wanna visit him but how should i convince my parents?
I love him so much and how should I prove to him? He says he loves me but... Lies?
2007-10-14 15:18:52 · 17 answers · asked by the kid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I meet him, would he do something bad to me? :( I dont wanna get hurt. But I do love him alot... He said he wants to marry me and he also wants to "Do it". I think he has double personalites... Nice then mean at one moment... Is he playing?
2007-10-14 15:20:58 · update #1
His dad died recently :/ he was a smoker and drunkie too. his mom doesnt really know what he does. He's a "rebel" in his house. you could say that.. so sence his dad isnt around he gets to do what ever he wants...
2007-10-14 15:30:51 · update #2
Sighhh~ and yes he's 13. i've seen a pic :(
2007-10-14 15:33:46 · update #3
You are too young to know what true love is. It's all puppy love when you are only 12.
You have never even met him. He could be a very very bad person (pedophile rapist) for all you know. Sweetie there are lots of creeps on the internet. Be-careful don't even think about meeting him.
2007-10-14 15:22:08 · answer #1 · answered by snowflake311 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to prove anything to someone, JUST TO YOURSELF.
And for your age believe me that is better for you to just enjoy typing and that's it, a guy that drinks and or smokes at 13 is really a person that doesn't care about his own health why he should care about you?, at that age what are you gonna win if he takes you "seriously" are you gonna marry him? have a family?....
Find a real hobby, go make some sport, met people of your age that have a future in their heads instead vices, somebody to share you own dreams, to met people through Internet is not the safest and can not be trusted at all, ALL IS FICTITIOUS... can you really know the truth? no.
What your grandparents are doing is completely correct, you will know when you have 10 years on you, cause you don't know if is a person that could hurt you, don't play with fire, you can get burned.
Please, take care.
2007-10-14 22:39:48 · answer #2 · answered by Dragonheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have never met him in person how do you know he is really 13 this really scares me. He could be some 30 year old you have no idea who he really is. He is telling you that he cheated on you so you will go and meet him. Do not go there is a high chance something might happen to you. You are only 12 let this guy go there will be plenty of others and never let someone pressure you into something you dont want to do.
2007-10-14 22:32:21 · answer #3 · answered by imluvinlife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to all of these fags. I am 13, and I have double personallities. Im a nice, smart kid with a lot of friends, then I am also a 13 year old smoking skater that has had sex ALOT more than a kid my age should have. If you want to be a kid, break up with him. If you want to be a strong woman, stay with him, just ignore his other personallity. If you want to exeriment, just try sex. If you don't like it, tell him you don't want to do it again when he is acting in the personallity you have come to love him for. He will understand. Trust me.
And don't listen to everyone saying that your too young. They were grown up differently. If you choose to have a boyfriend that you would risk your life for, that is love, and THEY aren't even sure what love is. They do not understand what kids have access to these days. When they were kids, it was all just kissing and talking, now it is dates and sex, because nowadays kids do what 'adults' would do in a relationship. They will never get it, so please ignore them.
2007-10-14 22:31:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
omg where do i begin....you never met him, but you love him and he wants you to prove it? How do you know what love is when you haven't experienced life? You are way to young to have bf and my guess with what you said he doesn't consider you much of a girlfriend. No guy will make you prove your love for him. You are way to young to have sex, and way to young to meet someone from the net and then have sex with him. My advice is that this so called relationship isnt' much of one. Find kids (because you are one) that live near you--as in kids you go to school with, on your block. And the fact that he drinks and smokes how does ho go about geting this? Are you sure he is 13?? Don't meet him, in fact move on past him. You don't need a bf--enjoy being 13.
2007-10-14 22:28:21 · answer #5 · answered by lil vamp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly, if you met him on the computer, have you met him in real life? the most dangerous place for young people your age to hang out at is not downtown anywhere. it is on your computer.
make sure he is who he is, before you head out.
but if you have met him in person, think of it this way. if he said he had sex with someone because he thought YOU was cheating on him, it sounds like it is not love. I would never sleep with another if I thought my significant other was suspected of cheating on me.
but you are young. and the word love is used too much today to describe times it is not love.
remember, love is not a term of affection. it is a commitment. and love must be a two way street. one cannot love one and the other not, and make it a match.
I am sorry to say, but if he flat out tells you he is having sex with someone else, drinking or other stuff like that when you are dating: DOES THAT SOUND LIKE LOVE?
remember, just because you love them does not mean that they love you that way. even if you are dating.
but there is only one way to prove love. and that is to love. not sex. not dirty talk. not anything you can think to prove love.
I gave this answer to a similar question on here a while ago. read this:
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves
someone that loves you does not boast about things they have done (sex) they tell the truth. they are not delighted in doing wrong things. they keep not a list of what you have done wrong.
true love is trusting, hopeful, preserving.
I cannot tell you if he loves your, or if you truly love him. just think about what I have said.
good luck.
2007-10-14 22:33:46 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Joshua 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
12? thats a little.. ok WAYYY to young. Your parents r smart to not let you go. He sounds like a bad influence too. STAY AWAY. u cant know what love is when your 12 and have you even ever seen him in person??
2007-10-14 22:25:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right. He IS playing. Since he has already tasted sex, and he wants to "Do it" with you clearly indicates that he is after sex even before he says he loves you.
Drop him like a bomb and run. Don't get into this vertigo called love, it means one thing - Loosing One's Virginity for Ever - that is L O V E for you.
2007-10-14 22:29:10 · answer #8 · answered by Vasanthkumar Mysoremath 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but while I was reading this, I was very scared for you. It seems like this guy is very immature, and way too interested in sex. I know everyone says this, but you are way too young to be in a relationship like that. And if he had sex with another girl while he was with you, thats some big time cheating. To continue this relationship is to disrespect yourself. Please, end it very soon. I know from experience that a relationship like this can only bring lots and lots of pain and regret.
Good luck <3
2007-10-14 22:25:10 · answer #9 · answered by Sideway Sunrise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 13, and not ready for a serious relationship... and if he is smoking and drinking, ask yourself if this is the type of person you would be proud to call a boyfriend?
You and he have become friends, and just accept it.
If you have to PROVE you love someone, it's not worth it. Those we love already know it, without having to prove something.
Concentrate on your friends, activities, school and whatever you like to do. Fixating your entire world on some guy isn't healthy.
2007-10-14 22:24:27 · answer #10 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely wait. Someone better will come along, who will not being into alcohol / smoking, and who won't cheat on you. Take your time, and make him prove that he is worth it for you to share yourself with him.
2007-10-14 22:24:45 · answer #11 · answered by Marc M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋