This summer I was planning on going on a "study abroad" program for a month with my best friend. it goes to different cities in europe. anyways soo, on the phone today she told me that her other really good friend wants to go on the same one with us. ive met her once, she seems nice. anyways im wondering now that were a group of 3 rather then 2 should i still do it? the only thing thats holding me back from signing up is that fact that an odd # might leave someone out, me or her other friend.
should i do it? explain to me what you think :)
THANK YOU!
2007-10-14 15:33:15 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes, i have advice... studying abroad is a good opportunity, and that is what you're going for -- to STUDY.
I'm sure you will meet people once you've gone where ever it is, as well.
worrying about who you're going to hang out with? that's a little odd.
2007-10-14 15:43:03 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! What an opportunity! If you're not married and don't have kids I'd say to take advantage of the blessings life gives you....this seems too amazing to pass up!
I do, however, understand your reservations. May I suggest that you 1. plan a dinner with the two other girls. See how you get along in a social setting. 2. Be open and honest with them about your feelings. Europe isn't 5 minutes from home and feeling left out can be very lonely. 3. EXPECTATIONS should be spelled out if everything else seems to be a go. The three of you should make a loose contract. The reason I say loose is that you may add more wonderful people to this experience. But it should be very clear that one of you is never left anywhere alone even if you're not getting along that day.
As you get older you will find that 3 isn't that tough anymore. It was really tough when you were in middle school, but as you age you find that your different ways almost weave into each other. It's quite fun actually! One is the most quiet, one most amusing....now with cell phones and IPODS and laptops, you can find ways to occupy yourself if you're not in the mood for conversation or need to connect with someone from home.
Please think twice about skipping this opportunity. Check with your family, talk to the girls and make a decision together. I think you could all benefit. Think about bringing a 4th or 5th too!
For what it's worth....I do think your friend should have run this by you first before encouraging anyone else to join in. Could have just been a conversation gone a little too far though in your friends defense.
My good vibes and thoughts are with all of you to make a sound decision and, if you go, have a wonderful safe time and remember...this is what memories are made of!
2007-10-14 22:48:53 · answer #2 · answered by Deanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who said anybody was gonna be left out? Try to include everyone. It's a great opportunity to make another great friend. Just be as nice to the other girl as possible, but don't focus your attention too much on her or your other friend. Good luck! I hope you have fun in Europe! I loved it!
2007-10-14 22:49:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should totally go! It's a really great opportunity! Besides, whoever said that it's going to leave someone out? If it starts leaving someone out, then fix it! You can use this trip to get to know your friend's other friend. Then maybe you three can be best friends. Talk to both of them equally. If they leave you out, tell them calmly how you feel. They'll feel bad and be sure to include you in whatever they do. :)
Hope this helped!
2007-10-14 22:38:18 · answer #4 · answered by splxspl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋